Am i going crazy. My husband and my EX!!!!?

Question

Me and my husband have been together for 8 years come sept. Me and my ex we to together on and off for 3 years i loved him but i was never in love with him. I love my husband to death. recently my ex tells me he never stopped loving me and whenever i want him back i can have him. I have been thinking about him often. Am i going crazy?

i have not been cheating on my husband i would never do that. i also was not thinking about leaving him. i just happen to run into my ex who i have not seen since then.

Answer 1

If you are even considering someone other then the man your married to, then 1- you are lacking something in your current relationship & 2- your a healthy woman!

Most woman will give a previous lover some "brain time" if the relationship had alot of good qualities to it. Does that mean you stray - NO - it means you keep the fond memory of what that person meant to you & you focus your efforts towards maintaining the strength and happiness of your marriage.

You pledged before God, family & friends & to the most important persons being you & your spouse - that you would love, honor & cherish till death do you part. Other then there being abuse (which is a broad term - but you know what I mean if your smart). In this relationship - you gave your word & now is the test to see how valueable & honorable your word is.

Answer 2

Inform your current spouse NOW!
then both of you go see the EX. and inform him together he's way out of line and he needs to never talk to you again!

He's try to get into your paints young lady, nothing more , nothing less!
Tell the HORN DOG to take a hike and never look back at you because you found the man you want to go the distance with!
After that take you man home and MAKE LOVE TO HIM, in a way he will know he has nothing to worry about!

Your mind should then be at ease then because you will have removed a potential bomb from blowing up in your marriage!
Do this all at once and remember it not the "Orgasm that gets you through a marriage but the hello my love"!

My son married a woman who has 2 Ex.s and she had to do it with both of them, and then told him it was really the best thing because it hammered the point that she made the right choice with him!
They been married now 12 years and have a full a nd robust life together!

Answer 3

Yes, you are. For some reason your ex has targeted your life, and you are on the same frequency. Your earlier experiences may be more powerful, than your later experiences with your second husband. Try a counselor, or an outside hobby, something which advances your life, is exciting, and makes you feel good about the life you've built for yourself. Go on a vacation with your second husband, even a few days, to renew your interest, and see new things together.
If all else fails, tell him your ex is making advances. He may then overcome these powerful memories, with his own influence. You will have to do more than make a statement, you will have to side with your second husband. I did this, and my second husband ran down my first husband, and most all his friends and associates. He walked in on some really tough men, and pushed them with his finger pointed in their chest. They never approached me again. I was always faithful to him for this. My first husband's advances frightened me, and it took me me months to tell my second husband, although I wouldn't give up a day of my life with my second husband for my first.
Do as it pleases you.

Answer 4

Yes and No, you are only thinking about it because of the comments he said to you. Don't let him play mind games with you and don't destroy your marriage because of your ex. If you are doubting your marriage then you need to re-evaluate your marriage and by all means think things through. You don't want to look back and regret the decisions you made. Just stop letting yourself be with your ex so he cannot put you in those situations. Just make yourself happy first. I am sure you wouldn't like it if your husband was in this situation-how would you react? Good Luck.

Answer 5

When thinking about him remember the bad times as well as the good times too. There is a reason why hes an ex and no longer in a relationship with you. Also remember its not having what you want but wanting what you have. Words can be cheap and meaningless at times so be careful of his real intentions here. Good luck

Answer 6

Probably wants what he can't have.
If you love your husband, no way. There is a reason he is your ex. You need to go to counseling and work through this with your husband. I would cut off ties with the ex... it's not going to be anything but trouble!

Answer 7

No, you're not going crazy. You and your ex still have feelings for one another; but you've got to stop playing these games, before somebody gets hurt. You claim to love your husband to death, so love him enough to stop talking to your ex. It's the wise thing to do.

Answer 8

Your in love with the idea of having someone in love with you....It's sort of like an attention thing. You have two men telling you they love you and you want both regardless of your actual intent with either male. Make sense? Plus the whole what if doesn't help....What if you go back to your ex, will your life be that much better off or what if I go back and we have wild passionate sex? Hope some of this helps !!!

Answer 9

you sound curious about what could've been. Let your ex know that you're in love with your husband and he isn't being very respectful of either one of you by saying this. Then go to your husband and let him know how much you love him and remember there was a reason you and your ex split up. As you've said yourself you were not in love with him.

Answer 10

It may be flattering to your ego, but unless you want to destroy a good 8-year marriage I would stop indulging in that nonsense. You need to realize it for what it is. He is your 'ex' for a reason. Don't go back there.