My wife has many male friends who come even for dinner, and i never mind that. But when my wife came to know there is a girl working in my office , she asks about her everynight. this girl with whom I hardly talkhad never called me in my phone not even on friendship day ,my wife in fact received alot of calls from xmale friends and colegues on this day . what is her problem? she is otherwise nice and good to me.
2007-08-07 01:33:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there is no problem I thinks thats how it should be in true relationship it sounds like she love you 100% thats why she is scared of loosing you,take care of her!
2007-08-07 01:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is the jealous type.
Is this behavior normal? Has she done this before?
If so, then its just your wife's personality. If not, then it is a bit peculiar. Something doesn't sit right. While I wouldn't dismiss what one of the user's answered with "she is cheating on you and wondering if you do the same" I wouldn't think there is a high probability of it. I think possibly that she might just be worried or needs some reassurance. Maybe she is just feeling older and becoming intimidated by younger women?
For example, I'm a moderately attractive man and I work with an equal amount of men and women. My girlfriend has NEVER shown signs of jealous or lack of trust in me. If she started to ask a bunch of questions and start to worry then something must have triggered it. It might be age, a dying flame in the relationship (are you still intimate with her?), a decrease in self esteem, depression, or possibly even guilt.
However, if my girlfriend had a history of getting jealous, then I would assume its no problem. It's just her being herself.
So you decide... is this her or is something bothering her? Talk it out... Go to her for the answer.. not here on Yahoo! We can only assume and guess... she's the one with the answer! I'm sure you can get to the bottom of it.
Good luck.
2007-08-07 09:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because her guy-friends probably hit on her, tell her she's pretty, shower her with attention, etc., so she thinks all men are like that and doesn't trust you. Even if she hasn't done anything with any of them, she knows that she has their attention, and she doesn't want you to give that same kind of attention to other women. It's an unfair double-standard. I used to be the same way, until I got married, and I never cheated with any of them. I still have some male friends, but none that hit on me. The only male friends that I ever talk to anymore, I've known since junior high school or earlier, and we've always been friends. My husband still has female friends he's known since he was a kid, and I don't mind them. We have one of them and her husband over, too. I don't think she's physically done anything with any of them, but it could be one of those "emotional" affairs. She likes the attention. Male attention makes women feel young and sexy again, just like men feel when they are checking out and acting all perverted about young, hot women who aren't their wives. I feel that, for both genders, this kind of behavior is a "slippery slope" than can lead to situations dangerous to a marriage. If she were OK with you and female coworkers, I would say no big deal, but that's not the case. People are often suspicious of others because of their knowledge of their own behaviors. Keep that in mind. Best of luck.
2007-08-07 09:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just being silly, I ask my hubby about his hot, blonde coworker from the UK all the time, because I'm afraid he'll cheat on me, err, no I trust him but if I was going to cheat on me I'd do it with her! hahaha. Does that make any sense? When she invites people over you are there, and it is not a sexual thing, but when you go to the office she's not there and you could be doing anything, from her POV anyway. So basically, she loves you and doesn't want you to leave- and maybe is a little insecure.
2007-08-07 08:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by hmm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is insecure. I am the same I can be friends with men because I know that I won't touch them but I am always worried some skinny pretty girl is going to come along and steal away my man. Its ridiculous because he isn't like that (so don't take offense) but I am just insecure about myself and don't feel that I am good enough to keep his attention forever. She could just be like me : ) Just tell her how much you love her and don't mention the office girl, make your wife feel really special.
2007-08-07 08:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by SmEllY! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear or guilt are my first two idea's. However ever it could be just plain insecurity. Most women doubt that a man in completely capable of just being a FRIEND with women. Maybe due to this woman in the workplace she doesn't know how you will react to her constant presence. Just talk to her about it. Presenting the subject reasonably.
2007-08-07 08:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Learning2livelife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's very insecure and jealous seems she has alto of problems with the ladies at your place of work, maybe she like this lady, stranger things have happened.
2007-08-07 08:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to let you have friends too. There are issues in the marriage when it comes to her. Try talking to someone. Her insecurities will only get worse and the marriage will be doomed.
2007-08-07 08:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by Mel R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
women will be women know matter what it does not matter how many guy friend she may have there is a girl at your job and your wife wants and needs to know all about her . women are crazy like that
2007-08-07 08:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by ricky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really simple. She does not trust you.
2007-08-07 08:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by Cantor2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋