My husband and I have been together for 3 years now and it seems like I am never in the mood to have sex with him. He always wants to have sex, he wants to so bad I catch him masterbating in front of the computer all the time. For some reason this turns me off and makes it so I do not want to have sex with him. Is there anything I can do to make it so that I am in the mood to have sex with him. It has been so long, almost a month since we have had sex and I dont know what to do. Any advise? Mature answers only please!
2007-05-22 10:38:59 · 9 answers · asked by Sara K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Which came first? Him masturbating in front of the computer, or you not wanting to have sex? If you don't want to have sex because he's looking at other women, I can appreciate your feelings. But, if he's doing it because you won't particpate in the marital relationship department, what do you want him to do?
Marriage and all that goes with it is a 2 way street. You both have to be willing to give each other 100% or it's not going to work. You both need to show each other that your spouse is the most important person in the world for you.
Men, you have to be willing to sacrifice yourselves for your wives. If you are willing to go the extra mile for her, she will do it for you, too.
Why aren't you in the mood? Has he been mean or abusive? Has sex always been a chore for you? If so, perhaps you need some counseling.
Both of you need some time together, away from the regular hustle and bustle and re-discover why you got married in the first place.
Good luck.
2007-05-22 10:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by maninthemirror327 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this, would you be in the mood to have sex with someone else ? Lets leave morals and married out of it. If the answer is yes then you are in the mood am I right ?
2007-05-22 17:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about just do it?
PS
GM DEALER: Withholding sex as a punishment is not good for the relationship is not a good thing. Being a couple is a partnership not a dictatorship. If you remove either sex or love from a relationship the relationship will end.
2007-05-22 17:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HEY IF YOUR MARRIAGE IS IMPORTANT TO YOU, THEN YOU BETTER GET ON YOUR JOB, BEFORE HE TURN TO THE OUTSIDE.OLD SAYING GOES,WHAT YOU WANT DO, THE OTHER WOMEN WILL.FIND OUT WHY YOU ARE NOT SEXUAL ACTIVE, AND FAST.YOUR DOCTOR WOULD BE AN GREAT START,IF NOT TALK TOO YOUR GIRL FRIEND I'm SURE THEY CAN GIVE YOU SO KIND OF ADVICE..BUT HURRY, HE'S ALREADY MASTURBATING AT THE COMPUTER.TIME IS TICKING
2007-05-22 17:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by lavell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See this is the problem with men and women.
Man need to orgasm, wife no help.
Man look at computer to orgasm, wife get mad, no help.
Man move to living breathing woman for orgasm, wife at home alone.
Seriously, snap out of it and get over yourself. Once you get warmed up, you forget you were not in the mood.
2007-05-22 17:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Come on guys have needs. If you won't take care of him let his hand's do the work. Stop tripping. Damn. Either that or some cute chick from down the block. So pick one.... Hand.....or Cute chick form down the block.... or do your job
2007-05-22 19:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you two need a nice weekend away.in the country or at the beach..Nice walks in the country or the beach at sunset does wonders..
2007-05-22 17:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by ken 2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to explore and find out what turns you on.
2007-05-22 18:03:49 · answer #8 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat hunnie. I TRIED to tell my hubby how i felt about it, but he doesn't listen. I told him i was upset and didn't want to anymore because he just lays there and doesn't want to do anything at all. He won't kiss me, touch me, nothing. So i am cutting him off. But you can tell him what's bothering you.
2007-05-22 17:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋