and now he is made at me cause i got mad at him and now he want talk to me what do u think i should do i told him i was leaving we have two kids , and he dont seem to care??
2007-07-06 06:47:33 · 25 answers · asked by ashlmb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had the same problem with my wife, come to find out she accused me of things, to cover up what she was doing
2007-07-06 07:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by skcs11 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all most of the time when someone accuses you for something they are guilty within themselves. You may want to question some of his actions or at least pay closer attention to the things he is doing outside the house away from you.
I would diffently suggest getting out of his parents home. It seems as if he has way to much of a safety blanket. He has mommy and daddy, his wife, and his two kids at his very own disposal. I wonder if he would be acting the same way if you and him had a place of your own.
You may want to also talk with him about the struggles that you have and the wonder of his distrust in you, since you say that your sacrificing living at his parents and you never go anywhere. Get some friends, take advantage of his parents help with the kids, and the both of you go out and have a little fun together.
2007-07-06 07:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, talk to a pastor, a girlfriend or someone who's always got your back. Think very carefully about what you want to do - leave or stay - and think about how in practical terms, step by step, you would make it happen. Then while doing that, tell him you want to talk to him in private and as adults, level with him and ask him why he doesn't trust you. The bottom line is that in a relationship one person should not have to constantly prove something to the other. If he can give you no concrete reason for his suspicion then the problem is his and you will need to tell him that. If he cares, he'll try to work it out. If he doesn't care for the woman he married and the mother of his children, you would have lost nothing but gained some clarity about your relationship.
2007-07-06 06:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by Maya's Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have some mature discussions on the subject. Find out the details of why he doesn't trust you. Just what does he think you are doing in secrecy, or that you shouldn't be doing?
You should have talked about this at length, calmly, without argument. Instead you told him that you are leaving him, and that was probably a mistake. One simple argument is not enough to leave somebody.
So go back to him and tell him that you don't want to leave him, but that you were frustrated by why he doesn't trust you, and that you want to help him trust you and understand why he doesn't trust you.
Now, if that doesn't work, then the two of you need counseling, and if counseling doesn't work, then yes, then at that time you should leave him, but not until you have exhausted every possible way to fix this.
2007-07-06 06:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think communication is key. I think that once you are calm and not angry or mad you should sit with your husband, just the two of you. Ask him the reason why he does not trust. Tell him you have been honest and deserve honesty from his side. Once he tells you his reason. You can make your decision. Also analize your relationship. Are you two happy as a couple. Are your parents in law interfiring in your relationship.
Let me give you another advise. If say you are leaving....leave. Don't just use that because then it will have no meaning. Make sure to think before you say something as important as leaving. Maybe your husband did not take you seriously and that is why he acted that way because he knew that you were going to leave.
Talk to him. Communication is the best way to solve things!
Good luck!
2007-07-06 07:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by sweetsarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop acting like such a wimp. Seriously! What...does he think you actually have time to run off and do anything without the kids taggin along or his parents knowing? LOL
He doesn't trust you? No honey, he doesn't trust himself and he is bringing his drama on you. Trust is one factor that must be present in a relationship whether it's a business relationship, co-worker, friend, romantic. Any relationship needs trust. If he seriously does not trust you then you need to make a choice to either accept that and the issues it brings up daily or move on with your children to a better life.
2007-07-06 07:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That man is cheating on you and is mad that you are still around. He does not care that you are taking the children with you, because he has someone else to occupy his time, who probably doesnt have children. you both will continue to have problems. He probably thinking that you wouldn't want to put up with him and his bad attitudenor the way he's been treating you, that you would just leave. But, because you haven't he probably gets even madder at you for little petty crap. Leave Sweetie & the let the next lady sucumb his ignorance. Find someone for you or just raise your children to always want to be greater and do better than the man who hurt and has no respect for their mother.
2007-07-06 07:00:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortunate, however it seems to always pan out this way. Based on experience, it would seem as though he has the guilty conscience. If he becomes secretive, and keeps asking all the questions like "where u been?" "who you been with?" then it's probably him that needs to answer those questions.
As long as you are being honest with yourself and him, I would suggest confronting him and see what comes of it. If you need to move, then do that. Don't tolerate mis-treatment when you've done nothing wrong.
2007-07-06 06:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by paytaymak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start packing. Get a mean *** attorney that will take every penny he has (doesn't sound like he has much) and go get you a job girl. It doesn't matter if you have to flip hamburgers, do what you gotta do to make a dollar. Put every penny into getting an education for you and your children and then you won't need a man.
2007-07-06 07:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by Barn Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he say why he don't trust you? I think your husband needs to either talk about his problem so you can work things out. Why are you living with his parents?
2007-07-06 06:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most paranoid people feel that way because they're the one doing the cheating. Quit letting this man run your life and tell you what you can and can not do. Don't have any more kids with him either...follow through with your threat and leave with your children when you can.
2007-07-06 06:51:26 · answer #11 · answered by Sister Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋