Marriage & Divorce - 22 May 2007

Before we got engaged I told her I want to move back to my hometown. Its a nice small community with no crime. She agreed and said she would love to move there. I asked what about her kids? what if they wont move. She said all we can do is make sure they are more than welcome to move with us. If they want to move with their dad then they can.... We looked at houses there. Last night, her kids say they are not going. Now she is backing out. Since the "aggreement" we are engaged and we have a baby together. She said she cant leave her kids. I understand that because when I got divorced, I left to move in with my parents. I moved becasue of the divorce, I stayed because of her. Now I feel like I have been betrayed and lied to. I told her that this was a big posibility that they wont move and she seemed ok with it then. What do I do? Do I break it off with her and move? I have a child there too? I am unhappy here. I offered to drive the kids to their original schools everyday they say no.

2007-05-22 03:46:10 · 11 answers · asked by the need to know 3

fiance cheated on me while we were engaged. i didnt find out until a few months after we bought a house together, one that i could not afford on my own. i found out that he had been calling another girl by looking at his phone records. i asked him if he was cheating, and he told me no he wasnt. I did not really believe him, but i didnt want to just leave and lose everything without totally knowing the truth. Well, we went to counseling to address the fact that he had been calling this other girl. He lied to the counselor, and he lied to me, still saying nothing happened. I kept asking him, and 9 months later he finally admitted to having sex with the girl 10 times. We have a child together, and i stayed with him trying to work it out. we went back to counseling 2 times after that, but i felt that we needed more. We did get married a few months later, but my now husband refuses to go back to counselng. i've known truth for 1 yr . when i try to talk about it, he cuts me off, ignores

2007-05-22 03:36:09 · 7 answers · asked by eliza l 3

2007-05-22 03:34:37 · 7 answers · asked by milo2angel 2

My husband and I used to have sex like 5 times a day before and during my pregnancy. After our son was born, my sex drive was never the same. It went from once a day to 3 times a week or less. My son is 15 months old and i still am never in the mood like i used to be. My husband complains that I never initiate sex anymore or never be in the mood. Why does this happen and has this happened to anyone else?

2007-05-22 03:34:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son recently returned from the US from Windsor Ontario where he had been living for the past 3 years. The reason for going to Ontario in the first place was to meet a girl he had met on the internet. They eventually married, and had a son a year later. The boy is now 17 months old, and I have yet to even meet him. They were all supposed to come this past Feb. so I could have my chance to meet and get to know my grandson. Unfortunately, it didn't work out that way. Instead, my son's ex told him that it was over between them. So he came back alone. The problem here is the expense of transportation for both families. She won't put the child on a plane alone, and I really don't blame her. My heart is breaking here. I only have pictures to look at. It's very depressing. I just hope I get to my grandson soon.

2007-05-22 03:26:22 · 11 answers · asked by che_rae_gra53 3

My family hates my brother in law. They have never liked him from day one. Both of my parents were so angry that my sister decided to marry him that they both refused to attend my sister's wedding. Now they are plotting to get him out of the family.
My brother in law has made sly little sexual remarks to me over the years. I have just ignored it for the most part. Now my parents want me to use it to my advantage. My parents want me to sleep with my brother in law. They want me to get him to sleep with me while they stand in the closet videotaping the whole thing. They are then going to show the video to my sister in hopes that she will leave him. My parents have even convinced my husband that this is a good idea.
My parents have said that as a loving sister, I should be willing to do whatever it takes to help my sister. And if sleeping with her husband is what it takes then so be it. Are they right? Should I really be forced into sleeping with my brother in law?

2007-05-22 03:24:21 · 50 answers · asked by Flushing06 1

I have noticed that when my husband drinks socially he is fine. Usually he is a very loving and patient man. But when he drinks more than a couple he turns into a total jerk. I enjoy going out and having a few drinks and hanging out with my friends. But it seems that when my husband drinks more than a few, he "freaks out" for no reason at all. Last weekend we were out having a fun time, singing karoake, visiting with friends and suddenly he took off and i couldnt find him, when i finally found him he was screaming at me that we were turning into bar flies and he wanted to go home. When i asked him why he didnt just calmly come up to me at the bar and tell me he wanted to go, he could offer no explanation. I couldnt even have a rational conversation with him until the next day. This isnt the first time that it has happened. Im assuming that it is the alcohol talking and maybe I should give up going out even though most of the time we seem to have a fun time. what do you think?

2007-05-22 03:20:40 · 5 answers · asked by sea_sher 5

my husband has a ring that he had from his first marrage and it fits me, me and him have been married 5 years and he told me that I should wear it ... it is just a plain ole gold band so its not like the ex will know but I don't know if I should or will wear a ring of a prevoius marrage.. whats your take on it am I just being silly or should we find the money to get me a new ring

2007-05-22 03:16:00 · 22 answers · asked by crystal s 2

2007-05-22 02:54:13 · 35 answers · asked by sweetgirl 4

i am in love with a gal whos 26 but i am 19. she married alsoe has a kid. shes not happy with her husband. they 3 and me live together. her hubby is a good frnd of mine and we all have great time together. but he doesnt know that we are in love and wanna spend rest of our lives together.she tells me often that we cannot stay together as no one understand our love. but its now impossible to break apart. it wud be like the end of life. what should we do and how would peolpe see us if we get marries after her divorce. we need advice wat shud we do

2007-05-22 02:48:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

is it wrong to get married young...i am an 18year old girl and i am in love with my bf, were good hes good and were both in the navy. Were not exactly getting married now but in the future like in four years (the end of our contract). I wanted to wait four years bc i wanted for us to get n e thing out of our system (if any,and not sayin we should freak the world) that would not be excepted while married. since we have been together he has been faithful, and so have i.

i just want some honest different opinions. And if u just got out of a crappy relationship i dont want to hear your opinion bc i think you would speak more out of anger than anything...

2007-05-22 02:41:39 · 26 answers · asked by Reeses 2

I feel for some of them, but in some cases the soldier is not doing what they are supposed to do.I gained custody when my ex left the state of Texas w/ son w/o notifying me or the courts that he had been re-assigned to another base.(is this not his responsibility)Anyway,he left, I had to go thru Red Cross to find where he went, I thought he was in National Guard, turns out he had reinlisted as fulltime army w/o telling anyone.When found him, found out he was going to Iraq for a year from his superior.I called my attorney, he drew up papers.Ex lied to judge, said he had no orders to go to Iraq, judge called ex's superior, & he verified it. Judge gave me custody, temp. Not because he was being deployed, but because he had not followed prior orders.We went to court when ex returned after 1yr, he decided our son could stay w/ me. 1yr later go back, he wants him now, and jusge gives son back to him, even though he's over 8,000 behind in Child support. What's up w/ that? more details below

2007-05-22 02:32:07 · 2 answers · asked by LISA R 1

I have been dating/living with a guy for over three months who is currently legally separated (for over 1 yr) and is filing for divorce this month, plus he has 2 young children (ages 5 and 2). They were separated long before I came into the picture and were already planning to divorce.

He wants me to meet his kids but I am hesitant because I dont want to further complicate his divorce. His ex doesnt seem to mind if I meet the kids, and even wanted to know if he was bringing me to his daughters pre-school graduation this week, but wants to meet me first. They are trying to work out custody and visitation issues now. Our relationship is very serious and we will probably get married within the year. I really want to meet them and feel like I am missing out on a part of him by not seeing him with them but just think I should wait a bit. How much longer should I wait? Thanks!

2007-05-22 02:29:14 · 15 answers · asked by Kelly 2

Will you marry a man with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy ?

2007-05-22 02:15:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-22 02:10:59 · 15 answers · asked by RaiKwon 1

details tell me

2007-05-22 01:53:42 · 13 answers · asked by mahes m 1

2007-05-22 01:39:43 · 13 answers · asked by stargirl 2

My ex husband raped me and we had a short but horrible marriage. We share a teenage son but these incidences were left in silence. I never confronted him about those years.
I have been remarried for 12 years now. My now hubby of 12 years knew about my past from the start. (We were friends for about 6 months before we started dating). My new marriage has had ups and downs and we have a 7 year old.
Sex has always been a sensitive subject with me my whole life but after my ex and I split, sex lost its luster although I still enjoyed it on occasion.
Now after my son was born and I have since hit 30, I have lost 95% of my libio.
My husband is reminding me on a consistant basis that I need to get over what my ex did to me. Reminding me that he is not the one who did those things to me. Why does he have to feel like the one who raped me.

2007-05-22 01:24:59 · 28 answers · asked by me 1

I want to think of a few neat activities for our wedding anniversary. We live in Tampa, FL. Is there anything locally or any good creative activities that I can plan for us?

2007-05-22 01:22:13 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

HE was a good friend of mine ....,,yes friends God but yesterday some thing really happen to me ,,as i was expecting that ; Three days back i have requested to God plz plz plz do as i say its regardinga very personal matter infact i didnt ask him to hurt any body because of me but eh didnt listen any thing ,,,,what ever happen against me my enemires are happy atleast it seems God is with them he was he will be ...........

i promised to God that if that not happen what i want i will suicide and yes i am ready to do that .I know its totally wrong its a sin<<,,,,but cant do any thing coz this is the only way i have .I dont have any other option .....

2007-05-22 00:57:39 · 24 answers · asked by samankhan_007 1

I have one true friend aside from my husband, we have been friends for 13 years. She is the one person I can talk to about anything, including my husband. When I mention my friends name my hubby gets all huffy and says I should marry her.
I lead a very secluded life, I stay home all day then go to work at night while my husband stays home with our 4 kids. We have absolutely no social life what so ever. My friend is my link to the outside world, I just don't understand why he is so jealous. Any help on this appreciated.

2007-05-22 00:44:58 · 16 answers · asked by loner6990 2