help! problem with my father and husband.?

Question

my father borrowed $300 from my husband to pay for a car. it recently broke down and my parents sold it for scrap. my husband is very upset because it has been several months since they borrowed the money and they haven't even attempted to pay any of it back and now they have sold the car without even telling him. i understand why he is upset but, how do i keep from being caught in the middle about this and how do i tell my family without sounded like a witch?

Answer 1

What your dad did was sort of childish......... borrowing money and seeming to have no intention of paying it back. Your husband needs to let that money go, at least in his own mind, as it would appear that your dad isn't going to man up and pay him back. In the future, if and when your dad calls again for a loan, you would do well the remind your husband that your dad isn't one to pay back a loan.

You might mention it to your mom... that your dad owes your husband the money. Sorta causually mention it to her... see what her reaction is. But other than that........ and I am assuming your husband didn't make your dad sign for the money or give him a pay back plan...... there isn't a lot you can do.

Answer 2

You ask your father when he'll be able to pay the money back. If he doesn't give you a clear answer, you tell your husband never to loan this man money again. Offer to pay off the debt yourself, as well. Most likely, your husband won't want your money. It does, however, take him off the hook, if your parents need money again. You should let your husband know you understand how he feels. And what is this thing about sounding like a witch? It makes no sense. Your father borrowed money from your husband and hasn't made any effort to pay it back. You should be as bothered by this as your husband is.

Answer 3

Tell your husband not to be so upset. If your parents had to borrow $300 to buy a car.. it is likely they are in desperate straits financially and probably won't be able to pay it back. Appeal to his kindness with gentle consideration. Eventually he will get over it. And while we are at it.. it would probably be a good idea to find ways if possible to ease your parents way as they get older. Think about the problems you know they have.. financial, health, etc. .. and find creative ways to help ease their way.

I helped my parents by getting a part time job without telling anyone and paid for some car repairs they needed as well as some repairs to their home. From time to time parents need help, just as we all needed food and shelter and clothing when we were all tiny helpless beings. I have no idea how your husbands parents were to him when he was small..but surely he loved them and would help them.

God bless all of you.

Answer 4

I've found throughout life that you never loan money to family or friends; if you want to help, give them the money! All that will ever come out of this is grief unless you can convince hubby to just let it go.......except the fact that it's family, you helped them out, and move on! Be thankful it was only $300 and not $3000........and who knows maby your father will return the favor one day! Good Luck!

Answer 5

If you don't want to be caught in the middle then pay your husband back yourself (assuming you can). If not then you either have to talk to your father about paying your husband back, in which case you will get caught in the middle but I'm sure you all can discuss this like grown adults.

Answer 6

Never loan money between family. Never loan money. When somebody needs something I just give it or I do nothing at or all. I won't get it back anyway and it's not worth the grief. It's a lousy three hundred and look.

Answer 7

Convince your parents to pay him if not at once then in parts. Also try to calm your hubby because he is on the right side. Your first preference here should be your husband.

Answer 8

Age 16 considered boy or man?

Answer 9

What makes a guy a bad boy ?

Answer 10

if u can pay yr husband the 300$ go ahead and do it