I'm in trouble. I'm going through a divorce. We still live together and I found out through a neighbor that my soon to be ex has been making passes at her. We've been married 10 years and the relationship has been very rocky. I know that divorce is the right thing to do. But the way I feel inside makes me feel like I'm not in control. I'm hurt, angry, along with every negative emotion. In my belief my husband married for convenience and not love. (I've actually had someone tell me this) Of course he denies everything. How can a person be so cold and calculated. I've caught him in so many lies. Just the other day I found a check missing out of my book of checks it was written for June 16th and I didn't find out until July 3rd. He does this all the time so I'm in the process of taking him off the account. I can't handle all this. I work 3rd shift and I'm tired all the time. I'm so upset that I have stopped eating. I have thoughts about taking my own life.
2007-07-08 22:21:48 · 10 answers · asked by cathy h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't let any man or person for that matter hold this kind of power over you. Your life is valueable and he is not worth it. Karma baby, believe it will come back around. Try and stay postive, work on yourself, do things that make you feel better. Talk to friends, write in a journal, go to the gym etc. This will get better in time and you have to take this one day at a time. One day you'll look back and realize you could handle it because you did.
2007-07-09 03:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by boston chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is never the answer. So, he's a jerk. That's why your divorcing him, among many other things. What do you have to feel guilty about? For wanting to be happy? I mean God forbid that you want someone to love you, and be honest and faithful. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but this too shall pass. You deserve so much better!! Pray about it. Pray without ceasing! God hears you, and trust me, in due time, he will take care of this. Its already covered. Just be patient, and allow yourself to heal from this. Don't hold any negative feelings, because honestly, he's doing you a favor. Surely you don't want to live another 10 years under these circumstances. Get your life back! You have to! No one is going to do it for you, and you have to love yourself if you want someone else to. Forget him, because in the end, he is the one who will suffer. Trust me! Good luck to you, and please talk to someone, preferably someone who has been through this.
2007-07-09 05:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok sweety...this is how you throw his sleazy, two timing, slime covered, dirtbag that needs to be trown into the depest trenches to hell...so he's out the door...and out of your life! People can be cold hearted and calculated...so be careful. Besides you should eat...even if you are not in the mood to eat because you need to stay healthy and strong. And if you decide to kill yourself...it just causes problems for your loved ones...my friend Zach told me this everytime I was really depressed..."Suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem..." I will never forget what he said to me...and I hope you won't forget that too. Theres other fish in the sea...everything will be ok.
2007-07-09 15:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your doing the right thing getting a divorce because you can do bad all by yourself also there no trust there how can a relationship work without trust thats not going to happen also working third shift is rough i know about that the best thing u can do is give all your worries and trials and tribulations to god take it to him in prayer he knows how much we can bear so dont give up keep your head up high he's not worth you taking your life for especially going to hell that a negative you can gain alot if u pray and do whats best 4 you
2007-07-09 05:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by aleasha1977 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, once you'll be divorced, you'll feel free. You'll meet new people, and change your life. No need to think of taking your own life, It would stop your life forever for problems that are temporal. If you take things in hands and decide right Now to get away from him, start something new, everything is going to get better. You're enough strong to do it. I'll pray for you too.
2007-07-09 05:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by whitewolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Get ou of that house now. Now he is mentally abusing you. Go to the bank, close that account, and open one in your name only before he bleeds you dry spending his money on other women. Grab hold of yourself, and take control. God sees this situation, and will help you through it. I know because I have been there!!
The Little Grass Hut
The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small, uninhabited island.
He prayed feverishly for GOD to rescue him, and everyday he scanned the horizon for help, but none seemed forthcoming.
Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little hut out of driftwood to protect himself from the elements and to store his few possessions.
One day, after scavenging for food, he arrived home to find his little hut in flames with smoke rolling up to the sky.
The worst had happened! Everything was lost!
He was stunned with disbelief, grief, and anger. "GOD, how could you do this to me?" he cried.
Early the next day he was awakened by the sound of a ship that was
approaching the island. It had come to rescue him.
"How did you know I was here?" asked the weary man of his rescuers.
"We saw your smoke signal," they replied.
Moral of the story:
It's easy to get discouraged when things are going bad, but we shouldn't
lose heart, because GOD is at work in our lives, even in the midst of pain, and suffering.
Remember that, the next time your little hut seems to be burning to the ground.
It just may be a smoke signal that summons the grace of GOD.
2007-07-09 06:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay hon I just said a prayer for you so don't take your life until it's been answered. Kick his lily white a** to the curb or the neighbors whichever is closer. Then make yourself a nice meal and treat yourself, after you've had a good sleep.
2007-07-09 05:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh no no no!!! be encouraged no matter whats going on- God will make it alright but you gotta stay strong!!! trouble dont last always & your trials come to make you strong- its when things seem worse that you must not QUIT!!! He seems to be a sorry excuse for a man & despite the fact on weither or not he truly loves you & vice versa the fact remains that you must LOVE YOURSELF enough to know, feel & belive that you deserve better!!! Please honey- go to church, pray ask god to comfort you in the midst of this storm- please belive me "this too shall past"- i know it hurts honey, but its his lost baby not yours- let that trash go!! he is only making room for your true blessings- please do not give up & do not give in- everything will be alright!!! stay strong & stay focused & let go & let god!!!!!!! good luck!!!!
2007-07-09 09:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my prayers. Also, I found a great support website for us at www.dailystrength.org.
Good luck to you.
2007-07-09 05:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by wc2ketey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my prayers.Your life is worth something so please don't take it. I'm so sorry you're hurting so much. Big hugs to you.
2007-07-09 07:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by lillulu460 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋