What's a good comeback?

Question

My husbands's brother's wife is always putting her husband down. She says things about him not showering or brushing his teeth and things like that. He does shower and brushes his teeth, maybe not to her liking. She always makes sure to say these things when people are around. What's a good comment to shut her up once and for all?

Answer 1

Then next time you around her, sniff the air and say" someone needs to douche, it smells like fish in here".

Answer 2

Maybe it is not just a one liner that would shut her up. When she starts again with a topic on her husband, and it is a good idea to let him know beforehand, continue the conversation but put the light on her. Exampl.e: Oh I know isn't that just yuck, tell me how often do you shower? Personally, I shower twice a day and three times for my teeth, How about you? What do you think a person should bathe a day? A Week? Do you brush your teeth each time you shower? and just let you mind take it wherever and as long as you want but keep her in the spotlight with what she thinks and what is her example. Soon she will get tired of being in the focus of the conversation, but the best way to stop what she is doing is to overdose her. Let her have what she wants till she stops. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Tell her that she needs to act on the same before she speaks. She may be good at hygeiene but it will offend her by implying she's not. Start saying 'someone smells good" or something around your brother in law or suggest that something smells a little off and then stand by her and say oh, nevermind i found the source. Put her down just like she puts him down it will shut her up.

Or give her a more direct hit. Buy her a big basket of soaps and deodarants and things like that...that'll hit her hard then by your b-in-law some ordinary great gift

Answer 4

How about this - "maybe if he had someone at home worth cleaning up for, he might do these things more often"

or-

He will shower and brush his teeth as often as you would like him to as soon as you learn to be a kinder gentler person.

Answer 5

its just not your place to speak up. You should stay out of it cause its not your marriage its theres. If you really feel the need to interfere then do it tactfully and not bring yourself to her level. Start a casual conversation and ask her if she is happy....if she asks why you ask say cause you seem so unahppy in your life. She may or may not get the hint but she will when she says something again and you ask again are you happy. She'll get it sometime or anouther.

Answer 6

I've been in a similar situation, I handled it very directly and said something like (substituting Mary for her name):

"Mary, I'm not going to comment on my opinion of your behaviour; BUT in this household we respect each other and while your in our household I would appreciate if you could behave like you are actually a supportive spouse. Once your outside of our house you can act... however you normally act."

She may react by leaving - but you will certainly get your point across without resorting to name calling.

Answer 7

Tell her that not brushing for long periods of time and not showering helps him to tolerate the scent of when she comes too close!

Answer 8

my method (and it seems to have been working lately) is too just completely ignore the comment. Not being rude to her, but just simply not verbally or through body language giving any sort of feedback.

I had this same sort of problem with a girl i knew and after some of that medicine, she stopped making comments...

Good luck!

Answer 9

Maybe if you gave it up once and a while I would take a shower.

Answer 10

Hey I learned this at an early age "Be careful of pointing a finger at someone else. Because you have 3 pointing back at you." Also-you usually pick out flaws in others that you are guilty of yourself!!!