what if his paramour died and left a baby behind
2007-07-08 23:24:21 · 8 answers · asked by sharon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfaithfulness in marriage is unacceptable. Many women stay in such marriages because of social beliefs, family pressure, financial dependancy on their unfaithful husbands, fear of what life would be like if they left/divorced their unfaithful husbands, thinking about how easily another woman could come along and be his wife and have everything they left behind, etc. However, everyday that you stay with such a man you lose respect for yourself, you start looking at other women thinking he would like that or this one, etc. You stop realizing how attractive you are and how many men stare at you thinking how beautiful you are. You stop thinking about how clever/smart you are, what a good friend you are, what a great homemaker you are, what a wonderful wife you are, etc. You see yourself through his eyes. The way that he wants you to see yourself so that you will feel like he's the only one who ever even bothered with you and you should be happy he's still there. My dear, that is not what marriage is about, it's about loving your partner in marriage and loving them only, it's about faithfulness to your partner=romantically, sexually, etc, it's about respect for your partners needs, opinions, interests, it's about appreciation for everything that they do for you from making your breakfast to asking how your day was, it's about giving them support when they are going through a tough situation, it's about protecting them, standing by their side, fighting/argueing with anyone who attacks a mans' wife physically/verbally. Are these some of the things you are always doing for your husband? Is he doing any of these things for you? It's scary out there, but if you decide to leave this man remember to go to a lawyer who can fight for you as you are entitled to half of everything he has. There are millions of men in this world, unfortunately there are so many bad ones. A popular excuse for unfaithfulness is "I was weak please forgive me". There is no such thing, we all make choices we decide what we want to do and when we want to do it including when we want to hurt people who love us. I urge you to leave this man for your own benefit. Forget about family obligations and all these other things you feel entrap you with him. There are good men out there but you cant find a good man when you stuck with a bad man. The baby I feel so badly for, unfortunatley the child is his responsibility, not yours.
2007-07-08 23:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by maryamalizmarie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you want to stay in a relationship with the man? If not, divorce him. If so, raise the child as your own. Personally, if I was barren, I'd do a happy dance and there is no way I'd ever raise a kid! I don't even want to imagine my husband cheating and him having a kid? Hahaha! What a joke. That would be like demon spawn. I love the guy, but he's not father material.
2007-07-08 23:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by qwertatious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His child is something for him to worry about, not you. And there is only one possible answer for cheating, no matter what the circumstances - divorce.
2007-07-08 23:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce. =(... unless he wants to remain faithful to his wife for the rest of the marraige...which I highly doubt =(...
2007-07-09 00:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are to stay with him adopt his daughter and love her like you own. if he is still running around, divorce his worthless self!
2007-07-08 23:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it easy loll.after all this life is a short and temporary one.be cool.
2007-07-08 23:28:52 · answer #6 · answered by idsalex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you divorce him. is the baby his? then he can raise it by himself.
2007-07-08 23:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is his problem, not yours,,, leave him
2007-07-09 00:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by txcatwoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋