my hubby walked out 3 days after xmas leaving me and 4 kids. im having a really hard time coming to terms with it though im trying best 4 kids.we also have business together which he is running at minute i cant get access to accounts .he says he loves his kids and generally does see them regularly but if he takes a notion he will cancel at last minute leaving me to pick up the pieces again.help?
2007-05-22 11:41:45 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think if he's already gone, I would file for divorce. He obviously doesn't want the relationship anymore, so why should you? You may still love him, but obviously over his actions, he isn't such a caring person anymore. Set up firm visitation. Where he gets them on regular basis. Every other weekend, and so on. It sucks that he's irresponsible and so self absorbed that he isn't coming to see them at times when he said he would. One main thing, don't talk negatively about him to your children. That's still their dad. (That's one thing I hated my mother for doing) Take care and good luck honey.
2007-05-22 11:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by pcchocoholic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-20 04:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by isabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell your children when he is coming so that they are not disappointed.
You cannot control what he is going to do with Legality or any other mode of conduct.
Your angry at him and it shows,if he's still providing for the children and your financially alright why should you worry what he does?
Get yourself a baby sitter and get out and enjoy yourself,why wait around for the selfish fool,it's his life hes recking not yours.
If he is not providing then seek legal advise,and get what is rightfully yours.
Are you concerned that he is not running the Business properly,if so get advise on how you can still have a hand in it.
2007-05-22 22:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by live life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need some legal advice. Is he supporting the kids as he is obliged to do. The legal aspects of the company need sorting out.What about the house. Who is paying the mortga ge? /and is it being kept up to date. Will you be able to continue living in the house with the kids. You will need answers to all these things and more.Also the visiting rights to see the children have to be established,. . .
2007-05-22 11:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak with a lawyer start taking matters into your own hands. It sounds like you are the one trying to do all the right things and he is just suiting his self.
Every child needs there parents and its cool that you are trying to do the best for the kids, but he is not doing whats best so you have to force him to do whats right.
Get on that phone lady!
2007-05-22 11:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by howyagonnaknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a divorce and make sure you have a good attorney!! You need to cut all ties with him, business. Don't let him take the children every time he says he will that way when he does get to see them, he will be grateful but wait a minute a man like that couldn't be grateful anyway. You need to get a really really good attorney. Good luck and I hope you can get through this and be strong!!!
2007-05-22 11:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thing of yourself and your children.
Go see a lawyer and sort out child support.
A lawyer is needed if the buisness needs splitting or he needs to buy you out.
Take time to come to terms with it, it won't be easy and it will take time.
Talk to someone and cry if you need to, and make sure that you are honest with your children and don't lie to cover up for your husbands mistakes, children know.
Good luck with everything and it will get better
2007-05-22 11:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd get a job somewhere else to make sure I made my own money to support me and my kids. Well, your kids are seeing for themselves that Dad is not acting like himself. This hurts them a lot. You should set up regular visitation just like he would have to do if you were divorced. That bring stability to the kids. Let him call them any time he wants. Never, EVER, run him down to the kids. They will make their own judgement about him. He is still their Dad.
2007-05-22 11:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mamapie2u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several questions come to mind here. Have you seen an attorney? If not, get there NOW. Is he paying regular child support and alimony if warranted in your state? Could you benefit from public aid? Don't just sit there and take this any more. You and your kids deserve more than this.
2007-05-22 11:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by mojo52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get legal advice and a divorce meaning he has to pay maintenance and will seek access to the kids, he has you dangling on a string. Cut that string and go get this officially sorted out! He left not you he is the one who betrayed his marraige vows. Do something now. Good luck!
2007-05-22 11:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋