The effect of alcohol on ones attitude?

Question

I have noticed that when my husband drinks socially he is fine. Usually he is a very loving and patient man. But when he drinks more than a couple he turns into a total jerk. I enjoy going out and having a few drinks and hanging out with my friends. But it seems that when my husband drinks more than a few, he "freaks out" for no reason at all. Last weekend we were out having a fun time, singing karoake, visiting with friends and suddenly he took off and i couldnt find him, when i finally found him he was screaming at me that we were turning into bar flies and he wanted to go home. When i asked him why he didnt just calmly come up to me at the bar and tell me he wanted to go, he could offer no explanation. I couldnt even have a rational conversation with him until the next day. This isnt the first time that it has happened. Im assuming that it is the alcohol talking and maybe I should give up going out even though most of the time we seem to have a fun time. what do you think?

Answer 1

Someone once told me this saying " A drunken man's words Are a sober man's thoughts". Take it the way it is meant and I would say your hubby is tired of going to the bar, and he tends to drink to much while he's there so he sits and thinks about it while he's there and it starts bugging him and that's why he blew up!

Answer 2

YES totally, my husband does this too. He's one person sober or after consuming just a couple of drinks and then by the end of the night if he's drank to much, he becomes a totally different person and the alcohol starts talking. I've gotten to the point where I can't really take him out because this always happens and it wont get better until he realizes he can't handle his alcohol point blank. You just have to try and make him realize how he acts when he gets like that but good luck on that one. If he doesn't think it's a problem you'll just be wasting your breath, cause he won't get it. I honestly don't think it had anything to do with being at the Bar that night or that you two are turning into "bar flys", it had to do with the alcohol and his mind just racing to find something to fight about at that point. If he really felt you two were turning into bar flys, he wouldn't have gone sober. It was just the shift in his personality that caused that, basically something to fight about. And maybe you weren't doing anything that he could pick on you for so he chose the dumb excuse that he did to start a fight, that's why he couldn't offer an explanation cause there wasn't one. Alot of people say that you should always believe a drunk cause they say the truth and that's not true. From my own expierence I've been drunk and said some STUPID things that I honestly didn't mean. Alcohol mutiplys your emotions and feelings by 1000 times at that moment and you say things that you don't really mean. So it's up to each person on how they feel about that old saying. Anyway Good Luck and God bless.

Answer 3

You dont have to give up going out, he has to face up to the fact that he cannot andle his alcohol and it turns into something he doesnt want to be. He'll just have to be satisfied with the company and a few soft drinks when you go out, or he cant go out at all. In my younger days I found that having a few too many made me become very quiet and withdrawn. Now I watch how much I have and have a much better time

Answer 4

Have you asked him if he's noticed that after a more than a few that he acts this way? It happened to my boyfriend and it was a real eye-opener for him. For what you mentioned, it sounds like he can tell, which is why he left, to get away from the situation.

For his sake, you may want to only stay for a few drinks until you know he's hit that limit, or ask him if he wants to give it up all together. He's trying to help himself and if your husband is important to you, you'll help him.

Answer 5

My husband does this too! They seem to lose track of how much their drinking and yes the alcohol starts talking. He does feel stupid the next day.