too choose between him and your kids are grandkids? but when he meet you he knew you had kids and grandkids.now it is too much for him are he just wants out..
2007-08-07 02:02:06 · 19 answers · asked by lisa b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd open the door and let him out.
2007-08-07 02:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by tan0301 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd chose the children and grandkids. He knew you were a package deal from the start. If he accepted it then he should still accept it now. Blood is always thicker than water. You have been their mother and grandmother longer than his wife. Common sense where is your loyalty at?
2007-08-07 02:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answers are unhealthy thus far.
Blood is NOT thicker than your vows before men, God and each other.
First of all, your marriage and spouse are far more important than any relationship. YOU knew this when you married him:
"Forsaking ALL OTHERS..." It is a shame that so many spouses are still attached to their families and friends, their kids or grandkids, and former lives, even after marriage. This is a blatant disregard to marriage and their own word.
But.. in your situation, it is not a black and white issue. There are many ways to "resolve" the matter. Counseling, learning to communicate with each other and negotiating, coming to an agreeable comprise, etc.
But! FIRST you must resolve who your vow is to. Not your family, not your kids, or grandkids. It's to him: first. Others, second. Then, and only then will you have enough focus to resolve "with" your husband your issues.
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2007-08-07 02:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
my kids would win that battle any day! he knew what he was getting into before hand and if he wants out that is his loss. i certainly would not give up my kids or grandkids(if i had any) for anyone in this world.
2007-08-07 03:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by wannabhppy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can easily find a man who will love BOTH you and your kids/grand kids and not ever have to choose between either. It is wrong for him to put you through even making that decision. You deserve the best of both worlds, do not let him destroy that.
2007-08-07 02:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can always find another man which you can't do with kids and grandkids.
2007-08-07 02:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is an easy one.....tell your husband to take a flying leap off a very short pier!!!! Your kids and grandchildren come first and if he really loved you, then he would never ask you to choose between him and them. He is a jerk for asking you to do so! Get rid of him and love those grandbabies!
2007-08-07 02:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing should come between you and your kids and grandkids. Tell him sorry and buh bye.
2007-08-07 02:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by orphan annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood is thicker than water, and if he tries to come between your kids, grandkids, and you, then he needs to go!
2007-08-07 02:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This happened to me and I am now happily divorced from him. When his youngest turned 18 and I still had a much younger child - he said he couldn't be with anyone who still had a school age child. Too much for him and he wants out? He knew you had this in your life. Let him go and be done with him. Go it alone or hopefully (I truly hope this for you) that you find someone who has children and grandchildren and you can share them all together. BEST OF LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-07 02:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by Chloegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any person who asks you to choose between them and someone else is the loser!! If he wants out, open the door and push!
2007-08-07 02:20:41 · answer #11 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋