Marriage & Divorce - 8 July 2007

2007-07-08 23:50:03 · 15 answers · asked by Quadir J 1

growing up my parents drank every night. they would get wasted and start yelling going crazy on each other, then they would gang up on me and start yelling at me how im a terrible person etc after many years i stayed away as much as possible and married at 18. 18 yrs. later still married to a great man and have 12 yr i would have my parents over and my dad would get drunk and try to beat up my husband. I put an end to all relations w/them up until 3 yrs ago they told me they will never hurt us again and all has been so good i felt we had a family finally and my child could share this too. soo they invited hus. and dght. on vacation last wk. soo excited for them went 2 dominican. got call from daght. crying so hard that granpa got drunk and started yelling @ her dad. i could not believe it. only there 4 hrs and he srewed up! he was saying horribly things about my family i flew there got new pl. 2 stay w/ them feel sick n heart and cant stop feeling bad!time 2 let go again?guilty

2007-07-08 23:32:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

what if his paramour died and left a baby behind

2007-07-08 23:24:21 · 8 answers · asked by sharon 1

I was going to ask her to marry me many years ago. She was into bad boys. I asked the guy she met to back off nicely and got told to screw off. He married her. I buried my feelings and remained her best friend. I have watched and seen her unhappy and I would not say anything because she said she was happy. This went on for about 9 and 1/2 years. He cheated on her in the first 2 years. She is the type everything is fine. She had enough back in April. I still love her and want to be there for her. I even tried to get them to work things out and it hurt to do it. I gave up trying to help her husband after he started making accusations. She started hanging out at my parents and we would watch movies and talk. At one point she admitted to me she made a mistake marrying him. 2 months later she is giving him another chance. He has been mean to her and down right jerk during their marriage. I love her unconditionally and will be there for her no matter what. It really hurts and I am confused.

2007-07-08 23:21:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-08 22:33:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I seperated from my husband less than 12 months ago. I am now seeing a guy who I am head over heels in love with. There is no hope of reconciliation with my ex, and I want to move on but I always carry with me a sense of loss and sadness, and I miss our friendship. My husband was always honest and loyal with me, so there were no bad feelings on my behalf after our separation. Is it normal to feel like this? I feel like I'm betraying my new partner by feeling this way. I'm only 24 and married really young.

2007-07-08 22:30:05 · 11 answers · asked by Angel 4

I have a friend whose husband is surfing the net constantly for **** -she discovered it by mistake when he was out...
She says that she feels used when they make love or even when they are together. They have a small baby - and she says that she is driven to such an extent that she is contemplating divorce...How do I explain things to her?
Is it something to be so concerned about ? Does the husband's act, amount to cheating ? If she does not bother about it - is there a chance that it can lead to something worse ?

2007-07-08 22:22:04 · 30 answers · asked by Venita M 1

I'm in trouble. I'm going through a divorce. We still live together and I found out through a neighbor that my soon to be ex has been making passes at her. We've been married 10 years and the relationship has been very rocky. I know that divorce is the right thing to do. But the way I feel inside makes me feel like I'm not in control. I'm hurt, angry, along with every negative emotion. In my belief my husband married for convenience and not love. (I've actually had someone tell me this) Of course he denies everything. How can a person be so cold and calculated. I've caught him in so many lies. Just the other day I found a check missing out of my book of checks it was written for June 16th and I didn't find out until July 3rd. He does this all the time so I'm in the process of taking him off the account. I can't handle all this. I work 3rd shift and I'm tired all the time. I'm so upset that I have stopped eating. I have thoughts about taking my own life.

2007-07-08 22:21:48 · 10 answers · asked by cathy h 2

This man is a good, loving person but, frequently goes into what I call his 'moon cycle' and then he starts missing his ex who were one common u know what. When I confront him, he's sorry about being horrible to me and does not want to lose me but I am getting tired of these moods. I love him to distraction and we have a brilliant home together but he has to change this one thing. Being loving, caring, etc etc does'nt help and fighting about it does'nt either! What can I try next because just getting up and go is quite impossible in this situation. I'll lose too much and living where I do, transport is a problem and almost impossible to get away even if I wanted to. Help I don't know what to do anymore.

2007-07-08 21:57:40 · 8 answers · asked by cozaar 1

i really need advice pls only sensible answers anyway here we go i have been with my boyfriend nearly 8 yrs together we have 3 kids and im desperate to get married he wont commit to this i tried to talk to him about it but he just says he dont want to but he knows how important this is to me im thinking of leaving him due to this what shall i do am i been selfish help plsssss

2007-07-08 21:52:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just over 5 years ago me and my friend decided at the last minute to go out to a club. Somewhere someone else was sitting with his friends and made the same decision. We met that night and now we are married with a lovely son and our own home. We can't imagine life without each other (yes pass the sick bucket I know).

But what if one of us hadn't went out that night? What if one of us had went somewhere else instead? What if I hadn't bothered dancing? What if I had went to a different school and the friends there weren't into going out?

I just find it scary that such a life changing moment hangs on a sereis of little decisions.

2007-07-08 21:51:00 · 23 answers · asked by Lovely Lady 4

the computer?

2007-07-08 21:01:58 · 15 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6

About 4-6 Months Ago I Found Out That My Parents Still Have
Sex. At The Time I Found Out I Was In Awe So I Flipped Out. Now Months Later I Want To Tell My Mom That I Understand That It Is Completly Normal And Natural For Married Couples To Have Sex For Pleasure...Not For Kids. I Want To Tell Her In A Way As If I Was A Friend...Not Her Daughter.
Any Help Or Opinions Would Help!
Thank You!

2007-07-08 20:46:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

We live with his mom, she is a controling person. They made me have a job that I do not like at all. After that, I found a job that suits me and has double salary, but 100km away. But they always find some reasons to argue. After some argues, he beated me in presence of his mother and sister (who is a lawyer), they were trying to take my son from my hands. After calling the police, he is mad at me, he goes out every night, while I'm home with my son. He only points what bad things I've done to his family, yet they are wealthy and he's 37, I'm 27(10 together). I am only a girl th at finished a faculty and wants good job. I don't want to depend on his mother. I feel very bad in his house, I would rather leave, they tell me to leave, but I feel sorry that I would deprive my son of his father and wealth. My husband doesn't have anything on his own, but will inherit many things that I will not be able to afford for a long time. I tried to convince him to move out from there, but he wouldn't

2007-07-08 20:14:46 · 14 answers · asked by Jeanny 1

Do little lies have a tendency to turn into bigger lies in the future? I have caught my husband out on several occasions with little lies, what disturbs me is how convincing he looks when he is trying to get out of it. If I did not have eye witness facts on these occasions I would have thought it was all in my head. Which in the past he has admitted to letting me think that. Our marriage is in marriage counseling for the second time. I have even seen him do stuff with my own eyes and then confront him about it and he flat out denies it. I'm starting to wonder if I really do know this man. I am trying to fix our marriage, he is too. But how is it supposed to get off the ground if he continues to shut me out and lie to me?

2007-07-08 19:37:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I can think of a hundred better ways for a couple to spend all the money that goes into a wedding. Do people just do what the tv tells them to do?

2007-07-08 19:36:35 · 13 answers · asked by Stacia 2

Here is what really happened!

im not really a husband and i dont have a wife..
im wife's son and the husband is my step dad
listen carefully "the story is backward!!" MY MOM lend MONEY to MY STEP DAD and my step dad wont do any ****!!!

Im trying to help my mom out!!
My step dad always say "i will write promissory note" but i never seen one!!!

you think he is setting my mom up!!?

He has 3 kids 8 years old, 11 years old, 14 years old.
and IM 17
I cant let this happen to my mom!!!

My step dad owes her 100,000.00 in cash and checks
but my mom did not tell me she has proof or not.
she does not want me to interfere but.. she is not doing anything....

For record my mom has a proof that my dad cheated on her before!!!
you think that might help??

I really dont know what to do?

My step dad owns cleaners and that happened because my mom lend money to my step dad

She said half is under her name

So best solution is Get our 100,000.00 and half the cleaner and Consolation money!!

i reall

2007-07-08 19:30:48 · 3 answers · asked by n_6868 1

i have twins, i feed them change them, hold them,
but because i dont take as long to change them she thinks i dont do a good enough job. they are always clean and smell good and if they get a rash then i try to do what i can to make it go away

2007-07-08 19:27:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with J for almost 6 years. We both love each other very much. We have so much fun together, enjoy our time together, and respect and appreciate each other. He had been married for 25 years, I had been married for 10 years. Marriage is a sacred commitment to both of us. We spoke about marriage about 4 years ago, and he said he could never say never, but he doesn't think he would remarry again. I have never pressed the issue further. I just enjoyed our tiime together, and thanked the Lord for sending him to me. Actually, at this moment in my life, I am not ready to marry, but, I know that I will not stay content just being his "girlfriend" indefinately. The problem is--- I know that if I push, he will flee, so I don't want to push. Now MEN, I need to pick your brains. How should I approach this, what could your lady do that would make you rethink your decision? If you truly loved your lady, would you be willing to lose her?

2007-07-08 19:23:45 · 11 answers · asked by jahulobo 1

2007-07-08 19:07:26 · 21 answers · asked by ncgirl 3

I've heard that if you imagine yourself bolting if you had the means, that you should leave even without the means and live a happy (albeit maybe poorer) life. What do you think?

2007-07-08 19:05:44 · 54 answers · asked by SQD 2

if iwant to be father one day....how can i see if a woman is a potential good mother?

2007-07-08 18:52:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I divorced my ex, he told me that at my age (37) and the fact that I had a child, no one would ever want to date or more specifically marry me. (Altho he hooked up with somebody 3 1/2 years my senior...)

2007-07-08 18:47:53 · 18 answers · asked by D Michelle 1

2007-07-08 17:53:33 · 10 answers · asked by sheila 3

My 28-year-old step-son finally got his undergraduate degree from a not-so-reputable private college a year ago and moved back home since. He took 8 months to find first job, but is about to lose this job recently. He is a loner living in our nicely furnished basement. Our relationship is going downhill for the last few months since he had repeatedly disrespected me in front of other family members, threaten me, and use violent language to against me. I couldn't get my husband to make any changes because he is always trying to protect his son. Few weeks ago, I smelt strong stinky smoke at the basement and told my husband. He is shock when his son admitted that he is using illegal drug. He is hurt but still can not do or say anything to his son. His son is sleeping, watching TV, or playing baseball. I can't communicate with my husband to help his son to get back his life and find another job. His son becomes the problem in my marriage. How do I protect my 3 other children?

2007-07-08 17:51:19 · 41 answers · asked by YR22005 2

I am not allowed to drink and drive or my husband will spank me - we agreed to this......... but:
I was drinking some while driving a four wheeler on a camping trip and he thinks I should be spanked for it, although nothing bad happened.
Do you think this is fair? After all, it was not a car and I was not on the highway.

2007-07-08 17:40:13 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-08 17:33:17 · 27 answers · asked by Lia D. Beck 1

I have never cheated on him ever and he thinks that because i cheated on a no good cheating man that i am doing the same thing. please clear this up for him.

2007-07-08 17:20:44 · 17 answers · asked by Matthew S 1

I am also married but living in a apartment with my husband.

2007-07-08 15:51:19 · 23 answers · asked by Carrie B 1

I have been married for three years. I was always under the impression that alcoholism was a gradual process, but my husband seems to have spiraled out of control in the past 6 months. Maybe I just didn't see it before, but lately I feel like I'm living in a nightmare. He drinks until his speech is impaired every day. Today he was passed out by noon. He has recently started lying to me about his consumption. He is not verbally or physically abusive. He has a very good job and as far as I know this has not impacted his work. We don't have any kids and I don't take my marriage vows lightly, but everything I've read seems to tell me that there is no hope for him. And although I understand that I can't make him stop, I'm at a loss for what to do. He admitts that he has a problem, but he can't seem to stop. I don't know what to do! Does it do any good for me to stand by his side or do I get out now?

2007-07-08 14:55:40 · 6 answers · asked by keelers 1