how is difficult for a man to date a girl with a child??

Question

Even when child is already big enough …
How bad is could be?

my son is 16 now ..

Answer 1

I think it depends on the situation. Someone on here was talking about getting custody of their child and the kid needing therapy and stuff. I wouldn't want to come into that and start dealing with all the drama. So I probably wouldn't start the relationship. But I'm with a man and I have a child who is well behaved, well adjusted, relatively young (just starting school) and has a good relationship with her birth father (even though I don't, we're civil because of our child together). So my fiance adjusted well to being with me. It has been hard for him because of the "instant family" thing. Sometimes he wants to do something spontaneous and I have to plan, plan, plan. (no sex on the kitchen table in the middle of the afternoon) But I have to give him a lot of credit for rolling with the punches. He loves me and now he loves her too. So we clicked. If you find the right man, it probably won't be a problem unless you make it a problem.

Answer 2

It all really depends on the age of the child, how the mother is going to react to his dating (if he has dated others in the past or if you are the first relationship), and how you yourself are prepared to deal with it. The child can be a blessing or your worst nightmare, just depends on how you want to look at it. However, take note of the fact that this makes him a good man/father for simply helping raise the child in the first place.

Answer 3

I think this depends a lot on the individual situation and of course, the man.

If a man has no children of his own and wants a family, it is very difficult. Your child is a constant reminder that there has been somebody else before him, in your life, and that is something each man hates.

Then, men know they can never compete for your love with your child, so to them it is brutally clear they always will come second. It makes them very, very sad.

If, however, the man has own children, the emotional balance is neutral and the before said issue do not exist.

Answer 4

What's "Big Enough"??. See alot of men(along with women) don't like to date women(or men) with children after a certain age, because after a child gets to that point of age their already stick in there ways. Which makes it difficult for the parent to date other people besides the mother or father of the child. They just feel like they don't wanted to go though the drama.

Answer 5

Depends if the man likes the child. Some men prefer not to date woman that have children.

Answer 6

If the man loves and cares about you, he will love and care about your child and be excepting of it. My fiance never thought he'd date a woman with a child already, but when he met me, he said he fell in love and the fact that I had a child just didn't matter. Of course, there is a certain level of maturity that has to come along with being able to except a child from another man/woman when you're in a relationship.

Answer 7

Not difficult at all, my girlfriend has an 11yr old son. But i guess it works both ways, as i have a 3yr old son and a 20mth old daughter who live with me full time. But even if the bloke didn't have any kids himself, then if he was serious about the woman, then he should be able to accept that the kids come as part of the package.

Answer 8

It be harder for the woman than the man to be honest. If u find a man who likes ur child in a normal healthy way. It should be plane sailing.

can u find a man u can trust with ur children and u must not let the new man in ur life take over and leave ur child/children feeling second best.

Answer 9

How old is the child? Anyone you date and bring home with effect how the child sees you and views you. Always remember that. Also have you thought about what to do if the relationship does not work out and the child really likes him?

Answer 10

If u don't have any children this could b a block in the relationship b/c that isnt a common ground. If u really like her and she has a good relationship w/ the child's father, I say go 4 it.