I think my husband is having an affair with my best friend.?

Question

I had lunch with my best friend today and she mentioned that she saw my husband at a local resturant. It was a day that he was supposed to be out of town on business. Because my hsband was going to be gone, I had called her to have dinner with me that evening. She told me she was not feeling well and was going to have bowl of soup and go to bed.

I do not feel god about this at all. But I do not want to jump to conclusions.

Answer 1

Do your home work! You may even need to hire a private investigator. I would also ask your friend to dinner when your hubby is taking his next trip. Take your time and do this right. If it is not true and you ask the questions, you will lose your best friend for no reason. You may need her if your husband is having an affair with someone else!

Answer 2

It's too early to tell. He might have lied to you that he was going to be out of town (that's bad in itself), the meeting could have been an accident, the soup thing could have been true. But you need to be careful and watch them. Invite your friend over more often when husband is there and see how they look at each other. How they talk. See if their tone of voice has changed when they talk to each other. Tell them you are going out shopping while they are there and then make a surprise comeback to pick up your wallet or something. That way you will know for sure and if so then you can confront them. But do not accuse until you are sure.
Good luck.

Answer 3

If your friend was having an affair with your husband wouldn't she be with him instead of you having dinner and if your was having and affair she wouldn't tell you hey I saw your husband at a local resturant, instead she wouldn't say anything beause she is also trying to cover it up. Why didn't you ask her what restuarant? Who was he with? What time? Day? And Why didn't you just tell her hey he was suppose to be on a business trip that day. Why didn't you say anything???? SPEAK UP!!!! Your husband may be cheating on you but not with your friend. Think about it. It just doesn;t make any sense. Utless she is lying to you trying to make you think that she saw him at a restuarant that day or it could of been someone else she saw an it looked like him. Why don't you call his job and ask hey did ??? go out of town last week or month??? Play dumb like you forgot what day it was. You have to investigate for yourself.

Answer 4

That's a big jump. Your husband maybe having an affair but it's not with her. She saw him at a resturant when he was suppose to be out of town remember. If she was cheating with him she would be on the trip with him

Answer 5

Marsha if your husband was having an affair with your best friend, she would not have told you she saw your husband. She would know that he was "supposed to be out of town" and wouldn't raise your ire by telling you of his presence. Furthermore, if she's your bff, then you would have mentioned to her that your husband was to be out of town. That just doesn't make any sense. Now, it could be that he wasn't out of town and that she saw him ...with someone else. She may not just want to come out and say "I saw___ having lunch with another woman". And just because she didn't want to have dinner with you that night doesn't mean she was secretly meeting your husband. The two things just don't fit together. If she was creeping with him, she wouldn't have mentioned seeing him, trust me on that. I don't know what's going on, but you should ask her. Tell her the day she says she saw your husband he was scheduled to be away, is she sure it was him? Did she talk to him or see him from a distance. Was he alone or lunching with someone? It sounds weird, but again, seems to me if she was the one having the affair with him, she wouldn't cut her own throat by telling you she saw him when clearly he should have been out of town. UNLESS - this just hit me - she is trying to get you suspicious of HIM to the point you break up wiht him so she can have him to herself. That could be, but even that's a stretch. You may want to find some kind of confirmation that your husband did take his trip. A reciept, flight or bus ticket, credit card statements are good for tracking movement. If he was supposed to be out of town but he used his card in your area, then you know he lied to you. I sincerely hope that's not the case. Good luck.

Answer 6

Try to give your husband the benefit of the doubt. Your friend could of really been sick. What I would do is have your girl friend over for dinner one evening . You, Your Husband and her see how they act together. Trust me you can tell if something is going on. And if they act normal then you were just feeling a little insecure that day. It's ok you know...

Answer 7

Get proof before you accuse anyone of anything. It may not be with her. It does sound like he could be doing something. Snoop around and see whats going on. Don't be obvious about what your doing. Show up unexpected at your friends house when you suspect something. It could be nothing from her. Maybe she could be looking out for you. You never know.

Answer 8

I would start keeping a close eye on them. If their stories seem too strange, or your husband begins to have strange behavior, such as being secretive, taking many more showers than usual...etc.... then I would start to question. Otherwise she may of been mistaken on the day she saw him. And she really may not of felt well.

Answer 9

Get the both of them together, then ask them both the questions that you want answered. It all sounds strange, so it's probably true. Are you ready for the consequences,if he IS having an affair?

Answer 10

so she saw him at a restaurant the same night you had called her for dinner, but she was sick? Did I get that right?

Maybe she's hinting to you that she's having an affair with your husband??