My wife, (we don't live together anymore) keeps calling for this and that, what should I tell her?

Question

We ended our marriage because she wanted it that way. She had gone off to school and after about three weeks, she started saying she doesn't want to live with me anymore. Three months later after a number of similiar conversations, I gave in and now we don't live together. She even lives 1500 miles away. She still calls me for this and that but never offers anything in return. Is that normal? Will women keep bothering you even if she doesn't want anything to do with me?

Answer 1

She's taking advantage of your generous nature...as long as you are there to support her whims, she doesn't feel the need to help herself (especially if she's asking you for money). If I wanted nothing to do with you, I wouldn't be calling you unless I knew you were a sucker (sorry) and would cater to my needs. Next time she calls be firm say NO and cut her off. She lives 1500 miles away. She needs to find a support system over there.

Answer 2

From my perspective, it sounds as if she may be using you or keeping you "on the side" for the time being. It could be she is holding on to you in case it does not work where she lives now, or if she changes her mind to be with someone she could always come back to you. (I am not too sure exactly how to word it, but hope you understand.)

I would recommend just letting her leave a message on your voicemail, and if it is really important then step in if you feel that is the right thing to do. But if you do not have children together, perhaps it is best to cut all ties completely. After all, she did not want to continue with the relationship and there is no reason for her to contact you really.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

She will keep this up as long as you let her...You should have put your foot down a while ago...She wanted to leave just because she didn't want to live with you...What kind of crap is that...You should have let her know that that wasn't a good excuse...You should have tried to fight for your marriage...It seems that you really don't care because you let it happen just that easy...

Sign the divorec papers and kick her to the curb...Change your number and tell her to call Tyrone.....lol

She thinks that she can still use you and she is....Don't be her fool....Drop her like a bad habit...or she will make a fool out of you forever....

Answer 5

You say you ended your marriage, but you still call her "your wife." Are you divorced? If not, get one immediatley..you are responsible for debts incurred by her if you are still married. If you do not want calls from her, use caller ID. IF you answer the phone, always be prepared to say, "I must go now, there is someone at the door, I will call you right back." ... then don't . If she calls again, tell her something is boiling over on the stove, you will call her right back. ... then don't . You can come up with 500 reasons you have to hang up NOW...always say you will call her right back, then don't . The issue is very simple to handle, why aren't you handling it?

Answer 6

She doesn't want you but she doesn't want to let you go. She wants the benefits of having you around without having to "be" your wife. It's quite unfair, and even though men do this to women ALL the time, it's still not nice. Just tell her simply that SHE is the one who wanted things as is, and that you must now move on with your life. Simple as that.

Answer 7

Could be that she is not ready to let go. Even when you know that you don't want something, doesn't mean you don't miss it. I had a family member that was abusive. I had to kick them out of my life, but I am sure they were confused. Because I would tell them to BACK OFF, yet I would miss them and call now and then and be friendly. She is probably just missing you and not ready to let go yet.

Answer 8

She will until you cut her off. From 1500 miles away that shouldn't be hard. Sorry it turned out that way, but a clean break sounds better for you both. Good luck!

Answer 9

She will go as far as you let her. You shouldn't be passive but not too agressive though; tell her that she wanted to leave and start a new life, so be it; she can't use you as cheap carpet.
Please man, it all comes down to self-steem, happens to all of us, after a sour relationship we all end up wounded, that's just how life is; but if you want to heal your wound you will stay away from the knife; greatest of luck.

Answer 10

Tell her she is the one that didn't want to be with you. That don't mean that she can have you when she wants you. On the phone or anywhere. Find someone else and she will stop calling. She thinks that you are just waiting for her. Prove her wrong.