I'm 13. me and my bf have been going out 4 2 months. he asked me to get engaged wit? i said yes was that OK!?

Question

we have been together for 2 months.
we love each other with all our hearts.
his mom knows but mine doesn't.
i'm scared to tell my mom.
he has the ring.
we are seeing each other this friday.
he is giving me the ring friday.

Answer 1

Look Juliet, Romeo has no Idea what's going on. He was probably watching so romantic thing on TV and thought it would be cool to emulate that with his girlfriend. Right now being engaged should be the last thing on your mind.

What kind of a ring could a 13 ye old possibly give a woman? If you accept his ring pop make sure you don't eat all in the 5 years it will take you to get leagaly married.

You 2 are kids. At 13 you have no idea what love really is and what the the world is all about.

Answer 2

Honestly don't get engaged/married now.. This doesnt mean you cant b together..u guys can go out and stuff but dont get married now! Whats the use of rushing into marriage now, you have your whole life ahead of you..You are young, be a child and have fun! Seriously dont get married, but u can still stay friends with him and see if you feel the same way about him in a couple of years. You really never know what could happen. Getting married will affect your whole life. 2 months is too early, and 13 years is way too young for you to make such a huge decision. Dont get married but, Stay friends with him, you can always get married later!

Answer 3

What do you want to be when you get older? Are you interested in going to college? Did you ever want to be something like a veterinarian? A doctor?

Why is he pushing to get engaged to you after only 2 months? Is he trying to get you to have sex with him? Pushing for a serious commitment after only a very short period of time is one of the clear signs of someone who is controlling and abusive.

I'm sure you love him very much, with all your heart, but you need to look past the next week and see what the next 10 years might bring. What will you miss if you get pregnant? You want to be staying home and watching your baby instead of going to your prom?

There is too much life ahead of you to make a decision like this right now. People change a great deal not just in High School but well into their 20's, what with College and entering the work force and all. You don't even know who you will become in the next 6 months, much less the next 4 years and beyond.

Take some time to think about these kinds of things. That you are excited is normal, that you are nervous is wise. Listen to that little voice of caution.

Answer 4

You're not going to want to hear this, but there are so many couples that get divorced because they married before they were ready to be committed. Marriage is not something to take lightly. If you are truly serious about this, ask yourself these questions:
1. Am I ready to spend the rest of my life with this guy? (That could mean 80 years!)
2. How will we support ourselves? (You are still in junior high. People can't even work until they are at least 15.)
3. Am I ready to have a baby and take care of it?
4. Where will we live?
You say you are afraid to tell your mom. I think you should tell her. This is really serious. I know that you are in a hurry to grow up, but you should really rethink this. You are only young once, If you get married, you will miss everything that a normal teenager goes through, like prom and graduation and senior trips. I hope that whoever you talk to gives you good advice.

Answer 5

I'm answering this mostly to track all the other replies.

But I have to real (cruel).

Nice that you're 'engaged'...but you've been going out, for what, 8 weeks? Considering you can't legally get married for several more years, how are you going to manage a long engagement? Where are you going to live - oh, yeah, with HIS mom....

Sorry, but if you're afraid to tell your mom, you're too young to be engaged. Wearing a Promise Ring might be a better idea until the two of you mature a little bit more. It's nice when you find someone so young, but you need to be a bit more grownup (as well as your future mother in law, though I'm thinking she's thinking 'aw, this is SO cute! Puppy Love!!!')

Answer 6

what! are you serious? sorry sweetheart, but you dont know the first thing about love and marriage. you are only 13. That is really rushing things. Try dating for a few years, and when your like 19 or 20 and still feel the same way, the marry him. Even though you cant be married for another 5 years anyway, you should still calm down some. Middle school relationships rarely last beyond 2-4 months.

Answer 7

Are you kidding me? Engaged at 13? Honey, you are WAY too young to be thinking about marriage, or even a serious committment like that. Think of it this way - you can't even get married until you're 18 - that is 5 years from now. You have no idea what may happen to your heart and mind in 5 years. You need to grow, and become a teenager, and then a woman. You have many many years of growing up to do before you are going to be able to make a decision this big - think about it - are you really ready to make a decision that is going to impact you for the next 60-70 years? That's a really long time. Think about it. You need to learn who you are and learn to be yourself before you are ready to marry someone else. That takes time, and this is what these years of your life are for. Enjoy them, and be young while you still can.

Answer 8

I'm glad to hear that you are so in love. Young love is great. As long as you guys just have a long engagement (5 years or so until you are 18) and wait until marriage before doing anything more than kissing, hugging, holding hands, etc. there isn't anything wrong with being engaged yet. I have a cousin who is in his 30's still happily married to a woman whom he was "dating" since he was 12.

That being said, in all honesty most relationships that occur at this young age don't end in marriage. When I was in junior high, I had a few friends who were engaged and then broke up a couple months later. However, I'm not sure what your situation is and it's possible that you have already found your soul mate. Please just be careful that he didn't propose marriage in order to "get something from you." Good luck to you!

Answer 9

You are 13, How can you be sure what is love? 2 months is not a very long time to get to know someone. If you really think that you are in love you should give this some more time. See if your boyfriend sticks around. This is not a very wise decision to make at this age. You have just begun to live life

Answer 10

While this may be THE relationship of your lifetime, you at 13 are still too young to know that. You are both going to go through lots of changes by the time you are old enough to get married. That won't be for another 10 years, at least. It's OK to have a boyfriend and go out, and even love each other with all your hearts. But, just know that it may, or may not be forever.