It's my partners birthday tomorrow, I took him to Tunisia for a weeks holiday. 5 star the lot right, so then when we returned the other day, I took the money what it cost for the holiday from our joint account and put it back in my account..... do you think I ripped him off....... (He never had no money in the joint account to pay for holiday, then his wages went in whilst we were away) So I took it back. I don't feel I mugged him off!! Your opinions please.
2007-07-06 07:57:17 · 35 answers · asked by Rachellie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh yeah, i forgot i also brought him, jeans, jean paul gautier aftershave, tops, trousers, chocolates (expensive type) And a holiday to Tunisia. Help. xx
2007-07-06 07:59:00 · update #1
Thank you. I love these answers. Wendy it was a week, not a weekend. I did rip him off, I know i did, its what we do to each other you see, we share everything. Whats mine is his and whats his is mine. Thanks for the answers we both laughed. Were doing it again next month!!!!!
2007-07-06 08:08:37 · update #2
I dont think he should feel you ripped him off, i think he should be grateful, and thank full he has you as a girlfriend..........................
2007-07-06 08:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you took the entire amount that the entire trip cost and put it back into your private account? Yeah, I'd me mad about that too.
Why take it out of the joint account and put it all into yours? At the most, why not take 1/2 of the amount and put it in yours to cover the cost of 1/2 for them?
LOL...Wow, YOU took HIM on a trip and then took the money back when you returned. How much of the money in the joint account was from your paycheck? If it was none of it, then you took someone on a trip and made them pay it sounds like.
And all the stuff you bought for him, did you take the money out for that too? If so, then you didn't buy him anything.
You didn't do anything for your partner for his birthday other than plan. Did you ask first?
2007-07-06 08:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a pretty simple question- if your name is on the joint account, why did you feel the need to take the money out and put it where only you have access to? Did you discuss with him that you were going to take the money back, or did he think that the holiday and gifts were actually just that- gifts? If he was under the impression that it was a gift, I feel like he has a right to be angry, especially if only his wages go in the account.
2007-07-06 08:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by GiGi! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't say that you "took him on a weeks holiday" if you took the money back. That would be more like you "went on a weeks holiday together". While I'm not sure if "ripped off" is a phrase I would use when talking about it with my girl, I wouldn't feel right about at all. At least if she didn't tell me that she was going to do that before we went on the trip. If you made him aware of it ahead of time, he may have chosen not to go. Perhaps he was really counting on his wages when he returned. I think you should have discussed it with him first.
2007-07-06 08:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sort of did rip him off. It was supposed to be GIFT to take him on this trip right. How can you ask for payment from the person you gave the gift to?? By the way, does he not have any money in the joint account because he is always paying bills, entertainment etc???
2007-07-06 08:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by Scooter Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the trip were intended to be a gift, and any of the money you took from the joint account was his, it does seem like he paid for his own trip, or at least part of it. If he didn't know beforehand that his money would be going towards the trip, I don't think it's right that you take his money.
2007-07-06 08:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may feel that buying someone a birthday present would have come from your own money and not the joint account. It may not feel genuine. Imagine if he bought himself a really nice expensive Gibson guitar and he took the money from the joint account
2007-07-06 09:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by mars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you ripped him off, this was a gift from you not a gift from him self. What if every time he bought you something but took the money out of the joint account and put it in his account, is that really a gift from him? No!
2007-07-06 08:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! Not if it's a joint account.
In my opinion, you should NEVER have a joint account with a person unless you are married and legally bound to that person.
Even HB and I have joint accounts, but we also have two different banks. I have my primary bank and he has his. They are joint in case funds are needed, but are rarely used.
It sounds like he is being selfish and ungreatful.
I definately would have discussed returning the money to my personal account first before just doing it or maybe just have taken half. Anything taken out of the joint account should be a joint decision. Who was this trip really for you or him?
2007-07-06 08:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by bayoubelle24 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well... did you borrow the money from the join account and then return it? Or did you use the money in your sccount to pay for the trip, and then pay yourself back for it from the joint account. If you did the later of the two... then yes, he should feel ripped off. It was his birthday. It was your gift to him... it cost money. Your money. Not his money... that negates the giving of the gift.
2007-07-06 08:04:25 · answer #10 · answered by just nate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took money from a joint account. You should have left it alone. Of course he does feel ripped off because you decided to take the money that you spent back. It's almost like the event never happened.
2007-07-06 08:01:44 · answer #11 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋