Marriage & Divorce - 22 May 2007

I am a married man, but I find myself lusting after other women. I'm sure other men have this same problem. I want to be faithful to my wife, what do others do to fight the urge to lust?

2007-05-22 13:10:50 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I really want to tell ym friends that my parent s are getting a divorce but I have no idea how to tell them.

Should I just blurt it out?
Should I tell someone that I know can't keep a secret?
What?

2007-05-22 12:53:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife left (again) but this time she took the kids. I found out from a very credible and reliable source that she has stayed with them at three different houses in three days. I'm concerned since she's not a very stable person and I'm not sure where they are staying now. The kids are 2 and 7. Aside from CPS, who can I call to make sure they are safe and in an environment similar to what was at home (i.e. their own beds) if I can't get in contact with her?

I am planning on filing for divorce, but I need to know what I can do in the meantime.

2007-05-22 12:52:18 · 4 answers · asked by Alex W 2

2007-05-22 12:43:38 · 7 answers · asked by neilsil 2

My husband of 20 years runs two companies both deal primarily with one Big customer about a year & a half ago they hired this woman. The company isn't the smoothest running company to begin with and there are always problems...well this woman finds every reason to call that she can. Nights, weekends...you name it she is on the phone. Sometimes just to chat. My husband says he can't afford to tick her off they bring in too much money, I say there is nothing wrong with saying, "can we discuss this in the morning, I'm trying to spend some time with my wife." I have met her and she is nothing in the looks or body catagory. I do know she has a crush on my husband,We went to a black tie event this weekend and i went to the restroom and someone at our table said the second i got up she ran over to speak to him, she jumped up and ran back to her husband when she saw me come back in. I have had it! I need to hear from others on their opinion of the situation. I don't know what to do.

2007-05-22 12:40:24 · 23 answers · asked by gigi8499 2

My boyfriend separated from his wife 5 years ago. Initially, the court reduced visitation due to his flucutating blood sugars. Eventuallly he had to quit work, going on full disability, to prevent stress from throwing him into diabetic issues. After a long haul in court that included his doctors testifying that he was able to take care of his son, he was given 50/50 visitation. His son is 13 and this transition followed an incident where his wife's boyfriend slugged his son 6 times and his son asked for help.
Now his wife is fighting to pull custody back and in her battle is asking that ALL of his private medical records for all doctors, hospitals, and social security disability files be produced as evidence so that she can go fishing for more reasons to deny him joint custody or visitation based upon his disability.
DO YOU THINK THE COURTS SHOULD BE ABLE TO DEMAND THAT HE PRODUCE THESE PRIVATE DOCUMENTS TO HOLD IN A PUBLIC FILE SO THAT SHE CAN TRY TO FIND SOMETHING WRONG?

2007-05-22 12:31:27 · 5 answers · asked by Terry M 1

he is a bartender at a club

2007-05-22 12:29:04 · 14 answers · asked by debst2003 1

My boyfriend continues to watch porn and masturbate with these trash bags online.
I have expressed my feelings, i have cried, i have yelled I have cried over and over telling him that its killing me, that i cannot handle this.
he promises never to do it again, and then goes back into it.
we started seeking some councelling and even after the councelling he continues to watch.
At times he has not answered my calls because he is busy online
at times he has not made love, because he already got off on the trash online.
PLEASE..........i cant handle this anymore....please help me.

2007-05-22 12:27:44 · 25 answers · asked by littlecheekyme 1

2007-05-22 12:25:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been together for 6 years and married for 4 years.He is the best in every department that matters~sex, cooking, cleaning, the kids-good provider, etc.. I know him like a book, inside & out. I know when something is on his mind, I know what he likes and what he doesn't like, I know what he is gonna say & do before he says it or does it...I KNOW HIM. The problem is...he doesn't know me. He can't FIGURE OUT what is bothering me, as I can do with him. He doesn't know what I like or don't like, as far as gifts. Right now I have to tell him what I want for birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, etc. So there is never a suprise for me. (He'll probably start buying gift cards next)


It just seems like after all this time he should know me better than he does. I know he loves me, but he doesn't have a clue & I don't understand how that can be. I know the obvious ladies (he's a man, they're dumb-SMILE GUYS) but I am looking for some real insight here.

2007-05-22 12:12:18 · 10 answers · asked by BossLady 4

My boyfriend and I fight so much and have nothing in common that when I shake the 8 ball it predicts we are definate to not be with eachother in the future.We are having a baby and I just wonder what problems can my baby have in the future for not having a mom and dad who are not together.Would it be the same of having a divorced parent? I feel bad for my baby already but I also am only having this child for my boyfriend because he wants it.What do kids turn out like with just a daddy figure?

2007-05-22 12:07:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-22 11:52:09 · 4 answers · asked by Carlo 2

my hubby walked out 3 days after xmas leaving me and 4 kids. im having a really hard time coming to terms with it though im trying best 4 kids.we also have business together which he is running at minute i cant get access to accounts .he says he loves his kids and generally does see them regularly but if he takes a notion he will cancel at last minute leaving me to pick up the pieces again.help?

2007-05-22 11:41:45 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need some help with Ideas to do some nice things on a daily basis.

2007-05-22 11:38:17 · 18 answers · asked by ________________ 2

not like I look that much older than him. I am a very youthful woman so it does not look very drastic. I notice that we get a lot of stares when we are out, it's puzzling to me. To be honest, I did not think we would get so many stares because it is more accepted today for an older woman to be with a much younger man.

What do you think as to why so many stares? Is it that shocking?

2007-05-22 11:30:22 · 19 answers · asked by Momma K 1

When I want something so bad and my husband says no, I usually do it anyways. Like, I want another baby and I saw this really cute cradle. He said not to buy it but I did anyways and then snuck it in to the house. Another time, I really wanted a pet and he was so against it but I got one anyways and snuck it into the house.
I really want a swimming pool. I got this great deal on one but he says no because it will kill the grass and all this "nonsence".
I can get it and have it set up while he is at work but he's been really tolerant so far of my defiant ways.
Husbands, how much would you take if your wife kept doing things against your wishes?
How can I change his mind about getting a pool? I'd use it all the time!

2007-05-22 11:11:34 · 15 answers · asked by Jennifer S 4

2007-05-22 11:03:18 · 45 answers · asked by jalayman1 1

We never went before a judge or preacher or anything... Just went and got the liscence and he left me days later. I have thought this whole time that It was not official but now I'm engaged to a wonderful man and wondering... Im scared please help... I was 18 then and really really stupid...Thank you!

2007-05-22 11:01:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do I need to have my lastname chance before re marrying?

2007-05-22 10:58:49 · 10 answers · asked by carmeng_ramirez 1

I've been married for four years this June. My husband drinks a lot in my opinion. His normal routine is, go to work from 7-5pm without even going home, he goes to his brothers and drinks till 8:30-9pm, then on weekends a little past noon, he leaves again and I won't see him till close to midnite or after.

I have been left alone with my two boys so much that I'm curious if he just doesn't want to be married to me anymore. I've asked him and he tells me that isn't the cause, but why wouldn't he want to come home more or spend time with me then?

Give me some out look on this. This has been ongoing for close to three years. Am I justified to leave him? or am I not trying hard enough?

I'm only 23 yrs old, and I don't want to be a single mom for the rest of my life, but I feel with him being gone so much I already am a single mom.

Give me your opinon I'm curious. What would cause a man to treat someone he supposivly "loves" like this? Be honest too.

2007-05-22 10:49:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

She goes back for a court hearing in like 60 days.
I need to know if her ex can halt procedures. My family thinks he can.I don't know.Is it in the hands of the court system only? By the way she is in jail now.

2007-05-22 10:45:05 · 8 answers · asked by mercury's child 2

I don't have a question and it may be against the rules, but I don't feel I can tell anyone my feelings- who cares anyway...right? My husband is my problem. He just has a way of making me feel very little and like my every move should be about him. For instance: I work everyday just like he does (40 hrs a week). When I get home, he always finds something for me to do. Last night it was helping him with his job till 7:30 pm then we went to get groceries then when we got home, I cleaned house till 11:30 pm. I don't have to get up till 6:30 am. Well, he saw something that needed to be done before I get up so he comes in and kicks the bed and rants for 30 minutes about me not appreciating anything or I would be up doing things around the house. He got in bed the night before at 9:30 and I still have housework to do because I helped him when I got home. I feel I cant' please him. I'm so depressed. I don't want to leave but I am thinking of it. Ok.....I just wanted to vent.thanks

2007-05-22 10:44:00 · 19 answers · asked by sugarbud 3

My husband and I have been together for 3 years now and it seems like I am never in the mood to have sex with him. He always wants to have sex, he wants to so bad I catch him masterbating in front of the computer all the time. For some reason this turns me off and makes it so I do not want to have sex with him. Is there anything I can do to make it so that I am in the mood to have sex with him. It has been so long, almost a month since we have had sex and I dont know what to do. Any advise? Mature answers only please!

2007-05-22 10:38:59 · 9 answers · asked by Sara K 2

--the other person involved is not in love with her anymore and can do nothing to work on the relationship anymore

2007-05-22 10:38:37 · 21 answers · asked by sin-kit 2

i heard that for registering marriage under special act , the girl and boy should be present two times to the registrar, is it true ? i need to know this urgently? help me some one....

2007-05-22 10:34:46 · 2 answers · asked by akshay 1

I'm getting married in the next few months and my future wife and I have a small starter house we've been living in for a short time now. My wife-to-be asked me the other day if her 23 year old brother could live with us for the summer. At first I said sure, but then I found out it's likely to be more than a year (while her bro looks into grad school). I would have no problem with 6 months but over a year seems unreasonable given the fact that our house is so tiny and this will be our first year of marriage.

Currently her bro has his own place and tons of family live within 20 miles (but he doesn't want to stay with his parents). When I said something about our house being too small to my future wife she said we should just buy a bigger house asap then. I really think us having to now go buy a larger house and move to accommodate her bro is unfair. We have room enough for us and even a short term guest (2 small bdrms, 1 small bath, but no storage avail). So what should I do?

2007-05-22 10:25:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

i asked you guys befor afew minutes but i want an opinian i love agirl from the college in baghdad and now am in europ now and i want after 3 years to go back and marry her and i told her that she said to me ok things in proper time we are young now i told her wait and you will see

2007-05-22 10:01:55 · 2 answers · asked by aaaa a 1

My ex husband and I have been divorced for a few months but still have some legal things to unravel. He calls me from time to time and we talk about how things are going but sometimes the conversation gets ugly and I get upset. My boyfriend knows that I have to talk with my ex sometimes but I dont want to keep bringing up his name in front of him....I think he is uncomfortable with it all. Should I even tell him that I talked to my ex or just keep things open?

2007-05-22 09:53:16 · 19 answers · asked by Kelly 2

My ex got married exactly one week after I had him served with custody papers, hes 32 she is 21 my son is 7. Now the new wife is pregnant, I am wondering if this is going to hurt my chances at getting residential custody. My son has lived with me all but weekends since 2005, during that time I have recieved no support from my ex and have paid half of my sons school and other expenses. The ex is trying to get FULL custody from and collect child support from me.

People who have been through this, what kind of things does a judge take into account when deciding custody? I have two daughters with my husband of 5 years and we own both of our cars and our house. I know for a fact that my ex is in debt to his eyeballs.

I am NOT trying to take the child away from his father, I jsut want a schedule set, my son sees his dad all the time and that will not change. I need some peace in my life and hopefully a court order can help a bit.

2007-05-22 09:43:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why am I paying child support. His mother doesn't care if he lays around the house all day. I found out a few hours ago he quit school a year ago. Has no job, or any prospects for work. Are there any laws or statutes for the state of Flori-duh that would exonerate me from this agonzing torture? I have only seen this kid a few times in his life, and the fact is, he isn't mine by blood. Because I signed the birth certificate, the law in Florida says, I am legally responsible. I'm thirty eight, and tired of this.
My upbringing taught me not to help someone that refuses to help themselves. If he were still in school, or had a part time job, I have no quarrels. This is pure sorry. Any suggestions??

2007-05-22 09:42:20 · 10 answers · asked by richard r 2