2007-07-06 07:49:25 · 12 answers · asked by nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its normal for men to do that..in fact its normal for anyone to do that. just be happy hes doing that at home and not with someone else. theres nothing wrong with you, but maybe sometimes they wanna watch porn and thats what turns them on, maybe thier embarressed to tell you what their into so they watch these films. try spicing it up and try something different, maybe he'll calm down with that a little and want to be with you more. its like a fantasy for them. its something they cant have so they watch it.
2007-07-06 07:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by luvleebabygurl22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There likely is nothing wrong with you..he's a guy..we think about sex a lot..good chance we think about sex more being married because it may not happen as often as we like..a lot of women question this and there are many reasons why a guy would watch porn and provide hands on satisfaction that are directed towards the wife, but mainly it's because he's a guy and it's porn. if you don't like it you can tell him so, but he will probably just be a lot more careful about when he does it and where he hides his stash.
2007-07-06 15:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by sportsfanstl1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thirty-three percent of pastors and 36 percent of laity admitted visiting a sexually explicit Web site, according to research published in 2006 by Christianity Today. Considering who was asking the question, what do you think the real numbers are? Generally that self-release they are engaging in means nothing about you - it's just a moment of temporary pleasure and release of tension. The guilt and shame about sex and pornography that most Christians are raised with, along with your judgemental reaction is the cause of the secrecy most men employ when they engage in these activities.
There's nothing wrong with you, talk it over with him and tell him how you feel. He'll probably just hide it better, but you never know.
2007-07-06 15:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by imaginaryintelligence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Nikki, there is nothing wrong with you for being upset by that behavior.
It is not necessarily normal for men to do this, it is something that a lot of men do though. Normal would mean that all men do it. That is not the case.
The problem here is that you don't like him doing that. Some women are fine with it, but you are not. This doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with either of you. It does mean that you and he have a problem though. The problem is that he does this without discussing with you if it is ok or if it hurts your feelings. He made a decision to do this without your knowledge, or after discussing it with you and knowing your feelings he still does it. Now that is disrespectful. Porn should never be so important to a guy that he chooses to do it even if it bothers his wife.
2007-07-06 15:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Since when did masturbation become a crime? As long as your spouse doesn't prefer masturbation to porn over sex with you, then you have nothing to worry about. My advise is to do more stuff more often so that your spouse is too tired and satisfied for jagging off to porn! Or is that too much trouble?
2007-07-06 15:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you..I say join him..one day just grab a movie and sit down with him and watch it with him..it will be a huge turn on for him..and you..might also spice things up..Just think he is jerking off to a tv not having sex with someone else..
2007-07-06 15:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Guys need variety. His hand is not a lot of variety but the ladies on the screen are. If you watch with him and get him off it is the best of both worlds.
2007-07-06 15:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could mean you ain't giving him enough lovin. He has a high sex drive and you ain't doing it for him so he must do something to relieve his tension. Consider talking to him and asking why he watches porn and is masturbating all the time.
He may give you the simple answer that he doesn't want to bother you for sex so he does this instead.
2007-07-06 15:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That's what guys do. Next time sit down beside him and touch yourself but don't let him touch you, watch how fast his attention turns from the porn to you.
2007-07-06 15:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he was married to a pornstar looking woman he would still probably be jerking off to pics of "you" if you had any.
2007-07-06 15:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by badunkadunkhunter 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋