Do you think divorce settlements and child custody are fair to men?

Answer 1

I don't think they are fair to men. I think they need to go on a case by case basis and not just automatically send the children with their mother.

Sometimes the dad really is better equipped to handle them. Giving birth to a baby doesn't automatically mean you will be a good mom. Giving birth to a baby only proves your anatomy works.

My boyfriend has custody of his 3 children and his ex-wife pays him child support, but we all know that is a rare thing.

Answer 2

Not all the time. There really are some fathers out there that would love to have custody of their children. On the other hand, a lot of the fathers that say they want more time with the child don't do anything to change the arrangements, and they are always complaining about the child support they have to pay. In the case of my parents, neither was really fit to raise children. They are good people, they just really didn't know what they were doing. My dad was always telling me that he couldn't wait until I turned 18 so he didn't have to pay child support. On the other side, my mother was chasing the child support checks, but she never used them for the kids. I understand that paying bills is part of raising a child, but she didn't even do that. We never had any new school clothes, but she always had new clothes and shoes, etc.. Now days it seems really hard for courts and lawyers to make sound decisions, because you never really know the truth the whole truth.

Answer 3

nope! Even when the father gets custody there are still issues.

My husbands ex 12 years ago had custody after the divorce for about 6 months during the divorce she asked the court for him to pay for school for herself, medical, and child support. She didnt get the schooling but he paid over the allowed amount (18%) of his wages since he had a roommate.

6 months later he got custody because she decided to move. Then the court made him pay for medical and she had to pay the minimum amount in child support ($100). Now, they have added ( 7 years ago) that he pays visitation costs (plane tickets) round trip which is about $1500 a year. Which guess what! that means IF, IF, IF she paid child support he is still out $300 in visitation costs. to break even.

BTW, we have had custody for 12 years, and she still has not paid. It was just recently that the court put a warrant out for her arrest, after 12 years... If that were a man...only a few months would have gone by and he would have been in jail and paying more than that regardless of how much he made.

Answer 4

I would have to say no. I have worked in child welfare and even when the father is by far the better parent it takes many court visits and alot of work to get the judge to transfer primary custody away from the mother. Also it seems to be easier for the mother's to win primary custody back - again even when it would be better for the child to remain w the father, grandparents etc

Answer 5

Been there, done that and the courts are not as fair with fathers than mothers. One time my new family was having serious money problems and requested a decrease in child support. I was denied the decrease and was told that the first family has precedent over the new family. As an aside, one time my former wife sent me a bill for band-aids she used on my son because I was responsible for his medical care. My current wife blew a casket!!!!!!!

Answer 6

no no no ,,, settlement fine.. custody and child support no.. men rarely win a custody battle ,child support goes so some much per cent of a guys income in my country, and take out of there wages ,they struggle to live... access rules are a hassle , women never keep to then , heaps of dad denial to see kids through women, cost money for them to take it to court again,,, need to be a fair system here....

Answer 7

The question is rather moot. As long as the court's decision is fair to the child, it matters not if it's fair to men, women or the family dog.

Answer 8

For the most part no. There are a lot of good men out there who get screwed by the b*tches out there with alimony and child support. But there are also those dead beats who think they don't have to take responsibility for their kids if they don't want to. I don't believe in alimony period. You shouldn't have to pay a grown person who is fully capable of working money to pay their bills.

Answer 9

Of course not, courts are using outdated models for setting up child custody issues. The thinking was that mothers make better care givers, however that isn't true. Fathers make better parents always have. Women no longer have the time or ..... to raise kids properly. That isn't the case with men.

Kids are better off with fathers.

Answer 10

Each one is different. It goes by who has the best lawyer and which judge you get. I have seen some that were not fair at all!