We live with his mom, she is a controling person. They made me have a job that I do not like at all. After that, I found a job that suits me and has double salary, but 100km away. But they always find some reasons to argue. After some argues, he beated me in presence of his mother and sister (who is a lawyer), they were trying to take my son from my hands. After calling the police, he is mad at me, he goes out every night, while I'm home with my son. He only points what bad things I've done to his family, yet they are wealthy and he's 37, I'm 27(10 together). I am only a girl th at finished a faculty and wants good job. I don't want to depend on his mother. I feel very bad in his house, I would rather leave, they tell me to leave, but I feel sorry that I would deprive my son of his father and wealth. My husband doesn't have anything on his own, but will inherit many things that I will not be able to afford for a long time. I tried to convince him to move out from there, but he wouldn't
2007-07-08 20:14:46 · 14 answers · asked by Jeanny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you all for the support. When someone lives in such environment, she can't be quite sure when is enough. And even such obvious things might be insufficient for a healthy decision to leave and live calm life where I would decide what to do, what kind of a job to have, freely to have cup of coffee with friends...
2007-07-09 19:34:24 · update #1
Cut and run!!!!!!!! As fast as you can. You need to get away from this jerk. He beat you? Report him!!!
2007-07-08 20:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by Lyndsey G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey..LEAVE!
I was in a similar situation when I was younger..living with my ex husbands parents and they were awful!
They also tried to take my child from me through the divorce.. But I won.
You need to leave NOW! Find a shelter or a friends house or family that can take you in..Your son is young and isnt it better he grow up respecting you and treating women right then growing up a wealthy pig like his father?
They do not care about you at all. Please, for the sake of that child leave.
2007-07-09 09:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by Theresa D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Snap out of it. The money is not that important. Money is a means to an end,. If you can support you and your son then that is suffiecient. You health and safety are. Do you want your son to be like his father towards women? If the answer is no then pack your stuff and leave.
2007-07-09 03:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by MissE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by all means
do what is best for your son
i think in the long run your son would thank you for raising him right
rather than being wealthy or having a abusive or messed up father
just save the kid
that whole family sounds messed up
and i don't blame you for feeling weird around them
do what you think you need to do
and don't let them influence you
maybe you should ask your mom
2007-07-09 03:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by chrisp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave, this will only get worse. period. But...you really should plan this out carefully, as if he is wealthy there's a chance he and his family can get custody of your child. I have seen it done several times. Its not that it WILL happen, all I'm saying is plan your moves before informing him and get a good lawyer.
2007-07-09 03:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by cindy h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aahh the evil mother-in-laws tongue, crackles like a whip that you can feel for many a mile. Drop him on his pansy a**. Take your son and your what's left of your happiness and leave them to their misery. Your son doesn't need to grow up in all that negativity.
2007-07-09 05:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that its in your best interest to move out with your son and persuit your career. If you let them walk all over you what message is that portraying to your child? If the father of the kid wants to have visitation rights then you can allow it. Just keep your dignity walk out.
2007-07-09 04:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is hitting you, then you need to get out. It is not a good atmosphere for your child. Not only that, but your child will grow up believing that it is alright for someone to hit you, just because they have more money than you. Beside, he will have to pay child support when you leave anyway.
2007-07-09 03:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget the money- it means nothing if you are unhappy- leave and lead your own life- you have to make decisions for your son's future, too!
2007-07-09 03:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by loobyloo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear girl you are in it for the money so hold your nose and hope the wench drops dead early
.It is sad though that you don't have a back bone
2007-07-09 04:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a horrible situation for you and your son, and you need to leave immediately. Screw the money.
2007-07-09 03:24:40 · answer #11 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋