Would you raise the baby as your own?

Question

If you knew your wife, who is openly cheating on you . Ended up getting pregnant with the other guys baby.
Now she is telling me to tell others its ours.
Look I know I will love it like my own , its just that she cheats and I put up with it. Now I am supposed to act happy about this too.?

Answer 1

Get some self-respect, grow a set, and dump the broad! What is wrong with you? Ever hear of DIVORCE??!!
Find a woman who will love you and want to have YOUR babies!

Answer 2

If I were a man no. As it is I am a married woman and if he cheated. And got the other woman pregnant. I wouldn't tolerate that. I would divorce him. Or stay and use him. Money wise. Women like that don't change. I bet the other guy isn't worth it. Or doesn't want to take responsibility for the child. So she has no other choice but to convince you to accept this. If I cheated. And got pregnant by the other guy. He is not good father material. I would do what she is doing. Not for my sake but for the child's. And that is my honest answer. She is using you. It's not that she loves you or cares for you. She is just doing what is more convenient for her. I once separated from my child's father. She was under 2 at the time. Once I saw what hard work it was. To be a single mom. I lied my way back into his life. I made all the promises I thought he wanted to hear. Years later here I am. Unhappily married. But I got what I wanted. For him to be the one working while I raise the child. I had promised not to argue that I would get a job and help out. I said yes to everything. Then did as he and didn't keep my promises.

Answer 3

Wow. Tough one. So you need to ask yourself, do you still love this girl? Can you be happy with her? Can you ever trust her again? And when you find the answer to those questions, think about what would be best for you. Are you ready to be a father? Is that something you could handle?

Obviously you and your wife have your share of problems, but who doesn't? The bottom line is you need to find out for yourself if you can ever trust her again. If you two can work through your problems, then be a big man and raise the baby as your own. I'm not saying lie to the kid or to other people, but there is a differance between a father and a dad. You could be a dad to this baby.

Answer 4

Now is the time to put your foot down! Do not allow her to make a fool out of you any longer. Stand up and be a man. Remind her that this is her mistake and that you are willing to accept the child only if she stops her cheating ways. It is time for her to make some adult decision about you guys future as a family. It is not all about her anymore. If she does not agree with your decision, I suggest that you move on. It is not worth the headache. There are not many guys out here that would take the initiative and do what she is asking you to do. She definitely does not appreciate you. And I truly believe that she has bumped her head. Good luck!

Answer 5

Putting up with your wife's cheating is one thing, NOW there's someone else involved ...the child! It is crucial that you do the right thing because there will be no going back. If you raise this child as your own, you cant just get mad one day and decide to divorce your wife for being unfaithful and let all the dirty laundry out, that would devastate the child to find out that way. The only way you should stick around and raise this child is if for some reason you are content to put up with your wife's behavior 4-ever....Good luck!

Answer 6

I wouldn't think you should act happy about it at all. The fact of the matter is she openly cheats and you put up with it. It's up to you what you tell others about the baby. Chances are since she openly cheats that everyone else is going to speculate regardless of what you say. I see you realise it's not the baby's fault. I guess the question you should ask yourself is how many more baby's are you willing to raise that's not yours?

Answer 7

First of all, you guys need to get professional counseling ... and quickly..

If you are going to stay with her then you are also choosing to be a father to this child. If you want to verify whose child it is then have a paternity test done. That way there is no question about it.

The most important thing to remember is that this baby is innocent in all of this and deserves to have the best life possible. If you stay in this marriage then treat this precious life as if it was your child because as I said the child is innocent.

Counseling is essential to deal with the marriage problems. She has got to stop the cheating. She must prove that she is willing to committing too your marriage and uphold the vows she took when she entered into this sacred contract. If she can't do that then you need to consider other options, my friend.

Good luck!

Carol

Answer 8

I would tell her to give it up or raise it without me.

She would be welcome to collect support from the biological father as well.

If you can look at that child each day and not be reminded of the screwing she got from him but gave to you, you are a more forgiving man than I.
I'm sure I could learn to love any child. I am also sure that I cannot deal with the daily reminder that my wife was a cheat.

Answer 9

You best be steppin G. That ho aint no good. She be all out wif oder doods. You get stuck kicken it wif the kid. Now you all like cryin and stuff. You better be a man and kick da baby and her to the curb. Whea da babies daddy at? Find a new honey that will appreciate you for the man you iz.

Peace.

Answer 10

Why are you staying with an adulterer?

Consider, while it is noble for you to have mercy on this poor unborn child, if you allow her to tell everyone it's yours, you will be the one stuck paying child support when she leaves you for someone else.

The father is responsible for paying child support for that baby. You can raise the baby in your home but the father is still responsible. If I were you I'd talk to a lawyer post haste.