Marriage & Divorce - 22 May 2007

I've been married for 15 years to my childhood sweetheart. He's a leo and I'm a pisces. We have so many difference and I think that's what attracted me to him. We have two teenage girls and we have nothing in common.

He loves to ge outdoors and I love to be indoors. He wants perfection and I am laid back.

We seem to always fight about everything and anything. The only good part of our relationship seems to be the sex.

Should I throw in the towel and set him free to find someone he's compatible with or should I just stick with it?

2007-05-22 09:30:24 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is the deal with the way people view marriage today? I've heard several people talk about marriage as though it's not a big deal...if it doesn't work just get a divorce. Do people not really believe in the sanctity of marriage anymore. What happened to the days when people got married and stayed married? I just don't understand what is wrong with the morals of people today. Once I decide to get married, I refuse to get divorced...you don't just walk away from a marriage because it's not working the way you want. Am I the only one in the world that still feels old fashioned about the way marriage should be viewed?

2007-05-22 09:20:51 · 32 answers · asked by dvlbeneathwings 2

My other half of 7yrs started up some site and in his profile he put that he was single. I brought it to his attention and he said "it must have been an accident". Several wks later I check out his site and again it said "single". So I said sweetie do you know that your site says single? He acted surprise and said what is the big deal. I argued with him to change it and finally he did. He changes it to commited status and just the other day I checked out his site and again "SINGLE"! In all the years we have been together he has never done something so stupid like this and we also have NEVER split up! He sometimes makes cute comments to other women nothing too forward yet he still does it. \I feel completely disrespected by him and that he has no respect for our relationship. I don't feel that he's cheating on me.However what would stop him if he met the right girl looking fo a single man? I can't let him think it's ok & not talking to him isn't going to do anything either.What do I do?

2007-05-22 09:13:25 · 18 answers · asked by zphytri 1

I dated this guy for a year and a half. He was his first and he was mine. That was four years ago.... Do you think he still thinks about me or misses me?

2007-05-22 09:13:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-22 09:12:17 · 14 answers · asked by bettiewoeswoes 2

2007-05-22 09:10:33 · 24 answers · asked by scoutmom 1

I am very open minded and loving person,and feel very strongly about who I am in love with.

2007-05-22 09:09:06 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2

we been marriage over 2 years and through the years we been through our ups and downs and there was things he has done that hurt me and he promiced he would not hurt me again, that he loves me dearly and that he was truely sorry for what he did, but 2 months ago he done something worse then he ever did to me and this hurt me deeply, mainly because i believed him from before that he wasn't goin to hurt me no more.. and he knows my fears and how i feel about certian things and he done it anyways..knowing how it would affect me (but he didn't think i was going to find out)... i believe in marriage "till death do us part", and we are working things out, i know people make mistakes and we are only human but i also strongly believe that we LEARN for our past mistakes and don't do the same things over...if anybody has been in this situation please let me know what u think....willl i ever be able to truely believe and trust my husband like i used to?...

2007-05-22 09:08:25 · 35 answers · asked by sab c 1

I had lunch with my best friend today and she mentioned that she saw my husband at a local resturant. It was a day that he was supposed to be out of town on business. Because my hsband was going to be gone, I had called her to have dinner with me that evening. She told me she was not feeling well and was going to have bowl of soup and go to bed.

I do not feel god about this at all. But I do not want to jump to conclusions.

2007-05-22 09:04:10 · 22 answers · asked by Marsha J 1

I broke up with my longterm 5 year girflriend last November, then she shocked me by telling me she was engaged to someone else 2 months later. I begged her to stop the wedding, tried everything for one month, but still she got married in February. Originally, I think I was really bad, but think I had some hope that maybe she would realize she married on a rebound and would get divorced...she is married now 3 months and it seems like EACH DAY I GET WORSE. I am in a massive depression ( i see a counselor, but it doesnt help much). I obsess about her each day, I am so sad, barely sleep at night, and my hair is falling out. I am losing weight as well, my self esteem is about 0 right now. It kills me, we spoke each day/called each other for 5 straight years, now nothing and I miss her too much. I fantasy about her each night and I am scared that I wont be able to ever recover from this....I LOVE her so much, it is sick how much...Advice?

2007-05-22 09:01:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for 3 years. We're both 21 and enjoy going to bars, but we usually can't got to bars together because we have a 2 year old daughter & 1 of us has to stay home with her. Lately, he's been distant to my daughter and me. I heard from a close friend of mine that she saw him hanging on another woman at the bar 1 night. I confronted him and he denied it, but it's still in the back of my mind. Saturday, he went out with his friends and he came home smelling like perfume that I don't wear! I then proceeded to search his car and I found a pair of woman's panties that definitely aren't mine. He says they're from a woman that his friend hooked up with, but I don't know if I should believe him. Do you think he's cheating on me or am I just being paranoid?

2007-05-22 09:00:07 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

Dated a man while back and we had some awesome intimate moments. He went back to seeing ex wife, I remarried, he left ex and met someone else, I got divorced. In short, one of us was in a relationship when the other was not for a period of over a year. We stayed in contact during these times and he remarked several times how this woman lacked in finesse during intimate times. He married her a month ago.
He emailed me last week to let me know he was going out of town on business, had a new computer and what times he was available to talk, how much he remembered the chemistry we had. Mind you this is 2 weeks almost to the day he came home from his honeymoon. We connected via Yahoo messenger on Sunday night, I asked wedding details, his reponse, 2 people met, dated and married. He wanted to relive all the intimate moments we shared and how much he missed it.
My question is - do I tell the wife?

2007-05-22 08:58:16 · 17 answers · asked by Debette 3

Long story short, we met on Match.com, we fell in love, she moved across the country to be with me, gave up her whole life/family to be with me...and we just got married. All is well, we're made for each other in my mind....but I've been desperately trying to understand her need to speak to her mother EVERY DAY. This sometimes occurs upwards of 4 times a day. Morning calls, night calls, at work calls, etc. If it isn't my wife calling her mom, it's her mom calling my wife. We actually lived with each other for about 1 year before getting married and multiple times I expressed my concern over the daily calls to "Mom". My head nearly came off in one swipe. I completely understand the fact it's been hard to leave everything behind, but I do not quite understand the need to talk to your mother EVERY DAY, 2 to 4 times a day. There's a certain "controlling" issue I see and I believe this is unhealthy for us. Can anyone tell me if this is normal for Mothers and Daughters?

2007-05-22 08:52:34 · 30 answers · asked by MaskMan 1

The divorce is going to be final in 2 months (WUHOO) but i just got some papers from the California child support automation system. Why are they send me these papers? Me and the ex agreed on the child support amount...is something changing??? they gave me a case number, and a website to go on with a pin number...help please!!!!!

2007-05-22 08:52:29 · 25 answers · asked by hurleygirlie03 2

for the last 2 months my x-husband has been e-mailing me telling me to have sex with him but i have a boyfriend and i don't know what to do so pleas help me!!!

2007-05-22 08:49:39 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

We ended our marriage because she wanted it that way. She had gone off to school and after about three weeks, she started saying she doesn't want to live with me anymore. Three months later after a number of similiar conversations, I gave in and now we don't live together. She even lives 1500 miles away. She still calls me for this and that but never offers anything in return. Is that normal? Will women keep bothering you even if she doesn't want anything to do with me?

2007-05-22 08:46:44 · 37 answers · asked by THCAddict 1

My husbands's brother's wife is always putting her husband down. She says things about him not showering or brushing his teeth and things like that. He does shower and brushes his teeth, maybe not to her liking. She always makes sure to say these things when people are around. What's a good comment to shut her up once and for all?

2007-05-22 08:45:45 · 34 answers · asked by Wendy 2

My sister has two boys and wants to have a third, hoping for a girl. I have told her now that she has both of her boys in school, she should think about returning to school or working. Her husband is constantly putting her down, telling her how lazy she is and that if she were to hold a job, she wouldn't be making much money anyway. I told her that she she get off her butt and get a job so that she starts earning some respect for herself and get rid of him if he continues to treat her that way. She is insistent on having a third child. Any suggestions?

2007-05-22 08:41:05 · 28 answers · asked by Curious1 2

Well, my fiance and I haven't had sex... we're getting married in October of this year...
Last weekend, I went to visit her and one night it got really late, a little wine was involved, and ended up groaping a lot. She grabbed me, I grabbed her kind of thing... anyways, one thing led to the next and she was having an orgasm (I repeat, we did not have sex, it was a handjob, I suppose.)

Anyhow, I feel really badly about it... we've mad it so far without having intercourse... I feel like I let her down, because I know she was counting on me to be strong. Well. I wasn't. She's sad about it... I'm mad at myself about it...

What are your thoughts? It's not like it's over, we're still getting married... we talked about it already, and probably will do some more talking. I love her... I know that. I don't want anyone else but her. Should I feel bad? How can i get over my frustration with myself? How can i communicate to her that I love her and that I am sorry?

2007-05-22 08:40:19 · 52 answers · asked by just nate 4

Me and my husband have been together for 8 years come sept. Me and my ex we to together on and off for 3 years i loved him but i was never in love with him. I love my husband to death. recently my ex tells me he never stopped loving me and whenever i want him back i can have him. I have been thinking about him often. Am i going crazy?

2007-05-22 08:40:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-22 08:33:28 · 3 answers · asked by davemustang262001 2

If a woman offers to show you her breasts and you look, is this cheating?

2007-05-22 08:27:01 · 25 answers · asked by girl confussed 1

does he have the right to stay under the same roof until it's final? how do you deal in this situation?

2007-05-22 08:24:08 · 7 answers · asked by elfkin, attention whore 4

Several weeks ago my husband suddenly said he was't sure if he wanted to be married. I thought we were happy (at least I was) and this was a shock. I'm a stay-at-home mom who gave up her career 2 years ago to be with our baby. He seemed totally serious so I called the university where I used to teach and got my old job back starting this Fall. I figured I needed to protect myself in the event I became divorced. Then, he suggested counseling and we've been going for 3-4 weeks now. He explained there that knowing I'm going back to work has lifted tons of stress off of him and he'd like to work on the marriage. Meanwhile, he makes excellent $.Now, I'm the one that is angry. I feel like he took the agreement we made for me to raise our child and just took it away. That was very, very important to me at least until she was in school. Now, I'm stuck putting her in daycare. I'm in a bad mood daily and he's getting mad at me. I feel like I don't even need him after this whole mess.

2007-05-22 08:20:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Because sex is obvious,
He did me wrong by getting some from Escorts and I caught him. So now he want's this second chance and I gave to him, we occasionally have sex but I feel a disconnect on my part and his. So I do want to work this out any ideas how to get him to care about me more?

2007-05-22 08:19:30 · 16 answers · asked by Confused 2

I am divorced and have custody of two children, is it against the Georgia law for custodial parent's boyfriend to live in the house?

2007-05-22 08:19:03 · 7 answers · asked by Loopy O 1

Some people have said that it's a good idea to do a marriage course before actually committing yourself....your thoughts?
How many people out there have actually gone through a course before tying the knot?
What can one expect when attending such a course?
Are there other ways of being able to 'get to know' your partner?
(Been in a relationship for 6 years - just wondering what types of things should be considered before actually going through with the wedding.)

2007-05-22 08:07:24 · 8 answers · asked by JD 6

Lets say partner A wants sex.
Partner B wants romance.
Can or should the fullfilling of these wants be exchanged for each other?

It seems that many people frustrate their spouse by implying that they will participate in this sort of exchange of services, but when it comes to pay their debt they back out of the deal.
Its kind of funny when you apply the same sort of business principals to marrital problems the answer just appears. My wife is on Pre-Pay terms with me due to her bad sexual credit and some how I'm happier. So what are you thoughts?

2007-05-22 08:05:29 · 2 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

and i was suspicious of my dad........and my suspicions were right he had been drinkin and he is an alcoholic........im totally fed up with livin with this if had been drink free for ten years until my mother died since then he is always on and off the drink....im so tired and frustrated but not much so any more as i attend alano(for those of u who dont know what alanon is.....its an aa version but for families who live with addicts or alcoholics)_any way lately i have been planning to go to australia for a year.......now im certain i want to go but the sooner i go the better in my eyes....now not that i dont love my dad i do.....but no one loves an alcoholic its hard to live with.......thanks for leaving me ramble sorry for those of u who done like a whiner but u have a choice to read this or not...as i have the choice to post this

2007-05-22 08:04:17 · 23 answers · asked by MissElection 4

i donno i think i need a male honest perspective about this...we all have heard "once a cheater always a cheate"...i really hope this not true, why i ask this is because i am married and my husband has done things that have really hurt me and each time it involved woman, and each time he only stpped because i caught him, and each time he would tell me he was sorry and he swore he would not hurt me again or do what he did...now i am finding it harder to truely believe him, i love him with all my heart but i am so00o0oo scared he is gonna do it again or he might just be sayin what he is sayin right now and things might change down the road...please help me and tell me what u htink about this?????...please!!!

2007-05-22 07:46:10 · 40 answers · asked by sab c 1