My boyfriend continues to watch porn and masturbate with these trash bags online.
I have expressed my feelings, i have cried, i have yelled I have cried over and over telling him that its killing me, that i cannot handle this.
he promises never to do it again, and then goes back into it.
we started seeking some councelling and even after the councelling he continues to watch.
At times he has not answered my calls because he is busy online
at times he has not made love, because he already got off on the trash online.
PLEASE..........i cant handle this anymore....please help me.
2007-05-22 12:27:44 · 25 answers · asked by littlecheekyme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is addicted. You need to get out of the relationship. Tell him it is over and not to contact you until he has gotten help with is addiction. There is a sex addiction anonymous meetings just like alcohol anonymous meetings. He needs to go to get help, plus there are a couple of books on the matter too. You need to stay away from and work on yourself.
2007-05-22 12:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dance 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-24 05:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way this screwed up culture turns everything into a commodity and makes it so addictive - yes porn is extremely addictive - it's no wonder you are suffering.
It's no wonder our grandmothers warned us against porn.
Still the deed is done and he is so hooked on the junk.
So lay it on the line for him. Tell him you know he's addicted to the junk and that he has a problem. Tell him you love him and you want to help him overcome this addiction.
YES IT IS AN ADDICTION.
He'll argue it isn't. But it is.
If he turns his back on you after you lay your heart on the line for him, then dump his ***.
But if he struggles and he tries and fails and tries....don't give up on him, ok? It's damned nasty stuff to get over and you never really ever get over it because it is like a designer drug....it's designed to latch onto the one thing that makes a male who he is.
But it's absolutely rubbish and it's empty and it shouldn't be allowed. And it is the fault of the culture here for permitting such easiness towards it.
2007-05-22 13:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 02:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by allateef 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a couple things:
ALL men look at online porn. It's free and it's all over the place. If he looks at "live" porn (like webcams), that's a whole different story, just like him playing you dirty, cause he can communicate with the naked women. Ditch him.
SOME men have an internet or porn (or both) addiction that is a disease (really!!) like drugs or gambling addictions. If he goes to counseling just cause he's trying to shut you up and then goes back to the computer, then find yourself a real man. You don't need the aggravation.
2007-05-22 15:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, having been in this situation, I just wanted to let you know that he will probably never change. My husband made promise after promise for 15 years. He is incabable of having an intimate relationship, and I have paid for it, with depression and low self esteem. They don't realize that to us it feels like an affair. They never get it. I first forbid it in my house, then I tried to accept it, then I would watch the movies with him and I even accepted it, which made it even worse. I finally realized that it wasn't about me, it was a problem he had and could not control.
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2016-04-23 01:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by maisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as thought your bf is addicted to porn. It's a sexual addiction. I would advise you to find a counselor who specializes in sexual addictions. While couples counseling is a nice try, it certainly is not step #1 in changing this behavior. He needs individual counseling and a 12-step program if he's serious about kicking his addiction.
You also could benefit from some individual counseling to deal with your codependencies and learn to set boundaries for yourself.
2007-05-22 13:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you state the obvious and answer your own question and then ask on here? You don't like what he does, you addressed the issue, he renigged on his promise to stop, you are an emotional wreck. Move on whats the question?
2007-05-22 12:39:44 · answer #9 · answered by ems2000tab 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People who are addicted to porn have shown that they are incapable of handling a normal relationship. Leave him and his porn babes can wash his dirty underwear.
2007-05-22 12:35:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋