Marriage & Divorce - 22 May 2007

2007-05-22 06:20:10 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

We waited until we were married to have sex (for the most part) and now that we are, I am finding out that he doesn't even want it but like once a week! It is the source of many fights because i want to all the time! I thought it was s'posed to be the other way around. Any married ladies out there have the same problem? He understands that I want it a lot, but he's just never in the mood...or he's tired...or it's too late...he always has an excuse. What can I do?

2007-05-22 06:11:09 · 17 answers · asked by FlyingRed99 1

My ex-husband keeps leaving me nasty voicemails and I don't return his calls. In fact, most of the time I dont' listen to his voicemails.

Today, I just happened to and he said "You think that you can damage people's lives and get away with it. You don't return phone calls and respond to niceness." "You have created so many problems for me and stolen things from my house. Return them to me."

I did NOT take anything from his house. He said it was okay for me to stay there while he moved away due to job reasons.

He is a control freak and abusive.

I am at my wit's end and don't know how or if I should respond.

Any suggestions?

2007-05-22 06:06:17 · 31 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

I I have been Married for 7 years and we dated for 5 before that. Now he is rude to me all the time. One minute his is nice then the next her is making ugly remarks and just trying to start a fight. Last night he left for the gym in a good mood and when he came home he was mean and grumpy saying" When ar eyou goin gto fold that laundry you just did" and on an on and on! We go MONTHS without having sex and he blames it on various things. We have a 5 y/o daughter and we have a baby on the way I am 29 weeks pregnant. I got pregnant on the rare occassion that we were intimate and he is ugly about it saying he does not want another baby and even told me I should get an abortion. Then the next minute he apologizes and acts like everything is o.k. I really dont believe in divorce nor have we discussed it but I DRED going home. I never know what kind of mood he will be in and I am so tired of the arguing. I dont think he is cheating. I just think he is feed up with being married.

2007-05-22 05:57:10 · 16 answers · asked by Desa 3

My husband and I separated a year ago, our divorce became final in Feb, after a 15 year marraige. I left because I wasn't happy. I had lost respect for him. My husband wasn't very ambitious. It seemed like whatever success we had was because I got us there. I worked overtime to get us extra money for family vacations, to get us into a house. I took care of my son and his kids (the youngest now 20), he did nothing to help. I felt like I was doing the work of two and if I could succeed for both of us, I could surely do it on my own!

Well, he's changed. He has started his own business. He goes to work everyday. He is taking care of his bills, the house he rents, the pets he has of ours. He doesn't just sit on the couch!

And I miss my old life. I miss my pets. I miss the routine. I haven't spent a lot of time with him, but we talk quite a bit and get along better than we ever have.

Do you think it could work?

2007-05-22 05:52:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'd been with my boyfriend for 2 years and although I loved him alot I was falling out of love with him and couldnt see us having a future together. I finished with him about a month ago, although we'd be arguing long before then. I've let him live rent-free in my house and I've moved in with my mum until he finds somewhere else, mostly because I felt so guilty for ending it. I had hoped that he would change and we could perhaps try again in a few months. But he keeps putting off moving out as he's spending all his money on alcohol and not getting the rent together to move out. He also keeps texting me telling me he's got a great new girlfriend who's great in bed and sent me a photo of them together, but yet he still begs me to get back together with him. Obviously now I know there is no chance of me ever taking him back, but I still feel devastated because I thought we would be together forever, and very hurt by how cruel he's being. Any suggestions to help me move on??

2007-05-22 05:47:53 · 22 answers · asked by Holly 1

A friend of mine has been married for 5 years, they have one daughter 4 years old and have been trying to have another child (through invitro, with no luck).. and his wife basically doesnt want to have sex anymore, no interest at all. it's like all she wants is the baby but no concern about having a physical relationship, he has talked to her about this and she keeps telling him that maybe her libido might come back someday, but there is nothing she can do about it... I am trying to help him but their issues are complicated and i need help.. he doesnt want to be married to someone who doesn't understand that he has physical needs aws part of a marriage, and he still loves her very much..

2007-05-22 05:31:46 · 31 answers · asked by nealfc 2

During a girls' night out, one of my closest girlfriends confided something to me...

She and her husband are in a Dom/sub relationship. He's the Dom and she's the sub anyway, she said her hubby wants to get her a "pet" to play with...it's been a long standing fantasy of his....he wants to watch her "play" and he also wants to participate...all this is okay however, this is where it starts to get on shaky ground....the "pet" he fantasises about is a sixteen year old girl....(okay, he can't be hung over a fantasy) however, she told me her husband really wants it to happen.

Does this mean he is a pedophile, or one in the making?

2007-05-22 05:30:30 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

and he came up to you and immediately kisses you and holds you and then looks at you and smiles and you are super attracted to him....how would yu react?

My bf of 3 months did this and I have never had a guy do this EVER.
I mean other than chatting throughemails for a month prior...this is what he did whenhe first met me in person....but hey it worked out.

2007-05-22 05:28:05 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with the same man for 7 years now, we have lived together for 6 years and we have 1 child, 18 months. I love him. However, when I met him, he said he had been separated for 2 years, (I confirmed this), and he was going to get a divorce. However, through the years we have been together, he kept telling me, "I will get a divorce", to this day, it hasn't happened. He said when his 16 year old son, with his wife, is 18, he will get a divorce. I don't want to get married, I just feel he has been lying to me this entire time. We actually both filed for divorce at the same time (because he INSISTED that I get a divorce), mine is finalized, however, he never did anything to finish his. He honestly believes that there is nothing wrong with this. I do. I work, he works. What your take on this? Help.

2007-05-22 05:27:41 · 14 answers · asked by Only In Dreams 2

what common goals, and common values and beliefs that you guys have that keep you happily married?

also I need to ask you, my boyfriend and I grew up in the same church, his mom is just as religious as my mom,

yet the thing is he doesn't go to church anymore and I still do. He visits with me from time to time but he doesn't attend reguarly and doesn't plan to if we get married. Now we have the same religion and both believe in God, but I attend and depend on God, where he just believes in God but depends on himself. What does this mean for our future?

Mainly what can I find out about me and my boyfriend, like common goals and stuff to see if we wil last and be happy in the future

2007-05-22 05:26:29 · 7 answers · asked by Melissa 1

I spent an entire weekend with my cousin. She has been married 24 years. During the entire marriage her husband has painted this nasty adultress picture of her. Well she learns yesterday that he has been dating secretaries from his job. He has moved her to a different state and we are from Florida. He finally admitted to her that he was quility. I told her to move back to Florida and get away. He really had me fooled. All weekend I'm thinking this poor quy. Come to find out he has had long relationships with 3 different secretaries. Now he is talking about the one at his new job. I told her their relationship needs to be over. She can't trust him to go to work without starting a relationship there. I work, but don't feel the need to sleep with someone there. Is it just me or does anyone else see a pattern.

2007-05-22 05:21:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have an aquaintance who is really stingy with his money, I'm talking really cheap. A year ago he was engaged , but the girl broke it off after she finally realized how cheap and inconsiderate he was. So he's engaged again, and I found out from his sister that he took the stone out of his ex-fiance's ring and put it in a different setting. He told his sister that if the new girl asked about the old ring to lie and say he gave it to her and she sold it. His sister and he aren't very close, but she doesn't want to cause problems with him for her parent's sake. He has already lied and said the diamond is a full carat and it's not. I feel horrible that this sweet girl is going to start out her new life with a lie. This guy is going to ruin her life. I don't feel that it's my place to tell her, but I can't get this out of my head. I'd want to know if it were me. What would you do? Would you care if another girl had already worn this stone?

2007-05-22 05:17:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for 4 years. He is 23 yrs old. I love his so much, but for the past 5 months my husband has become someone totally different. It all started 5 months ago when he joined a group of men that reinact WWII stuff around the country. My Christian, decent, awesome husband has become a short tempered, drinking and smoking individual who has quit spending time with me and our 2 yr old son. My husband jumps when ever the leader of this group calls him. My husband drops whatever he's doing and runs to meet with him. My husband is missing work, Dr.'s appts, family get together's etc... for these people. It's almost like an obsession.This is really taking its tole on me and our son. My husband and I fight all the time and I just discovered he is taking out large sums of money out of our bank account. We have tried to talk everything out the past two weeks. But it's not getting better. Not to sound cliche' but I am starting to lose that lovin feelin. Any insight?

2007-05-22 05:12:34 · 28 answers · asked by Amy L 4

2007-05-22 05:11:34 · 11 answers · asked by Tai 2

If you have small kids and property and ten years of shared experiences and still care about one another, is a temporary thing by one of you worth ending the marriage over? This is what my husband is asking me as I divorce him for adultery.

2007-05-22 05:02:45 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-22 05:02:13 · 14 answers · asked by wowcanusayit 2

the guy that i am so in love with keeps getting this girl pregnant and tells me that he can't leave her now because of the kids. she just had the second kid. i don't know if i should wait. i am so in love with him. i would be willing to wait if he tells me to. he doesn't even tell me where he sees me and him going. i have been in this relationship too long to let it go.

2007-05-22 04:56:55 · 15 answers · asked by HEARTBOUND♥ 4

2007-05-22 04:47:21 · 12 answers · asked by scattydiva 1

me & my gf are supposed to be getting married but there are serious issues. first, she no longer wants to communicate when there is a prob. she sweeps it under the rug or she doesn't want to talk about it like an adult. she has 2 kids. they are 2 & 7. i have been repeatledly hit on lately by her kids. i have tried to be involved in their lives but they have said "i'm nt the father". they don't listen to me & when i tell her about it she seems as is she doesn't care. when she got her tax returns back in march & got $6000 back & blew the money. we were supposed to get our own place but that's on hold cust we don't have the money & i have medical issues & am trying to pay those bills while saving money. i feel like honestly i'm being taken advantage of. the real mystery is that she gave her ex $60 she still hasn't told me why. i feel like i'm backed in a corner with no answers. that's some of the probs. what should i do. try to work it out or leave.

2007-05-22 04:31:34 · 39 answers · asked by jack 1

Been married 19 years, 17 year old daughter. Husband is 42 and I am 54. He has been living in his own apartment for 9 months because after I caught him cheating 18 months ago he said we needed to put some space between us in order to rebuild our marriage. He said that there is no one in his life that he had worked out a lot of issues which he had, that sometimes people think they have found gold but then realise they had it all the time. He has given me to understand that he is ready to come home but wants to give himself till the summer to be sure thats what he wants. He comes back 4 days a week and stays away 3, but I was wondering whether making him jelous is a good idea. I told him I was staying away for the night as I am going with some friends to another town and he wasn't very happy about it, but am I making a mistake if I want him back? I mean, should I just be patient for a little while longer? I am finding this difficult to do.

2007-05-22 04:28:48 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I tried, according to court guidelines, sending letters to family members, child support, parole board and web yellow pages sites. I sent certified letters to those who came up in searches...not him. He has never had a driver's license or ever served in military. How can I susbstantially meet the court guidelines and not pay for private detective to search for him? We seperated in 1994 and I haven't seen him since I left the state in 1999

2007-05-22 04:25:39 · 9 answers · asked by Kimberly T 2

If I am feeling sad or down and need some compassion or someone just to look me in the eyes and make me feel like he cares, he thinks all I want him to do is fix it. He gets frustrated and doesnt want to deal with it. I am not high maintanence but need someone to just listen and respond once in awhile. Should I focus on dealing with a girlfriend rather than trying to get him to help me feel better about things? Is there any advice on this? Thanks.

2007-05-22 04:23:39 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

Even when child is already big enough …
How bad is could be?

2007-05-22 04:18:19 · 32 answers · asked by awg 2

are are some important things that you and your significant other have in common?

please only asnswer if you have been together for more than 7 years!

if you have nothing in common do you think that the relationship can last?

you know when people say opposites attract...is that a lie?

2007-05-22 04:15:04 · 14 answers · asked by Melissa 1

Does it only apply to emotionally immature men going through mid-life crisis?

2007-05-22 04:02:55 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous

I personally don't know any married couples that are happy,

my parents have been unhappily married for years, and my sister got married 6 years ago and is very miserable she told me that she loves him but regrets marring him,

I just feel so confused, because I love my boyfriend but I am so scared that I won't be happy either, how do I avoid being unhappliy married, How do I know that we'll be happy in the future how do I know if he's the one?

and I don't believe that time will tell b/c my sister and her husband dated 5 years before they got married!

please if you are happliy married tell me why, if you are not tell me what you wish you did differently or what you wish you knew before you got married, or divorced

2007-05-22 04:01:52 · 15 answers · asked by jasima c 1

I am really wondering this, I had a guy flirting with me like crazy and when I responded (which was very little) he backed off. It drove me nuts wondering why, i mean this guy was winking staring, complimenting my look, making deep deep eye contact with me, and then backed off. Then one day I heard him speaking to someone and I heard him say "my wife and kids" and he said it when i was close enough to hear. Could not believe it!!!!! I felt so stupid!! He is still flirting with me, but I don't give him the time of day. But he won't give up. What"s the deal?

2007-05-22 04:01:38 · 26 answers · asked by Maria 5

She wants me to send money to immagration officer so she can come to visit me and to marry me.I must know if this could be a scam?

2007-05-22 03:55:45 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I use to believe that if it's ment to be it will last but if it's not ment to be it will fall apart? yet acoording to the divorce rate that is just not the case!

I personally don't know any married couples that are happy, my parents have been unhappily married for years, and my sister got married 6 years ago and is very miserable she told me that she loves him but regrets marring him, I just feel so confused, because I love my boyfriend but I am so scared that I won't be happy either, how do I avoid being unhappliy married, How do I know that we'll be happy in the future how do I know if he's the one?

and I don't believe that time will tell b/c my sister and her husband dated 5 years before they got married!

please if you are happliy married tell me why, if you are not tell me what you wish you did differently or what you wish you knew before you got married, or divorced

2007-05-22 03:52:22 · 26 answers · asked by Melissa 1