I seperated from my husband less than 12 months ago. I am now seeing a guy who I am head over heels in love with. There is no hope of reconciliation with my ex, and I want to move on but I always carry with me a sense of loss and sadness, and I miss our friendship. My husband was always honest and loyal with me, so there were no bad feelings on my behalf after our separation. Is it normal to feel like this? I feel like I'm betraying my new partner by feeling this way. I'm only 24 and married really young.
2007-07-08 22:30:05 · 11 answers · asked by Angel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks everyone for your answers, they've been wonderful :)
2007-07-08 22:46:59 · update #1
It's lost love honey and that's normal. Naturally you will experience loss and sadness for him. You are only young and were new to marriage. The achey feeling will go with time.
2007-07-08 22:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First....If you still mis your ex, then your not head over heels in love.
Secondly...it is normal to miss your ex. You had planned on a future together and there was good and bad times spent together. You've lost that "comfort zone" you had.
Thirdly, you married young and are still a bit of a romantic. I too suggest waiting before getting into a serious relationship. You need to give yourself time to heal, to become whole again, before you can commit to anyone. Don't repeat your mistakes.
2007-07-09 06:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by earnhardt3_8forever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you are divorced, dating someone can be viewed as cheating by the court. be very careful in your actions. you need to look at the reasons why you are getting a divorce at 24 years old....most women aren't even married by that time. fix yourself, and work on your relationships. it's unfair to your boyfriend if you are still hung up on the ex. if there is NO chance for reconciliation with the ex, then why are you feeling this way?
2007-07-09 05:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you have been together for a long time and separate of course your going to miss that person but as time goes by all wounds will heal it might take awhile but u should give your new partner your all your best to make it work but if your still lingering in the past do yourself a favor dont hurt you new partner leave the relationship to give yourself more time to heal keep your head up dont look back look to the future
2007-07-09 05:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by aleasha1977 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal...but it should not continue if you're really getting serious with your new guy. Usually, when a relationship ends, at least one of the persons involved somehow feels a sense of loss. Oftentimes, its not actually the person you are missing, but his being and his ways. its like all of a sudden, everything's gone, and that is hard to accept. it takes time. and if you're really inlove right now, you will be better in no time at all. :)
2007-07-09 05:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by cessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 22 years with who I thought was my closest person, I still miss some of the nice ways he was with me.
He has remarried, moved on, and although I know he is never going to come back, or even talk with me to resolve our issues, I will probably miss him till I die.
The one thing she could not take from me when she took him, was my memories of the better times, and the memories we shared. I have been meaning to write the fun times down from my memory sometime, so if I ever get blue or bitter over it down the road, I will remind myself that it was not all for Naught!
Don't feel badly, it only gives you indigestion and wrinkles, be happy that you ave found a new love, but do give yourself a lot of time, you need at least 2 years of singleness to come to grips with it all, you ARE young and forever for the rest of one's days is a long time from your starting point!
Enjoy the freedom.
all my married friends want freedom, all the single gals can't wait to find a man!
Go figure!
Good LUCK, and remember to ask of yourself, in any new relationship, is this one in balance, if not,
then what is in it for ME???
That may sound selfish, but women tend to give til they are empty to taking men who suck the life out of them,
then, when the women run out of giving,
they wonder why.
Don't get caught in that trap!
Take care!
2007-07-09 05:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. After my divorce I didn't exactly miss my ex (bad feelings there). I missed the good times we had. As you make memories with your new guy those feelings for your ex should fade away
2007-07-09 06:31:04 · answer #7 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow well ur problem sounds the same to mines. its definately find for you to feel that way its not betraying, u & ur ex are over it doesnt matter & ur heads over heels for ur new partner that proves that you are perfectlii fine to miss ur ex but at the same time loving ur new partner,just as long as you truely love your new partler then its fine
2007-07-09 05:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by Vivian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally normal. Think about it. You may not actually miss him, it may be the way he treated you or the times you had together and its nothing wrong with missing those things from time to time.
2007-07-09 05:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by younggb77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. when we divorced, I drank a lot of hard alcohol. It made my hands shake a little in the morning. As time wore on, they shook less and my aim improved.
After a while I didn't miss.
:)
2007-07-09 05:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by lol 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋