I was going to ask her to marry me many years ago. She was into bad boys. I asked the guy she met to back off nicely and got told to screw off. He married her. I buried my feelings and remained her best friend. I have watched and seen her unhappy and I would not say anything because she said she was happy. This went on for about 9 and 1/2 years. He cheated on her in the first 2 years. She is the type everything is fine. She had enough back in April. I still love her and want to be there for her. I even tried to get them to work things out and it hurt to do it. I gave up trying to help her husband after he started making accusations. She started hanging out at my parents and we would watch movies and talk. At one point she admitted to me she made a mistake marrying him. 2 months later she is giving him another chance. He has been mean to her and down right jerk during their marriage. I love her unconditionally and will be there for her no matter what. It really hurts and I am confused.
2007-07-08 23:21:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since you're best friends and love each other, this is almost a no-brainer. Remind her of that during one of your talks and tell her you'd like to resume their romantic relationship just as soon as either a separation is in place, or the divorce is finalized, as she chooses.
2007-07-08 23:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem is you are a fluffy nice gay guy. You read correctly. There is a "gay" in the first sentence. Chicks hate that because if you dont have anything wrong and you are Mr. Perfect who is there for the lady as soon as she farts women lose respect for you. Dont believe me? She is with the jerk and you masturbate thinking about her, right?. I dont know if you realize what a loser you are.. After trying to help her she came back with him? Jesus. She doesnt love you. Period. Did it hurt? Of course, you are sensitive.Did I answer your question? No,because the answer you want to hear, the magical formula or whatever you want to call it has been overused over the years or simply dont work from gay guys. You need to be a real man. So there. Get over it.
Watching movies at your parents. Give me a break.
2007-07-08 23:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him get an lawyer. You say he can not have the funds for it? He can not have the funds for NOT to. I warranty it. He definitely MUST get himself an lawyer, or he's going to get fleeced. Most legal professionals will permit for cost plans, and plenty of will deliver unfastened consultations! He fairly demands to peer as many as he probably can without spending a dime consultations (looking round is a MUST), after which he demands to prefer one up and get equipped to pay out the butt to win this divorce. Guess what? That goes to be a LOT less expensive than letting her and HER lawyer (she'll get one for certain, if she does not have one already) take him for each dime he has or ever could have. That is the first-class recommendation you'll be able to deliver him. And in case you fairly wish to aid, get at the horn and begin calling round for the ones unfastened consultations. Good success to him!
2016-09-05 20:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think rour heart is in the right place and I've been in a simular situation and its hard i understand.the best thing to do is let her know your there for her which I;m sure she knows try telling her how you feel and let her know you don't want anything to change between you guys unless she feels the same let her know she's better than that jerk treats her tell her how special she is to you lay all the cards on the table.
2007-07-08 23:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by narrys_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you confused about? She's getting a divorce. Just continue to be her friend and if the two of you are meant to be, it will happen naturally.
Just stay the hell away from marriage because it's obvious that your very young! Just enjoy life.
2007-07-09 00:17:30 · answer #5 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are truly a good friend to stand by her through the thick and the thin i admire u for that do yourself a favor maintain your feelings but dont act out now because if she come to u it might be out of rebound only time will tell if she's feeling you keep your head up
2007-07-08 23:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by aleasha1977 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump in too quickly. You do not want to be her rebound man. Just be there for her until she sees the end, and gets her self esteem back and some order in her life.
2007-07-08 23:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel life is to short to go around wishing for what could be. If it is ment to be then it will happen. Don't smother her though just take it slow.
2007-07-09 02:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by coffeenjewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life dude.
If she wanted you do you not think that she would be staying put?
Quit being her girlfriend and go find another woman.
2007-07-08 23:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is difficult, adultry frees her to remarry the penalty was death-be there for her. And remember relationship=why begin intimacy of the heart-when it will not lead to moral principles and marriage? Why worship another person ahead of God-why live in disobediance?
the answer for me from having lived this way-and coming to a point of suicide for having used others and myself, was true love first from above- Yet as a Jewish person I had been taught to reject-the sacrificial love of the promised Messiah Jesus. "Unto us a child is born, a son is given, and he shall be mighty God, and the prince of peace." Isaiah 9:6
"He will lay down his life, to give forgiveness for our sins." Isaiah 52:13-53:12
As I read his words spoken from heaven my heart melted to his love (Revelation 1:1&3:19-20) "I love you, and ask you to repent from your sins quickly(even one lie). Behold I stand at your heart's door and knock, if you let me in I will become your friend and have fellowship with you, and you with me."
so I prayed "Jesus I am sorry for my sins, come into my heart and help me, be my friend, amen."
and this was what all my life I had sought for true unconditional love-it taught me to Love him "If you love me keep my commandments. The fruit of my Spirit in you will be love, joy, peace, gentleness, and selfcontrol." Galatians 3:22&23.
"What is a gentle and easy yoke/control when done in obedience becomes an insupportable burden when done in disobedience." - THE WAY TO FREEDOM
Putting God's Principles into action
No task that seeks to serve others, whether that be in the home, at work, or in the church, is ever easy. This is particularly so when those tasks involve long-term commitments. To be kept in such commitments requires the knowledge that what we are doing is our responsibility and that our helping is appropriate. We can then call on God to help us and to encourage us in the journey. But when our tasks are performed without a sense of God's direction and help, then we walk a difficult and lonely road.
What the Bible is saying
Take the yoke I give you. Put it on your shoulders and learn from me. I am gentle and humble, and you will find rest. This yoke is easy to bear, and this burden is light. (Matthew 11:29-30)
Thoughts
To seek to serve others without God's direction and help,will end up making us bitter, and we will not see any good fruit of our labor.
Yes it is important to make right answers and descisions especially in relationships with God and mankind.
note DANGER about yahoo answerer=Roadrat-in his answers along with endorsing casual sex from his previous age as a 13 year old-quoted below-he also endorses doing illegal drugs in his answers-yet he also states he is divorced and again living in (promiscuous fornicating) sex. I too lived in sin-Jesus is still the answer for each of us, and a new life. from Roadrats words answering to young persons question and I quote him=
Consider a fun, casual-sex relationship. It can last for years, and be more fun than you believe! Meanwhile, you both should keep each other aware that this is for your mutual enjoyment, until you each find your true loves. Personal experience, during 5 of the teen years.
Jesus is the answer for him and each of us, why settle for false love going into physical relations before marriage to fill the void of not having Jesus in our heart, to try and feel 'loved' and continue to destroy our reputation, morals, and be a sex offender against God, risking Std's, pregnancy, and getting a cold heart toward true love, first from above and then with a person, our family, and toward ourselves.
Praying for you and this lady for your best, David & be careful next time.
2007-07-11 00:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋