My husband and I have been separated for the past 18 months and we have a 3 years old son. I want to have my family back but my husband doesn't want it. I feel he no longer loves me and has totally moved on but neither of us finalizes the divorce. What can I do to make him love me again?
2007-08-07 10:53:46 · 19 answers · asked by mona 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sure you have heard you can't make him love you...but what you can do is make him want you and that will develop into love...I would recommend for you to move on and believe in yourself. Get another man in your life and spend time with him also spend time on yourself like getting into great shape and taking life into your hands like a good paying job showing him you do not need him...this will trigger the want men do not like women to pursue and men go crazy over confident successful women. hope this gets u going in the right direction
2007-08-07 11:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by George T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Well you should know this by now.
.You CANNOT make someone love you or like you.
.Obviously if you're separated and it's been 18months then that's a pretty sure sign that he's not going to come crawling back anytime soon. Just because he hasn't finalized the divorce doesn't mean that he wants to get back together with you either. Maybe he's been doing other things and he's not had time to do all the paperwork etc. to get it done and over with. It could be a number of reasons why.
.In any case, I suppose for your own piece of mind you could try and plead your case and talk to him again and attempt to get your family back together as it was before. But don't be shocked if you find out he is unwilling, and if that's the case I think it's in both of your best interests to get that divorce done and over with.
.You can't keep going in circles with him and your emotions...it's not healthy for you or your child. So go ahead and attempt to mend your marriage, but be wise not to use too much wishful thinking that it's going to work out again.
**Also if something happened between you two and you caused him to completely lose all faith and trust in you (for whatever reasons)...that alone could have just snapped your life line with him. I mean everyone has their breaking points before they snap...and if you piss someone off enough or do something to hurt them physically/emotionally, then that could potentially determine your fate with that person. So keep that in mind, and since you didn't tell us how come you two separated that makes it a little hard for anyone to give more in depth advice too.*
.Good luck.
2007-08-07 11:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sit here and say that there is no hope and I'm not. Did you ever notice if you are confident in yourself and are happy with yourself it is attractive. be nice to him but not too nice, maybe try to make him jealous a little by being happy and showing him you don't need him and you may be surprised by the results. You are all that and then some remember that.
Also remember not to try so hard to make him happy all the time think about yourself once in a while and make you happy first . Because it sounds like he went on to make himself happy and didn't worry abour others.
Good Luck to you. Only good can come from it >>>
2007-08-07 11:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by cruisingalong 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is dragging his feet on the divorce. Is he paying you any child support yet? That might be one reason. Whatever it is, dear, the marriage is virtually over and you must move ahead to get the divorce finalized. You will feel a lot better about it, and it will give your husband visitation rights.
2007-08-07 10:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone else love you. But - right now you are in limbo, being separated but not divorced.
Take some time to see a counselor on how you can best move on.
2007-08-07 10:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say but it looks like he will only be a father figure for your son and not a husband to you. Hes moved on. You cant MAKE him love you again if hes already moved on. Im so sorry. I hope things work out for your sons sake.
2007-08-07 11:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by courtney b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 10:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by rosalind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... im in the same situation, i'm the husband that left... from my point of view there isnt anything you can do, its been 18 months im pretty sure he's not coming back, n promising him anything he wants wont help, he will just use you for that n i will make the hurt worse
2007-08-07 10:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by antoinio i 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone love you, but I think if you move on or at least make him think that you have moved on he may take intrest again. Most of us want what we can't have. I would be his friend and date others and see what happens.
2007-08-07 11:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. I don't think that there is much hope here, sorry. Pray. And then move on and find someone who will be crazy about you. Learn from this experience. I am so sorry that you are having to go thru this!
2007-08-07 10:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by Tom T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋