My family hates my brother in law. They have never liked him from day one. Both of my parents were so angry that my sister decided to marry him that they both refused to attend my sister's wedding. Now they are plotting to get him out of the family.
My brother in law has made sly little sexual remarks to me over the years. I have just ignored it for the most part. Now my parents want me to use it to my advantage. My parents want me to sleep with my brother in law. They want me to get him to sleep with me while they stand in the closet videotaping the whole thing. They are then going to show the video to my sister in hopes that she will leave him. My parents have even convinced my husband that this is a good idea.
My parents have said that as a loving sister, I should be willing to do whatever it takes to help my sister. And if sleeping with her husband is what it takes then so be it. Are they right? Should I really be forced into sleeping with my brother in law?
2007-05-22 03:24:21 · 50 answers · asked by Flushing06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hell no.....that's messed up....let your sister find out on her own....sure he may be a complete asshole but dont sleep with him just to prove a point bcuz you will regret it in the future...your husband shouldnt approve in my opinion....you married him not your brother in law....and how do you think your sister will feel when you slept with her husband just break it up between them.....You guys just need to let her deal with her own relationship.....your parents should respect her marriage even if they dont like her husband....with all do respect please dont listen to your parents suggestion...it just will bring more drama to the plate......so keep your marriage together and dont sleep with your brother in law......it's very redundant!!!
Good Luck Mami!!!
2007-05-22 03:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by ♡♥Poisonous Strawberry♥♡ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not...they have no right to ask this of you what will it do to your relationship with your sister ...this will not help her only make her angry that they set the whole thing up because how are they going hide the fact that they videotaped the whole thing Tell your husband this is not a good idea and that you will not do it , also ask your husband how he would feel if they did this to him and will this cause problems in your own marriage ...how would you feel if they did this to you?
The remarks your brother-in-law has made do not necessarily mean he would go through with sleeping with you. Have they proof he cheats on your sister , is he a bad husband to her does she complain if not then leave her be your parents sound a little obsessed with getting him out of the family ....your sister's happiness is all that counts if her and her husband have a good relationship this could alienate her from the family forever, if she finds out and she will.
Don't Do It ....for your own peace of mind
2007-05-22 03:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU AND YOUR FAMILY HAVE SERIOUS ISSUES!!!!! Have you and your parents sat and thought for a minute that if your sister married him it must have been b/c she loves him and he makes her happy?!?!?!? Ultimately, isn't that the only thing that should matter?
You as well as your parents need to worry about your own lives (as it sounds that there are serious issues to worry about) and butt out of your sisters life. If you were a little brighter you would know that this would hurt your sister more than anything and in the process you might not just loose a brother-n-law, but you might just also loose your sister.
SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP AND DRAG YOUR PARENTS AND HUSBAND ALONG W/ YOU. YOU'LL NEED IT!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-22 04:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so way beyond bizarre I can't even believe it! Your parents sound like nut-cases! Everyone and I mean EVERYONE needs to stay out of your sister's business. She has made her choices in life - okay - maybe the remainder of the family doesn't agree with her choices - but it's not for anyone else to agree or disagree. If you were my sister and you pulled this stunt on me, I would hate you forever! Be smart and run don't walk as fast as you can from this whole situation!
Another thought: Your family needs some serious counseling!
2007-05-22 04:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by cleesurrey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO way !!!! i'm sorry yet it truly is fairly tangled up !! initially , no remember how they persuade your husband that's major that you'll be able to sleep consisting of your brother in regulation , he will finally resent it and your marriage will be in chance.Your sister will carry you to blame so that you lose your relationship consisting of her too. do you favor that? AND that's completely ill that your mother and father would watch you having sex.there is not any reason sturdy adequate that this may ever ensue. they are thoroughly twisted of their questioning !! Secondly, and on a more beneficial regularly occurring factor , your mother and father prefer to appreciate your sisters decision to marry this guy. they don't stay with him . it truly is her selection as an adult , no longer theirs , they don't have any corporation meddling in her life this way. If he's a nasty individual , she will be able of work out it on her own. possibly she married him to rebellion adversarial on your mother and father or basically to positioned far between herself and the relations. this isn't regularly occurring habit interior of a relations . Your mother and father are poisonous and abusive. no remember how a lot you compromise that this guy is inaccurate on your sister this is not any longer your position to intervene. it is your position to be there for her at the same time as and if all of it falls aside.it truly is what sisters do. you want to face your floor and refuse to take section in this. of direction you imagine so too or you does no longer be asking. trust that ill feeling contained in the pit of your abdomen , this is there for a reason !!
2016-10-18 09:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by forker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, talk about a twisted up family you have, sorry to say. For one, no parent should ever want to watch their daughter have sex, especially with the other daughter's husband. While you were writing this, did it seem at all perverse? My advice, don't do it, think about how crushed your sister will be. If the family doesn't like him, sit him down and tell him. Is it something that he does or is it just him in general? Tell your sister that he makes sexual advances toward you and maybe he will straighten up or she will give him the boot.
2007-05-22 03:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by prima ballerina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No baby, stop right there! First and foremost your parents are insane, you should not listen to them. Second if your sister loves this guy, sure she might leave him for sleeping with you BUT she will also hate you for doing it to....I mean she loved him enough to marry him without her familys support, so what makes you think that by you all doing this she will just run back to yall and forget him. she won't she will hate yall just as much as him for doing that to her.......My suggestion is that you get someone else to do it....If hes a pig any girl can find out. You just don't put yourself in that situation.
2007-05-22 03:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by todayillsee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although your intentions are good, sleeping with your sister's husband will cause a rift between you that may never be repaired. Instead, assuming you have told her how you feel about him, you could hire a private investigator who specializes in infidelity. That person could set up a hot chick to come on to him and videotape him trying to have sex with her. Then show your sister the evidence that doesn't involve you personally.
2007-05-22 03:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NoNONONO!! sorry girl but ur parents have no clue about what a loving sister is. If u want to convince ur sister her man is no good try another way but don't even think about sleeping with her man how would u feel doing it ur sister might end up hating u do u want that?
2007-05-22 03:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God, what is this world coming to? Your parents are not on crack i hope. There's no guarantee your sister will separate from her husband if you do that, she will surely think you premeditated on seducing him and will take his side. There are 2 things for sure if you do that: 1) You will lose your sister 2) You'll live all your life regretting why you starred in that home-made sex video with your parents as directors and cameramen.
2007-05-22 03:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋