Just over 5 years ago me and my friend decided at the last minute to go out to a club. Somewhere someone else was sitting with his friends and made the same decision. We met that night and now we are married with a lovely son and our own home. We can't imagine life without each other (yes pass the sick bucket I know).
But what if one of us hadn't went out that night? What if one of us had went somewhere else instead? What if I hadn't bothered dancing? What if I had went to a different school and the friends there weren't into going out?
I just find it scary that such a life changing moment hangs on a sereis of little decisions.
2007-07-08 21:51:00 · 23 answers · asked by Lovely Lady 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best part of that thought process, is that it doesn't matter, because you are happy, and with him now. There is no point in worrying about the what ifs. You have a good life, and be grateful for that. And to answer your question, I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. You were meant to meet each other when you did. Congratulations, and don't worry so much about what might have been. Especially when what you have is what so many others wait there whole lives for. Hope this helps!
2007-07-08 21:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
People like to say things happen for a reason. The opposite is in fact the truth. nearly everything happens for no reason at all. If you or he hadn't gone out that night you would very probably have found someone else. There is no such thing as a soulmate. A "soulmate" is just one person of a pool of prospective acceptable partners.
2007-07-09 05:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by Nodality 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's purely chance. You may not be able to imagine another partner. But there is lots of men out there that you could of ended up with. Maybe there was one in another club, who wouldn't left you to bath you child, lol.
The main thing is you are happy. An example of chance; is the fact that out of all the sperm, from your farther that had produced. Something like 40-50 million in each ejaculation. Now how many time had he produced 40 million sperm before call it "Y" Yx40 million to 1. And then there's your mothers egg. The odds are astronomical, but if you look at it another way. Its more like a certainty.
2007-07-09 15:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never play the what if game...
What if he cheated on you?
Well Nature control's everything and if you 2 are meant to be togethr then it would have found another way for you to meet if you had not gone dancing that night....
Enjoy every moment of your relationship, because life can change quickly... illness etc... I believe in the principle of sowing and reaping:- The farmer plants a few seeds and harvests a huge crop, but he alos has to tend the feilds, fertilise them water them and nuture them pulling out the weeds etc.
A relationship is like farming! to reap the harvest you must complete the other more mundane tasks.
Good luck
2007-07-09 10:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's just the way life is -- sometimes a series of happy accidents. You can't plan everything. Perhaps if you were a religious person you could think you were guided to make the decisions you did. Sort of puts it in a different perspective.
2007-07-09 04:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it does as i dont believe our lives are already sorted before we are born..... that's why we have freewill. What your doing is just thinking about the possibilities without the path you have already gone down but if you had not gone out that night and met someone else and got married etc etc, you would probably still ask the same question.
2007-07-09 04:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by 2 good 2 miss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have answered your own question hun, but did you realise that most of the decisions that were made that affect our daily lives were mostly made by our parents! They decided to have a child, you were born, they chose your schools where you met your friends who took you dancing to meet your lovely husband. Call them and say thank you immediately!
2007-07-09 06:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by Ria K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no its just how it is. if you hadnt of gone out that night you would have met a different person another time and you say your very happy i dont doubt that but you might be even happier had you stayed at home that night but these are questions no one can answer so we just have to make do with what life throws at us unfortunately or fortunately which ever you think applies to you
2007-07-09 04:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An interesting question Heather. I've often pondered this, as has almost every thinking person I imagine. I've also cursed fate or whatever it is that brings us to these people, as they're not always kind!
However, I now have someone in my life who is lovely, so fingers crossed this time!
2007-07-09 06:59:44 · answer #9 · answered by jet-set 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats fate for you! I'd like to think that if it was meant to be then if it hadn't happened that night it would have happened another time but who knows! Some things are in the laps of the gods and you just have to have a little faith.
2007-07-09 04:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋