what is the sign of a good mother?

Question

if iwant to be father one day....how can i see if a woman is a potential good mother?

Answer 1

With so many people out there having kids, you can look around and see what mothers you DON'T want to have kids with. But in answer to your question this is what I would look for in any mate, of course I'm speaking as a women, and a mom.
I have a little girl. But if I had a little boy I would be concerned about his choice of a wife and mother. So I would offer this advice.
The first thing a child (BOY or GIRL) learns is learned in the cradle. It is here where we learn to need people to make us smile. A child that has been raised in a house of love will know how to show love. This person will most likely enjoy being a Mother ( or Father ).
If a child has been raised in a home with angry words, and a lot of turmoil, they will find it difficult to be happy. If they have lived with shouting, they will learn to shout, if they were raised with alcohol, they may become a drinker who may not be dependable.
In this world we live in young people like yourself fall for beauty, and in the beginning do not see that perhaps that person is a little too demanding, or that she disrespects you, or that they want you to focus all of attention on them. There is nothing wrong with beauty, but remember that as a mother you get little attention, make sure she can handle not being the center of your universe, and just for good measure,,,remember as a father, you're no longer the center of attention either. So expect to be ignored.
So what traits should you look for in any relationship?
Can they be trusted? Are they dependable?
Have they been shown love...so that they will know how to give love?
Have they been taught how to put others first....so that they are willing to put aside the things that they want?
Can they stand for someone to be in the spotlight? Can they step back and be happy knowing someone is more important than them?
And last but not least are you sure, beyond a doubt that you are ready to be a parent? Because a child has NO say so over who it is born to. It can not choose a parent that will love it unconditionally. It cannot choose a parent that does not do drugs. It can not choose a parent that is going to stay around forever. It cannot choose a parent that will refrain from alcohol, so that it's world will NOT be a violent one.
It is completely helpless, it will rely on YOUR GOOD JUDGMENT to pick a GOOD parent. Remember Forever is a long, long time.

I must say that you must be ok, because you cared enough to want to pick a good partner. Good luck to you and when that time comes do all that you can do, to be the BEST that YOU can be.

Answer 2

Find a woman that wants to have your baby for all the right reasons. She should love you and want to see aspects of you in her child. She should want a child when your relationship is solid , she should want to spend as much time getting to know you and enjoying your relationship as she can. A good mother to your children will first want to find out and be sure that you are going to be a good father. Too many women have a child because she wants to be a mum and thinks very little about it being a life long commitment to a man, a woman should want to start a FAMILY not simply have a baby and this is the kind of woman that will make a good mother to your children.

Answer 3

It cannot be "all about me"--this person will make a horrible mother but even if she is a little bit, this can change once the kid gets here.

She has to have expressed a strong desire about being around kids and wanting them some day. Try to get in an environment with kids (ex. niece's birthday party) and see how she relates with them--most naturally good mothers have the quality to relate well to all kids, not just their own.

Nothing worse than a mother who never really wanted to do it in the first place.

Answer 4

Well, I think a good mother is one who loves her children unconditionally and that takes alot of maturity, kindness, and a depth that comes with age. A mother not only takes care of her child's basic needs of food, shelter, good hygiene, etc....but also understands the importance of her job. She and the father (hopefully he's in the picture) are literally responsible for forming this child's character - for teaching him or her work ethic, self-esteem, integrity, love, etc. It's HARD WORK being a mother. You have to be grounded in who you are, you have to be a tough cookie, able to stand your ground, and be able to give discipline.

I wouldn't worry so much about finding someone who's going to make a good mother. Chances are, you wouldn't fall in love with a woman who WOULDN'T display the characteristics above.

Answer 5

I wouldnt worry about the distant future for now. But if you must. A good person, is important. No one is born to be a good mother. It's a learned process. There are two ends to the pole. One who gives their child/children e/thing with no limits. And one who has no regard for the well being of their child/children.

Answer 6

ARIES, ....no just kidding.

You cannot tell if someone will be a good mother until they are actually a mother! You need to fall in love and go with your heart. If you attract a good person you will attract a good mother, it is that simple. The test is not one that can be taken in advance.

Answer 7

Well, my daughter told me that the 2 things that made me the best mom were: 1. I always had money even if barely, and 2. My word was always good. She could trust me all around. If I said I was going to buy her jeans, I did and If I said I was turning the breaker off to her room, I also did.....steady as a rock.

Answer 8

A good mother is kind, patient, caring, and has a good sense of humor. If she can't laugh off the small things, she'll never survive.

Answer 9

Look at her mother. She won't be exactly like her but the apple never falls far from the tree. Look at how she was raised, if it's in line with want you want for your family you should be fine.

Answer 10

OMG
You will know when your ready to have kids with someone.