I really want to tell ym friends that my parent s are getting a divorce but I have no idea how to tell them.
Should I just blurt it out?
Should I tell someone that I know can't keep a secret?
What?
2007-05-22 12:53:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do you tell them about anything else in your life? Do you usually share personal info? Or, do you usually just keep to yourself? Approach them in the same way that you usually do when talking to them about your life.
2007-05-22 12:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to tell friends? I think talking to your best friend about it can be important and beneficial. It can help strengthen your relationship. However, I would say let things simmer. They will find out if they need to... otherwise the outcome is just a sick pitty party because they dont know how else to respond. Been there done that when I was younger. Tell those you think need to know. Bring it up casually. '...hey guys. I really need to talk to you about something. It's going to change my life in a big way, and you will need to know at some point. my parents have been having some issues lately...and they have discussed taking a break. they have decided that it's best to divorce... but i will be okay after some bumps. thats what you guys are here for though and i know that. i will be living with (blank) most of the time and i will/will not be attending the same school (due to us having to find separate housing. if you are switching schools.) etc etc etc.' Id advise you or your parents to quietly tell your teachers, they will be a great help when it comes to school. its a huge change and can mess with your ability to perform well in school. they will offer extensions and extra help. they will make sure you dont drown like me. word wont get around to everybody by doing this, it will just let them know to lighten up on ya while you work things through. after telling your friends go about your daily life and only bring it up if something is really bothering you. bring it up over coffee or a lunch. even at school, just eat somewhere isolated. you dont need to explain the whole situation. like what i said earlier, just explain there will be some big changes...that they need time apart and that it may be permanent (unless youre sure it will be) and explain that you only wanted to share because 1.) it is very important in YOUR life and 2.) things wont be exactly the same next time they come over to hang out or spend the night. only tell people who REALLY need to know. keep it on a need to know basis. your parents will appreciate that and think of you as a more mature kid.
2016-03-12 21:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - it's not about you.
Ok?
What you need to do is just confide in a very trusted close friend what all of your fears and feelings are.
Don't tell the world about it. Just express your hurt over their demise.
But realize one important thing - it's about them and how they just can't live together any more. It's not about you, it's strictly about them.
Life will go on. The sun will shine and you will continue to find happiness and security...just not in the way you expected it.
2007-05-22 13:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sadly, these days, divorce isn't uncommon. You shouldn't feel pressured to tell your friends at all! They should know, damnit! LOL but anyway, just TELL them. No, literally, just walk up to them and say, "My parents aren't happy together, so they're splitting. I could use some support right now."
2007-05-22 12:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Katalina 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just say my parents are getting a divorce. It's so common nowadays nobody will be that shocked.
2007-05-22 12:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everybodys parents are divorced or need to be. It's no big deal. Only tell if someone ask.
2007-05-22 12:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to tell your friends. That is your business. You already told Yahoo the secret, now don't you feel better.
2007-05-22 12:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by That one 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there's no reason why you should keep it a secret from your friends. they're your friends for a reason, they wanna help & be there for you when you need. i wouldn't just like blurt it out of nowhere, but just have a conversation with them about it..maybe vent out some of your feelings to them. whatever makes you feel comfortable.
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2007-05-22 20:12:44 · answer #9 · answered by niomi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really shouldn't matter. any way you say it, you should probably let them know so that they can be there for you when you need to talk and so they can understand what you are going through.
2007-05-22 12:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋