During a girls' night out, one of my closest girlfriends confided something to me...
She and her husband are in a Dom/sub relationship. He's the Dom and she's the sub anyway, she said her hubby wants to get her a "pet" to play with...it's been a long standing fantasy of his....he wants to watch her "play" and he also wants to participate...all this is okay however, this is where it starts to get on shaky ground....the "pet" he fantasises about is a sixteen year old girl....(okay, he can't be hung over a fantasy) however, she told me her husband really wants it to happen.
Does this mean he is a pedophile, or one in the making?
2007-05-22 05:30:30 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A pervert - yes. A deviant - yes. Not sure on the pedophile. 16 is the age of consent in many state. Just because a 16 year old can consent does not make it right to ask.
2007-05-22 05:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by JB 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Wait . . . . Does he actually want to bring in a 16 year old?
As most 16 year olds try to act 30, some men find it hard not to find them attractive. I mean, look at the number of "countdowns" on websites for actresses like Hillary Duff, Emma Watson, and the Olsen Twins. Clearly, someone finds these girls attractive enough to be excited about the day they turn 18. Personally, I think Dan Radcliffe is way hot, but underage.
That said . . . yes, he's skirting a very, very dangerous line. Fantasies are fantasies for a reason.
2007-05-22 15:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is just wrong. Your friends husband not only needs to realize the consequences of this girls age, but the emotional and mental damage that could be done to this young girl in the most challenging time of her teens. I am NOT condoning his actions, however I was a 16 year old girl, and I dated a 28 year old (which I am sure your friends are older than that, right?) so hey hot young girls sell, but I know I had to chase this guy for almost a year because he knew being with me was wrong.
Sorry but your friends husband seems like a HUGE insecure control freak that has serious issues with women. He should just do it and go to jail and then he can be someones submissive LOL!
2007-05-22 05:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but hopefully she draws a line at the age and considers whether she wants a threesome. That's getting beyond the Dom/sub thing (what little I know of it).
A pedophile desires children and just because we say a child is under 18, doesn't put it in the same context. Children in this situation are usually 14 and under.
2007-05-22 05:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. He and your friend have watched too much porn and are now wanting more then to just watch. It's an addiction and it has a strong hold on them - they don't see it and are in denial. Lives will be destroyed before they wake up - I'm sure - including their own. They will learn the hard way.
And all for what? Nothing. Thanks to society, sex now means nothing - it's just something you do, no big deal. The world is full of self-serving idiots that have no clue about real life.
2007-05-22 05:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a sense YES!!!!!! If he wants the "pet" to dress like a schoolgirl but be an adult thats different but if he actually wants a sixteen year old, he's treading. Granted, the age of consent in many countries is 16, but its still kind of freaky.
I must admit, I'm a bit disturbed. She should definately ask him why a young girl and not a young woman.
2007-05-22 05:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he needs some psychiatric help, tell your friend to either have him go get some help or go see her lawyer and file for a divorce because if hes fantasizing about other women much less an underage one it isnt/won't be healthy for their marriage in the long run. Let alone them both breaking the law together or him getting caught with one and getting sent up the river alone.
2007-05-22 05:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by pwnd! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is disgusting and wrong! He is a perv! Help her get out of that relationship. Being Dom doesnt mean the same thing as being a pervy old fart ( which is what he is). Help her out ( and get an awesome attorney first especially if there are kids involved ).
2007-05-22 05:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by undone 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u damn right that makes him a perv and a potential statutory rapist. that is disgusting and ur friend shouldnt have been telling u that....she should have had her behind at a good divorce lawyer's office. her husband obviously wants to bring another person in the mix and a marriage is ONE MAN ONE WOMAN ONLY!!!!!! 2 ppl not 3. i cannot believe ur friend is THAT submissive. she needs to get counseling for self esteem. tell her to leave that sick man please!! that just screams unhealthy relationship. u dont mention how old ur friend and her husband are. if they are kinda young as well maybe age isnt too much the issue but the fact that he wants to bring someone else in the bedroom is bad enough
2007-05-22 05:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think this necessarily makes him a pedophile. It means he is thinking of a girl that is young and nubile, not a child. I could be wrong though. It is a little weird.
2007-05-22 09:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋