Why am I still on My own at the old age of 33?

Question

It is nearly my 33rd Birthday and I am feeling down in the dumps cause I am still very lonely and need a partner in my life.

Answer 1

Some people go through life and never gt married. I can't see why you can't get a partner though, if you tried.

Answer 2

I am 58 and alone now, too. But I have to admit I have sort of chosen to be alone. You have heard, I am sure, that it is better to be alone than with someone awful. You don't want to settle, because that is what happens when you do -- you have an awful situation. You need to observe the couples that you know are together and have been for a while. Chances are, they have respect for each other, and always consider the other one's needs or desires. I have a girlfriend I've known since I was two years old. I know her parents also. They would always sit next to each other and hold hands and say they were so happy to be sitting next to the other one... always in public. It may have been a show, but now I see that it doesn't matter. Show or not, they may have grown to believe it. They've been together all their adult lives, and they SEEM happy! They both were always gorgeous people who could have gone elsewhere... That show may have been what kept them together.

I don't know if I have helped. But you are not really old. Hang in there. You'll meet someone when you least expect it. Good luck.

Answer 3

Please don't feel lonely.

I have a friend who married when she was 21, spent ten years unhappy, and has now got her divorce at aged 33 so is free and single. She couldn't be happier!

Are you happy in other areas of your life? Like work, and your social life? The more you go out, the more chance you have of forming new friendships and maybe a relationship.

Check out your local college for this coming September. Enrol on a night class, or do something fun, and new.

Good luck

Answer 4

Hi I have been single at 17, 28, 31, 36 and am now recently single after my bf was hung up on his ex (sound familiar!). I know how hard it is and how lonely it can get but please dont dwell on it, else it will become the slippery slope down to depression. When you feel low, be gentle on yourself and do things that make you happy, new cosmetics, bubbly baths, meeting up with friends.

I have friend who married in their 20's and are now single in their 30's and work with women single in their 40's. Please don't think this anything unusual, especially nowadays. It is more common than ever and it is the same for guys.l

Keep yourself busy and make plans so that you are not on your own at week-ends and bank holidays. I promise that you (and I!) will meet a really great guy who can make us really happy. Keep smiling! : ) x

Answer 5

The answer to this depends on many things such as do you get out and actually socialise much? Are you meeting new people? Are you sociable person? Are you wanting to actively date?
33 isn't old or over the hill you know. In fact many people these days are not marrying until they are into their 30's.
If you feel as lonely as you say then I suggest you perhaps join a dating agency or try to get out as often as possible in order to meet people.

Answer 6

There may be a number of reasons.
If you are physically unattractive (especially if you have high standards) it makes it much more difficult.
If you have a personality disorder people will avoid you like the plague.
If you have the kind of job where you have no time it makes things tricky.

but there are ways around all of those things if you keep an open mind.

OR
you just have had bad luck and that perfect person is going to find you soon.

Answer 7

33 is not too late. You should go out & try meeting new people. Go out on dates, go out with friends, get invited to parties & mingle with new people. You have to expose yourself if you want to find someone. One of my Auntie's in 38 years old, she is not married or have a boyfriend either. She lives a fairytale life, does not socialize with others & can never keep friends because of her bad attitude & being very over weight, no one wants to be with her. She will end up an old maid. You don't want to be like that, so go out & find what you are looking for!

Answer 8

This isn't the place to find love. Get off the computer and get active. Get involved in something you are passionate about and you will find other people there. Make friends. Any good relationship starts with "hi, how are you, would you like a cup of coffee(tea, soda, drink)?" Then you let them talk about why they are passionate about the same thing they are.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Stop dwelling on what you don't have and think about what you do have. You have a great personality, join some singles groups, book clubs, museum clubs anything that gets you out of your house and into the social scene. Get out there, live your life be happy with you, how are you going to be happy with someone until you are happy with your self???

Answer 10

Then stop sitting around feeling down in the dumps and go out and socialize. The only way to find a woman is to go out and meet people. Don't go to bars or clubs, because that only good for a one night stand. Go to sporting events, charity anything, just get out of the house. Even then you may never find that one true love, so try enjoying the fact that you are alive and healthy, and who know, she may find you.

Answer 11

First of all, butch up and stop talking about needing a partner. You need a partner for a three legged race not for life. Second, lower your standards, then you'll be beating them off with a stick.