My husband of 20 years runs two companies both deal primarily with one Big customer about a year & a half ago they hired this woman. The company isn't the smoothest running company to begin with and there are always problems...well this woman finds every reason to call that she can. Nights, weekends...you name it she is on the phone. Sometimes just to chat. My husband says he can't afford to tick her off they bring in too much money, I say there is nothing wrong with saying, "can we discuss this in the morning, I'm trying to spend some time with my wife." I have met her and she is nothing in the looks or body catagory. I do know she has a crush on my husband,We went to a black tie event this weekend and i went to the restroom and someone at our table said the second i got up she ran over to speak to him, she jumped up and ran back to her husband when she saw me come back in. I have had it! I need to hear from others on their opinion of the situation. I don't know what to do.
2007-05-22 12:40:24 · 23 answers · asked by gigi8499 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like your husband loves the attention he's getting from another woman. It's not about looks or body, it's about getting attention. What's missing at home? Love, affection, respect, admiration, sex? Probably.
2007-05-22 12:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that is the propper behavior of just a co-worker...Just have another talk w/ ur husband about the way u think her behavoir is.I know impressing the company is a good thing but if she is calling him that much on problems then is she really doin a great job at her work...i think not....also there are other people that work there that could answer her questions. If she keeps pursuein in actin like that if i were in ur shoes i would have to have a heart to heart w/ her.U do not want some man eater ruining ur marriage
2007-05-22 12:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by lil country gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a wife myself, I know what you mean. If a woman was constantly calling my husband when he already has limited time to spend with me, I would get that phone and tell her, unless this is an emergency, I would appreciate if you could discuss this during normal business hours. And if she didn't like it then tough! I just don't think you can be too careful when it comes to the opposite sex and your spouse. Some women are a disgrace to the gender. They just stand by like Vultures waiting to swoop in and snatch up someone Else's man. Stand your ground and get rowdy if you need too.
2007-05-22 12:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Netbee01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your foot down. I can understand the whole not wanting to tick her off thing, if it's true. However, he is your husband and should be respecting your feelings. You know deep down in your gut what's going on. Go with your gut. If he can't keep a business relationship and only a business relationship, there's something funny going on. Have you confronted her? I sure would. If he isn't going to do anything about it you should, or stop complaining.
2007-05-22 12:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by BoredinVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. Hubby needs to work out his priorities - money or a happy home?
It's not healthy to be so dependent on one client for business. If that client fails, hubby's business and income goes with it yet he's not even got employee rights - the money he's owed would be much further down the pecking order.
Been there, got the t-shirt.
He's allowing the client to control his business (which is bad enough) plus his home life (which is really unprofessional, on both his and the client's part).
2007-05-22 12:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by Ian S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being smart. She needs to back off and you may need to be the one to tell her. Sounds like he needs her for the business and he's afraid to tell her anything that will decrease her productivity. He may even be using her for the fact that as long as she likes him he can get her to do anything. But that's no reason to create problems with you. You need to come first so speak up and tell her that if she doesn't back off you'll go to her husband next.
2007-05-22 12:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by fourzenuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told your husband that this is bothering you? Sounds like he works way too much. Ask him about his feelings for her. You know him and after 20 years you can tell what he is really feeling. Ask him if you can talk to her and tell her how you feel. Let him know it is really a problem for you. I'd say you are smart to be jealous.
2007-05-22 12:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by blahh2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... I would just go punch her. =]
But in all seriousness I think what you should do is talk to her yourself. Just tell her that you dont appreciate her calling your home for anything short of business, and even then it should be relatively important! If your husband gets mad then maybe there is something else going on- I hate to say that and really hope not! But it is a possiblity-right? Just talk to her yourself and then if it continues then break her nose! lol
2007-05-22 12:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he's away from the office she should respect his personal time unless it is an emergency and I'm sure every time she calls it's not an emergency. I would have a sweet but stern talk to her on my own. She'll tell your husband, but she'll get the point.
2007-05-22 12:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get caller ID and don't answer the phone! There is nothing really you can do. Your husband has to handle it. You should not be jealous of her and if you are smart you will leave it alone.
2007-05-22 12:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋