2007-07-08 19:07:26 · 21 answers · asked by ncgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I love my husband regardless of his size, and he feels the same way. I love the man, not the wrapping.
2007-07-08 19:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Hello, my husband gained a lot of weight during the last years and we've been together for 14 yrs. When you love some one, you love the person not only the body, although I'm concern about his health, my feelings for him are not base on his weight. The life that we have together, our kids, our plans for the future, the way he treat me, those are the things that matter. If someones feelings for the spouse change because of something so shallow, then there were never love in the first place. Just my opinion.
2007-07-08 19:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by Calypsso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so...I believe that I would love them either way-I may help them to get on a program to lose weight and feel better though because I would want them to live a long life with me.
I wish the same was done for me-I was 6' and 150 lbs...after I gained 20 pounds, my ex told me that I was getting fat on purpose and trying to grow out of the pretty clothes he'd given me as gifts!
As for me, I think I'd still love the person.
2007-07-08 20:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by A L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The weight itself wouldn't be the issue, but in the first six month after I got married my (now ex-) wife gained 25-30lbs & cut her long hair (which I loved) really short (which she knew I couldn't stand). Ultimately, that and a lot of other things were indications of her perspective. Now that she'd 'caught' me, she didn't have to do anything to remain appealing.
One of many reasons she's now an ex...
At any rate, while you of course ought not to be judgmental about how heavy someone is, you may question WHY they gained the weight and what that may signify.
2007-07-08 19:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Rum R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the circumstances. People generally find larger people less attractive(not all people though), but it doesn't mean the person loves you less. I would hope the person tries to become more healthy. Of course, different illnesses that cause some to gain weight is understandable, and I would have compassion...
2007-07-08 19:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by Nep 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It would not change the way I felt about them but i would help them get on track to losing weight cuz obviously their self confidence would be low even if i did reassure them that they were still beautiful in my eyes
2007-07-08 19:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to tell you, I am the one who has gained weight in our marriage (40lbs in 7 years) and I can't stand myself!!
It has changed the way that I feel about myself!! I have found that although I am still very attracted to my husband, I don't like to have sex as much, and certainly not with the lights on!! I think that it has GOT to affect the way that he "sees" me, or thinks that I am attractive although he has never said anything...
I have got to do something about it! I disgust myself!!
2007-07-08 19:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by christilicious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I would view it as a sign that he didn't love himself enough to take good care of himself. I would be very hurt and bummed. After all we are planning on spending a long and enjoyable life together and if he let himself go like that, it would mean he didn't really put himself or us as a priority.
EDIT***
I am sure I will get some thumbs down, but you did say A LOT of weight and I did say that it would make me sad and hurt, but did not clarify that it would not cause me to love him any less.
2007-07-08 19:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by wildatheart 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i'm not too sure that would matter. if someone is that shallow, maybe they weren't in love to begin with. i'm a firm believer in for better or for worse, and people change. lets face it, if we all stayed the same weight throughout our whole lives, there wouldn't be that many problems...lol
2007-07-08 19:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by coby r 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, but some gentle encouragement, and walks at night after dinner to get healthier is never a bad thing.
2007-07-08 19:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by cynical 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg thats horrible! i hope one day i can get fat with my "kitty" on our island haha.
i mean i think theres that honeymoon first few years after marriage period where its all bout doin it and lookin good while doin it but as time passes you just do it and enjoy it no matter the appearance of the person.
some pounds here and there, no prollem.
2007-07-08 19:27:05 · answer #11 · answered by varsfootball44 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋