--the other person involved is not in love with her anymore and can do nothing to work on the relationship anymore
2007-05-22 10:38:37 · 21 answers · asked by sin-kit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Between you and me, I can see why he left. No one wants to be held hostage in a relationship.
I would advise said woman that you never take a permanent solution to a temporary problem and she needs to know why she is so emotionally exposed
2007-05-22 10:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Also remember, the person you most want to impact by the act--will be least effected and the people you don't even think will be effected will be devasted. It is a painful legacy to leave behind to all those who care about you. I say this as a suicide prevention professional and a suicide survivor--my mother and brother both committed suicide.
Professional help is essential to the person who attempts.
2007-05-22 10:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by ellie0304 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can say they are being very manipulative, childish, dramatic and holding the other party (spouse?) emotional hostage. I am in this position now. My boyfriend was ending a relationship, he was no longer in love with "her" and knew that it was a destructive relationship not only for them but also for his children from a prior marriage (she was arrested and charged with child abuse). She realized that he was about to leave her so she "attempted" suicide to make him stay. He is still with her out of guilt and a sense of loyalty and for absolutely no other reason; he does not love her. He is hurting, I am hurting and ultimately she will be back to hurting. Why would you ever want to be with somebody who doesn't want to be with you, let alone attempt to kill yourself over them to keep them? This was a temporary and dramatic fix on major problems that will resurface after the shock and guilt wear off. Also, what a great example and role model she is to his teenage daughter, if your boyfriend is about to leave you attempt suicide to keep them. Pathetic. The truth of the state of their relationship will be back. People like this do need some serious therapy. They are insecure, selfish and manipulative people.
2007-05-22 11:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For attempted suicide call 911 and get her to the nearest ER. If talked about but not yet acted upon, direct her to the nearest doctor as an emergency case.
2007-05-22 10:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ian S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there... hurt so much that that option enters your mind. Get in counceling immediatly. Tell them that life will go on... the light at the end of the tunnel will show up eventually, it just takes time. In the meantime be by their side to take their mind off the other person. Physical activies are good... walking, tennis, swimming.
2007-05-22 10:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by mezmilkfreak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can say nothing but can sympathize with them. I feel someone has to be really brave to take thier own life. I think this is the most controversial issue there is. I hate to see people in that much pain that they feel the only alternative is suicide. It's very sad. I wish I could reach out to all the people who need help in this situation.
2007-05-22 10:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by PUREPASSIONN22 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hie Chinky. Well to me when your friend is trying to commit suicied, you should at least calm her down and try to bring her down, and from there just sit down and talk to her, well every problem has a solution and also there are many ways to solve it, but not by doing this stupid way of her taking out her life, because life is very preciouse, well if in this world everyone does that by saying this is the best way then there won't be anyone living in this world, instead it is better for her to think the bright side of it by not just thinking this one guy only. There alot more of guys in this world not him only. Try this and hope it might help her to think more better............
ALL THE BEST................
2007-05-22 10:47:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is just seeing what is in front of her Right now- tell her there is a horizon that she should be looking towards too, one does not kill ones self because someone does not love us anymore. Life is a precious thing that God has given us so who is she to take her life only HE can take life from us, NO ONE ELSE NO MATTER WHAT THE CIRCUMSTANCES ARE. :-)
2007-05-22 10:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Taz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That person is only looking for attention. My bf used to do that all the time. We just had a fight recently and he finally admitted that he was only doing that to get my attention, to make sure i wouldnt leave his a** . I'm still very angry at that because i've put up with so much sh*t just to help him and it turnsout he just did it for make me stay. GRRRRRRRRRRRR
2007-05-22 12:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them you still care and would be hurt deeply not only if they killed themselves but mainly if they were the cause of it and just let them sort it out but keep a close enough eye that they know you are there for them and you can make sure they wont end it
2007-05-22 10:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by all_your_poison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋