Marriage & Divorce - 6 July 2007

I feel like my husband is getting bored and to tell you the truth so am I!

2007-07-06 08:38:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm married already for 3 years it's unbelievable that we have 25 years age difference,i'm 24,i'm happy, so why my friends think that this is not possible, do u believe in such relationship?
PS: we have 2 year old daughter.

2007-07-06 08:35:59 · 16 answers · asked by naterashley 1

I would like to know if I am in an abusive relationship. Is it something I'm doing? What should I do?

1) My Wife (Girlfriend at the time) thought I was cheating on her, so she slapped me in my face, spit in face, and cut my shirt off with a knife.
2) My brother committed suicide some time ago. When my wife got mad at me she put a bag over her head and said "maybe I should kill myself like your brother did"
3) She regularly says I'm gay, mother f-er, not manly, etc. whenever we argue. These would just be regular disagreements, but she escalates them with this type of behavior. She explodes on me and then blames me for it.

I don't know what I should do. I tried to get her to go to couples counseling, but she stopped going after the counselor wanted to work on her anger. She refuses to go back. I will not live like this. This is normal behavior in her family. They actually laugh at this type of communication. I was not raised this way. What should I do?

2007-07-06 08:35:07 · 66 answers · asked by Jonny M123 1

My friend just asked for a divorce. His spouse immediately cleaned out their joint accounts! What should be taken care of right away? (i.e. other accounts, creditors) He is filing divorce papers in in three days.

2007-07-06 08:33:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I only found out last month ongoing affairs have been happening for 10 years on and off ( one SERIOUS one ended last month). We are trying to work things out (not sure what that means yet) but we are still affectionate and attracted to each other sexually. Apparently conversation and common OTHER interest are where I fell short. But sex is the odvious payoff for meeting someone's other needs. When I'm with her now, how do I get the faces (who I have unsuspectedly met and hung out with with her), names and images of her actions out of my mind so I can try to be with her and start over?

2007-07-06 08:31:46 · 42 answers · asked by betrayedX 1

I have been married to my husband for 3 1/2 years. For the past year things just keep getting worse. I dread going home. He is so annoying and just plain stupid. We don't agree on anything. He is such a negetive, self-centered person. I had feel down and severly injured my knee. He begged me to make love to him and when I refused because I was in so much pain he got so angry and starting yelling and screaming. Just looking at him makes me want to throw-up. He's not a bad looking person he just totally disappoints me. My friends all tell me to stay with him because he provides for me and our son, but I want more in life thatn just someone to provide. I want someone that I love and feel connected to. What do I do? Can I make my marriage work?

2007-07-06 08:31:26 · 22 answers · asked by ???EM???? 2

Is there a cheaters club I can join !

2007-07-06 08:27:47 · 36 answers · asked by wishingstar5555 3

my dad and my stepmom are getting a divorce. they have been married for 7 years, and have no children together. My dad has 3 kids of his own from his previous marriage and he makes a good living. My stepmother used to work at a low income job (didnt contribute much to the household) but later quit and now has no job. How much of my dad's money will my stepmom walk away with (percentage)?????

2007-07-06 08:27:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

ALL THE TIME I read about women complaining about their husbands looking at porn. Yet these are the SAME women who think that sex for 10-15 minutes every other month should be enough to satisfy their husbands! THEN....in your answers you insist that if your husbands really want more sex from you then they should do more to help you with housework, help more with the kids, buy you flowers, buy you jewelry, take you to expensive dinners, or wisk you away on weekend vacations! All this ON TOP OF working to pay the mortgage, the bills, the groceries, school clothes, video games, I-phones, and your hair & nails! AND ALL WITH A SMILE!

Since when did a little loving from our wives become such a friggin hassle? What's wrong with an orgasm or two or three for you and one for us at the end? And since when did taking things into our own hands instead of CHEATING ON YOU become such a crime? Like we don't know you have a vibrator in your night stand!!!!

2007-07-06 08:25:23 · 17 answers · asked by ? 3

So, I'm getting married this Oct. to the best man I've ever met. Honest, kind, sincere, loving...opens doors for me, flowers every other week, provider, etc. It was almost hard to settle with him because I'm the girl that goes for the challenge and he's so wonderful. But, I wisened up and told myself I was stupid to let him go and it's actually a good thing to not have to be worried about the security of our relationship.
My question is, I have this one relationship in my past that was filled with drama and pain, but was so passionate and deep. We never actually got the chance of a full fledged relationship because there were too many things in our way. If we were together, we would have caused pain in other people's lives and everytime we tried it, it was just too much work, but it wasn't because we didn't love each other intensely. Is it common to have that ONE relationship in your past that still weighs on you...even when you're marrying someone else?

2007-07-06 08:21:15 · 36 answers · asked by Michelle 4

My husband has an office in a little town same city where my sister in law live, and after cheating, she filled for divorce and she is fighting to obtain full custody of two children and for alimony, now she left once my nephews at my office without notice, she doesn't talk to me for years, but she is trying to use my office as a childcare with no consent of our part, that way she can go out with the new boyfriend, should I go to police or social services, what can I do?

2007-07-06 08:20:15 · 7 answers · asked by olivia 1

We live together and although he has paid the first month's rent, he's not very concerned about how he will help me pay rent in the future. I just graduated from college and am working 3 jobs to pay the bills until grad school and since he hasn't graduated yet, he's taking classes still, but doesn't have a job and doesn't seem to be concerned about it. What do I do??!!!

2007-07-06 08:14:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married to the same woman twice and both times ended in divorce but I still love her but she doesn't feel the same about me. I also want to do what is right in God's eyes

2007-07-06 08:11:08 · 15 answers · asked by royg5508 2

I used to be very sexual. Then I got married. Now it's boring. I like porn more than the average girl, and I like to see girls getting treated badly. I don't get to watch it anymore because I like to watch alone. Do you think this is why i have no drive?

2007-07-06 08:07:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My x received custody because his wife's sister has brainwashed my daughter not to want to be with me. She convinced my daughter that she would be the perfect Mother for her and because she is always and my x's house she constantly gives her everything so she will want to be with her. She has convinced my daughter that we do not love her and now my daughter worships her. My x is never there so the sister in law rules the house. How do I get her away from my daughter. How do I keep her from turning my daughter against me. My daughter say's she is her hero because she keeps all her secrets..What can I do??????

2007-07-06 08:05:42 · 10 answers · asked by Sad Mother 1

It is nearly my 33rd Birthday and I am feeling down in the dumps cause I am still very lonely and need a partner in my life.

2007-07-06 07:59:49 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

well my husband was talking to his ex and he told her thar he misses her and still is in love with her. on that same conversation he told her that he wanted to leave me cuz hes tired of me going through hes stuff. i approached him and he said it was true but he just said that to see what she would tell him back. i tried leaving him and he cried and begged me not leave him. so im so confused...

2007-07-06 07:59:38 · 22 answers · asked by Luv4ever 1

It's my partners birthday tomorrow, I took him to Tunisia for a weeks holiday. 5 star the lot right, so then when we returned the other day, I took the money what it cost for the holiday from our joint account and put it back in my account..... do you think I ripped him off....... (He never had no money in the joint account to pay for holiday, then his wages went in whilst we were away) So I took it back. I don't feel I mugged him off!! Your opinions please.

2007-07-06 07:57:17 · 35 answers · asked by Rachellie 3

2007-07-06 07:49:25 · 12 answers · asked by nikki 1

I was with my ex for about 3 years and since he wanted to drink and come home late and tell me he dont love me anymore I left him. we have 2 daughters together. we have been separated for about 1 year now and of course I have found someone that is everything that my ex was not he is perfect, he loves my daughters and me, but I dont love him as much as i love my babies father i tried to have a feeling like that for my man but it is just not there. Well my ex calls me everyonce in a while to see how the kids are, he is a good man he sends me money for the babies. But he has been telling me he wants a family again and as much as I love him I would love to do so but im not quite sure if its going to be the same as it was before or better, he tells me he loves me and he cries all the time he says he has changed and he misses me. What do I do? and if i go back with my ex how do i tell the other guy i have been seeing for a while now that I dont love him without hurting his feelings?

2007-07-06 07:40:54 · 19 answers · asked by brighteyes 1

The father of my two children and I live in different states. The children never see him (his choice) and they only hear from him when he has time. The amount of child support is very LOW...I need suggestions on how to increase the amount. I understand the cost will be huge, any suggestions on how to keep costs to a minimum will be appreciated.

2007-07-06 07:26:35 · 12 answers · asked by bettybooper 1

My daughter's first name is not what I wanted in the first place. Her stepfather and I were married when she was born and the name was his input. We live in NC and now that she is 16 we want to change it. Any suggestions or info on how/where to start the process? Thanks

2007-07-06 07:23:35 · 10 answers · asked by bettybooper 1

Brad's ex wife has a key to our home and never knocks on the door. She always walks right in. If the kids are with her or not. If the children are with her, I could understand. She takes showers in our home because all she has is a tub and she hates the tub. She still has clothing hanging in our home because she found a house that does not have much closet space. Everyhting in our garage is half hers. Therefore, I cannot freely go out there and get anything.

Brad does not understand this at all. He says that I am not trusting enough. That we have a peaceful relationship and I should not rock the boat. I try to explain that their is a difference between peace and privacy. I do not want ot cause trouble with his ex. I like the peace. I just do not want her to have free run of our home.

Am I being unrealistic?

2007-07-06 07:16:02 · 21 answers · asked by just me 2

My husband and I argue a lot but not excessively. It doesn't bother me enough that I think we should see a counselor, but what can we do to sort out our differences when we fight? We fight about random things.

2007-07-06 07:14:58 · 14 answers · asked by O->--< 3

He always has mean things to say. He treats me like I'm trash. Talks to me with no respect. I don't understand. We were together for 5 years, he left and now has a new girlfriend. Anything I say, he comes back at me with a nasty attitude. Since the break up he hasn't really been there for his son. He never spends a day alone with his son anymore, his girl is always around and our son is so confused. I told him I thought it was to early for our son to be around someone new. He just got mad and says he doesn't care. Anytime he is around me and our son he is mean and hateful to me. Is there away of avoiding all of that bs. I'm almost 7 months pregnant and I can't deal with the pain he causes. It is hurting me and our son and I want to know when he will sop all of this?

2007-07-06 07:13:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-06 07:11:02 · 20 answers · asked by David L 1

2007-07-06 07:09:49 · 4 answers · asked by Lickme1 1

My fiance and I have been together for 11 years and have 2 kids. Last year I found out that she was cheating, which she denied. We have a lot of history. She has suspected me of messing around when we broke up in '98, but I haven't since, until she went to Florida with the guy in March. I tried to break it off then, go on with my life. She saw that and professed her love and desire to marry me, so I forgave the last year and said ok. We were s'possed to get married last week but she called it off. We had a lot of unresolved issues that needed to be aired (2 abortions we never discussed, distrust, lying, etc.)We had a heart to heart and she told me everything she's done and I did the same. We have 2 kids and she is unemployed, so I support everything. I have a masters and she hasn't completed school, so she feel inadequate. She says she sometimes wants to be with me, sometimes wants to be with him. She still talks to the guy. I really want to get married and move forward, but can I ever

2007-07-06 06:58:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

When our family was together for 4th of July weekend, we discussed the relationship between divorce and family size. Everyone agreed that all the marriages we know of that resulted in five or more children are still going strong; whereas, half of our friends and family who opted for no kids, or intentionally limited themselves to having 2 or 3 children, have gone through at least one divorce. I said, “one of the best ways to safeguard a marriage seems to be having as many children as possible.” My wife and daughters chastised me for being ‘sexist’ as soon as the words passed my lips. Am I sexist for believing that having a big family helps a marriage?

2007-07-06 06:55:47 · 28 answers · asked by Sultan 4

and now he is made at me cause i got mad at him and now he want talk to me what do u think i should do i told him i was leaving we have two kids , and he dont seem to care??

2007-07-06 06:47:33 · 25 answers · asked by ashlmb 1