why bother having a wedding?

Question

I can think of a hundred better ways for a couple to spend all the money that goes into a wedding. Do people just do what the tv tells them to do?

Answer 1

I think it's really up to the couples and their taste. I think people have a wedding PARTLY because of tradition but also because they truly want a wonderful, beautiful celebration of their love. For my husband and I, it was an amazing way to have a party, celebrate our love with those we loved the most, have fun, and really honor the SACRED promise we were making to one another. I have heard, however, of some couples opting to just take the money and instead have a very small wedding which is fine for those couples. Like I said - it's up to each couple and their preference.

Answer 2

no, but then again I work in a place where during the summer we can have 4 weddings going on at the same time! (we have a pavilion outside that is closed during winter) We are also a properly staffed venue. They all have their seperate reception rooms (obviously, I can't imagine anyone even fathoming having 3 weddings in the same room not spaced out that well) Each room has their own staff (when we get to work we are assigned to a room and that is the room we serve all night.) Each room also has their own fully stocked bar and their own mens and womens bathrooms. We always (whether it's one, two, three, or four events going on) have someone at the door when guests arrive to direct them to the correct room so that there's no confusion. So just a little advice for everyone: if you're looking at a venue that can and does book more than one wedding at a time because they have multiple rooms make sure they are properly staffed. If each room doesn't get their own waitstaff I'd go someplace else because yes service would suffer because of it. As a bride I wouldn't mind seeing other women walking around in a wedding dress I'd love it actually and I'd be sooo excited for them. I know I'm not the only person getting married that day, and I think it'd be interesting to see the others.

Answer 3

Are you just talking about the "Wedding Day" or the whole idea of marriage? Traditionally the wedding is to give friends and family members a chance to celebrate with the couple, their committment to each other.
You don't have to go big and lavish, if you don't want to. We did a family wedding with a reception in a hall and the family helped cater, for under $2,000, and we had around 270 people there. So it can be done. But you should let your day be a reflection of what you both want, and if that's not lavish and flash, then don't give into the pressure to make it so.
Its a choice, just like everything else.

Answer 4

That's a resounding YES! It's just unbelievable the amount of money people throw away for weddings and half the time they end up in divorce, so people are just stupid. My husband and I had a quaint little ceremony with just family and close friends. Who was the wedding planner you ask? Well, that would be me. Hubby catered the wedding, he's a great cook. I only had a couple of "must haves" like a dress, and a cake. We told everyone to dress casual, I had a compilation of music for the reception, my mom's friend married us. I mean, we didn't spend that much money. A friend of mine donated the venue. I told everyone to bring their cameras. Just little things like that. And the best part about it is that everyone had the time of their lives as well as hubby and I. Sorry I went on and on, but back to your original question, YES, people just do what TV tells them to do.

Answer 5

Firstly you have to be objective. Most people who want a wedding are those who believe in the institution of marriage itself, and usually this is backed up by having a religion of some sort. Secondly,they believe also in the legal binding (marriage is like a contract of sorts) of a vow/agreement. This is why a small amount of money is needed to seal in an agreement like that, like all businesses do. By admonishing **why bother having a wedding** , it is almost saying every relationship does not need a solid foundation of trust which could be symbolically ***sealed*** by an exchange of vows in the eyes of God and law. Humans need some motivation in progressing towards making a relationship work. Thus the wedding itself is a way towards that motivation.

Answer 6

It is because they want to show their family and friends how commited they are to each other. Weddings can be nice without being outragously priced. My husband and I got married in 2001 and everything came to about $6,000. It was still very nice. We just didn't have an expensive caterer. Our family did all the food.

Answer 7

I agreee with you. You spend tons of money, get some cheap asss gifts and a million people critizing how u looked and how the food sucked. Thats why I eploed to vegas,... at the end of the day, its just u 2 anyways

Answer 8

i think its been so built into people that a wedding is important that they don't want to miss out! Especially some women, who have planned their weddings since childhood. I agree, weddings can be overdone and ridiculously expensive, but I want a day to celebrate my marriage if it ever happens:-)

Answer 9

I agree there are much better thing to spend that kind of money on. and what even worse is the female sex drive killing wedding cake... that just needs to go by the wayside....

Answer 10

weddings aren't that expensive at our wedding we only spent 3,000 and that includes my dress, his tux, sit down formal dinner, and the whole shabang! its all what you make it! its sort of like an investment in your marriage... the only thing i wish i would have diff is spend the extra money for a photographer instead of giving unlimited cameras to the guests