My husband and I used to have sex like 5 times a day before and during my pregnancy. After our son was born, my sex drive was never the same. It went from once a day to 3 times a week or less. My son is 15 months old and i still am never in the mood like i used to be. My husband complains that I never initiate sex anymore or never be in the mood. Why does this happen and has this happened to anyone else?
2007-05-22 03:34:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It happened to me after my second daughter was born...I had to work really hard to get it back. In my case, I felt unattractive and the kids took every ounce of my energy. It did come back though.
2007-05-22 03:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It didn't happen to me. I couldn't even wait the recommended 6 weeks for healing after our kids were born. I do know it has happened to some of my friends though. Usually due to weight gain, or they switch to "mommy mode" and no longer see themselves as a sexual being. You cannot totally give up yourself just because you are now a parent. There is plenty of birth control out there, so fear of pregnancy should never be a reason. Your husband is complaining and missing you in that way, so he obviously still finds you attractive. Be kind to yourself, make some time for just you and also just the two of you. A child does NOT have to totally consume you. Good luck.
2007-05-22 03:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a father and a husband, and you are not different from this problem. I'm surprised you're have this sex problem so early. It seems like your burned out and caught in the middle of being MOMMY AND SEX MACHINE. If your husband wants to make love, let him take care of baby during the night time, for a week OR find some way to rest up. That's what I did, I saw my wife getting drained out. So, I helped out with the baby and are sex life couldn't be better.
2007-05-22 05:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maria, what's going on with you is natural essence of life. It happens to all women that give birth,not just you. I remember when my first one was born,it took me over a year to feel sexy again. Yes husband will complain no matter what, but you must talk to your husband that women that give birth will feel uninterested in sex, not because you don't find your husband sexy but it's in our bodies. After the birth our chemical change and because of the hormones inside our bodies,it goes to our brain wave,and when this happen all that we can do and think is how to respond to be a mother and as a wife. And if you haven't had the postpartum mood, this might be one of the coast, so give yourself time to go back to how and where you were before the birth of your baby. In the mean time do talk to your husband and tell him what we talk about, also tell him that his not the only man that do complain when it comes to intimacy, lots of husband do...
2007-05-22 03:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was for me. Some of it is hormonal, some of it is body image, some of it is just that you are tired now! I have 3 kids, my youngest is 11 months old, and I have no interest in sex. It was the same after the older two kids, as well. Working out did a lot for me, guess I should get back to the gym.
Find what works for you, lower lights, sexy clothes, an ovenight visit to Grandma so you can be alone, or working out (like me!)
Once your child is a little older it will be easier. Good luck!
2007-05-22 03:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common after pregnancy. I think your body is protecting itself so that it can recouperate for a couple years before getting pregnant again.
Your sex drive will return, but perhaps not completely for several years after having each child you have.
But I still think sex drive is a mental thing more than a physical one. You have a different outlook on life because it is not all fun anymore, there are serious things like raising a child.
3 times a week isn't bad, probably average, if not better for married couples. Most married men only wish for three times a week.
2007-05-22 03:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
no, i make it a priority to be a mom and a wife. its hard, i know, but becoming a mom doesnt mean you cant get in the mood. thats a mental thing
2007-05-22 03:41:11 · answer #7 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you going through is quite normal. Maybe you need to tell your husband to maybe try something different with you.There are things you could use to boost your libido.
2007-05-22 04:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by Cherie D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, we were right back at it. You just have to get back in the swing of things... those former feelings will come right back. Don't deprive yourself of the intimacy!
2007-05-22 03:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Same thing with me my son is 6 and it still hasnt changed...my sex drive just isnt the same!!! it sucks!! but i try to make it better sometimes it is better than other times i dunno its hard to explain....just have to make it what you want!!!
2007-05-22 03:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by Girl K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋