I tried, according to court guidelines, sending letters to family members, child support, parole board and web yellow pages sites. I sent certified letters to those who came up in searches...not him. He has never had a driver's license or ever served in military. How can I susbstantially meet the court guidelines and not pay for private detective to search for him? We seperated in 1994 and I haven't seen him since I left the state in 1999
2007-05-22 04:25:39 · 9 answers · asked by Kimberly T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe he is dead!!!
2007-05-22 04:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by L 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
depending on the state you live in, the court will issue the divorce if his where abouts are unknown. You will need proof of your search for him and present them to the courts. Some states you don't need the spouse to sign off on a divorce. Good luck.
2007-05-22 04:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by staydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends had the same problem. She went to the courts and they then tried to send notice to her ex's previous known address and since he was not there they granted her the divorce. The procedure might be a bit different depending on what state you married in, but you should be able to find help for it.
2007-05-22 04:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by Twizzle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set a hearing date with the court and bring all the proof of intent that you have. Every single certified letters is proof of you making every effort to contact him.
Judge should grant you the divorce and anything that you asked for at that point.
2007-05-22 04:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't you have an attorney? I believe that when somebody is not locatable a notice can be published in a certain number of publications (newspapers; legal section) for a specified period of time serving notice on an individual. I have seen such publishings on occassion when I glance at the legal section.
2007-05-22 04:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to have him served to get a divorce. If reasonable effort has been made to serve him, you can sue on abandonment issues and get a very fast divorce. What lawyer have you been using? The one you have is trying to get all the money from you he can. Stop with the worry and file as abandoned...that is all you need do. good luck
2007-05-22 04:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure where you live, but in pennsylvania where I live, it is 2 years. so once you get a lwayer, and file those papers with the court... when 2 years hits, the divorce goes through anyway.
I was int hat situation, but she had the papers, she just wouldn;t sign them.... but after 2 years, they went through anyway.
might want to check with a lawyer on this, they should know for your state.
2007-05-22 04:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by blah blah blah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the court. This happens every day; they have a proceedure to follow, under which, upon completion, they consider that you have served constructive notice and will go forward.
2007-05-22 04:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by wizjp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually if you have looked and couldn't him, they may have you post it in a newspaper. If he doesn't answer they will grant the divorce. It happens a lot.
2007-05-22 04:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋