people say that when you have common interest it make love last, what do you guys have in common?

Question

are are some important things that you and your significant other have in common?

please only asnswer if you have been together for more than 7 years!

if you have nothing in common do you think that the relationship can last?

you know when people say opposites attract...is that a lie?

Answer 1

We have been married 28 and been together 30 so we qualify.
What we have in common that has kept us together is the fact that we put the same value on commitment, family, honor, trust, and loyalty.
I know you were hoping for something like we love art, or bowling or gardening, and we have some of those things in common too, mostly architecture and history, of all things.
But its not that, its the place you have for the core values in life that you need to have in common, not the things you do in your leisure time. That's why some marriages last when outsiders wonder how, when they haven't a thing in common.
They do, its just that you can't see a value, but you can see that he plays cards and she like museums.
A man who plays around won't stay married to a woman who values fidelity, even if they both like wrestling.
I hope I've been clear on this as its quite important to know where you and he stand on these things, far more important that his favorite color or food, yet its not the sort of thing one discusses with any regularity. And it should be.

Answer 2

I personally think work and commitment is what makes it last. Love is not always there. There are days that you are so pissed at your spouse that you want to walk out the door and never look back (and certainly your spouse feels that way some days). There are times in a relationship that you feel less in love with your spouse, it is normal. It really isn't a big problem unless you both are in that spot at the same time. But a relationship should have a commitment factor that holds you together (as long as one isn't some raging abusive lunatic).
My husband and I have things in common and most of it has formed over the years. At the beginning mostly what we had in common was our desires for our lives. We wanted the same things in life and marriage but didn't have them at the beginning. It was wanting the same things that brought us together in marriage and the things we have in common are what we worked on to achieve since then.
The phrase opposites attracts only applies to magnets. Relationships aren't so simple as to be able to be boiled down to north and south.

Answer 3

The secret to a long and lasting marriage has much less to do with what you have in common and far more to do with how dedicated to the concept of marriage you both are. Every marriage will face challenges and pressures. The thing that allows you to successfully withstand all that the world can throw at you is your dedication to the institution of marriage.

If you think you will be happy all the time or you think you will be content or fulfilled you will only be disappointed. You need to believe in marriage and marry someone else who also believes in marriage. That way, when you come back to apologize for being a idiot, there is someone there to apologize to. By dedicating yourselves to your families and to your marriage all of your needs will be taken care of. Or at least the really important ones.

Having shared interests is nice but that is no guarantee.

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Answer 4

My hubby and I have nothing in common but the kids and house. We have been together over 20 years, married 19 and used to share lots of common interests. I think opposites attract but you have to have some common ground to make it last.

Answer 5

I’ve been married 18 years. Me and my husband have very few common interest (as in hobbies, movies, books, etc), but our basic values/beliefs are the same, and that is MUCH more important than common interest.

And we still do things together. We just take turns. One time we do what I want to do, and the next time we do what he wants to do (without either one of us complaining). But I could see the lack of common interest possibly becoming an issue if it resulted in us never doing anything together.

Answer 6

The saying "opposites attract" is very succinct. It doesn't go "opposites live together harmoniously 'til the end of time." They "attract." In other words, to be frank, you might have wild monkey sex for a little bit but it probably won't last much more than that.

The thing my husband and I have in common (in no particular order): our spiritual beliefs and goals; our desire to pay every bill on time and promptly; our enjoyment for the outdoors; sports; movies; our basic beliefs, morals and values; and, a bunch of other stuff...but that's the stuff that matters to us and keeps us from being at each other's throats.

Answer 7

I have been married for 20+ years. Met my wife when I was in my late 20s at grad school. Our interests in terms of hobbies were not that much in common: I liked to play sports while she liked to scenaries. She like to travel but I didn't although over the years, I have learned to tolerate international travel and have seen many places while she became parenoid about flying.

In my opinion, it is our common goals that put us together and make it this far. Goals are not the same as interests. We have individual goals, our primary ones overlap.

Answer 8

My husband and I are really different. When we got married I hardly knew him (meet 4 times then married) but with time we learn about each other and started that love. We are very opposite, but we complement each other. I think the hardest thing for people not to have in common is religion.

Answer 9

Have been married 37 years. Wife and I have very little in common. She likes to visit relatives and friends and talks to or e-mails them all the time, etc. Women love to talk and compare notes and talk and socialize and talk and yadda to the max. She gives me a synopsis of what everybody is up to and I grunt to acknowledge I heard it. I work with money and taxes all the time and am used to being by myself since working with MONEY, aka the holiest of holies, requires concentration and thought. I wonder how people keep from killing each other if they have identical interests and are always doing everything together and yadda. Sort of like Seinfeld and the girlfriend he had who was his female counterpart.

Answer 10

You know what...I don't have anything in common with my husband. We've been married nine years and we do nothing together. He loves nascar, watching the news, working outdoors, classic cars, etc. I enjoy reading, hate the television (get all my news online), have allergies and therefore prefer to be indoors, etc.

God only knows why we get along. I love him though.