Marriage & Divorce - 8 May 2007

I was divorced after 23+ years. She divorced me. She was an adulteress and admitted it.

Before I moved out, I rifled through a box which she kept up high in her closet. Inside, I found a photo of her and "one" of the guys. This one happened to be her High School sweetheart. (Really)

I took the photo, which was a "party picture" type, with these two boneheads in an embrace. You can even see her wedding ring. I still have the photo, I don't know if she knows I have it.

I no longer want it, and thought I'd just mail it back to her. We've been divorced for over a year now. I don't speak to her.

2007-05-08 09:24:28 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

that you do infront of you husband,wife or partners apart from letting off wind lol

2007-05-08 09:19:32 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

He said he could live without anybody else (including me), except for his brother. do i need to find someone else that will be more willing to put me first. im not self centered, but this really bothers me. any suggestions? 1 week ago
he also blamed me for him not talking to his brother often enough, like it's my job to tell him to call his brother.

2007-05-08 09:18:46 · 17 answers · asked by bass_clarinet07 1

i don't understand if they have love, someone who's always there for them... etc why??? can you guys help me understand....

2007-05-08 09:16:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm recently divorced after 15 years "she cheated" and I never really payed attention to a womens ring finger until now. If she is wearing a ring I stay away but if not then I take her as possibly available. Do women look at guys the same way?

2007-05-08 09:13:12 · 14 answers · asked by tyler d 1

okay so i dont even know if they should be getting married. im friends with both of them and feel like its my place to say something. the major problem they have comes from his family. the way he was brought up is that the man is the bread winner and the woman cleans. his grandma just recently told his soon to be wife (in like 13 days) that she is worthless, lazy, ect. and to never call her again. she called me all upset. well the thing is he hurt his knee many years ago and had surgery. since then it bothers him sometimes. I think he uses it as an excuse ALOT. he has worked maybe a total of a year in the 6 years they have been together. he always says he cant do something because of his knee. (even making pizzas) so he usually sits at home all day and whatches tv or plays video games while she goes to work. his grandma thinks it okay that he doesnt have an income and sits on his ***. he doesnt help her clean but once in a while and then he might put the dishes up or take the trash out

2007-05-08 09:13:03 · 5 answers · asked by DP 3

I have been married now for 10 years... My husband love porn like most, but he is getting way to involved with it.. I am not noticed, and I am always a piece of *********** ... I cant seem to even make conversation with him ... He finds his own reasons not to make love to me... Sometimes this will go for 6 months or so...... Could someone please help me. I am a woman and I need the little things out of life... Not the negative crap all the time..I know no one could be that bad...I am not perfect by no means, but I have a heart and I do give my all... JUst anouther thought..How much negative crap about oneself, can one withstand throughtout a life time before they {A} start beiling it or {B} they crack.... Thanks anything would be helpful...

2007-05-08 09:11:56 · 20 answers · asked by smiles 1

I've been having an affair for 2 months now.,and my son are taking their jerk father side, and now am being shown the door as well as a couple of smack across the face!
My sons all 4 of them have been beating the hell out of our family friend who I had an affair with, while their father was in IRAQ! Yes I know it was not right but I wanted to have sex, and he was their when my husband wasn't!

Now he's moved back to Jacksonville FL. and trying to escape what my husband said he was going to do to him!

My boys have thrown me out of the home and are calling me a dirty C**T, in public!
I'm being destroyed and my husband wont do anything about it but kick my ***!
I've got no where to go, and been fired because of affair and no money, because my son, gave my pin # to father and he took all the money and put it in a account whit his name only on it!
What am I going to do? I'm 45 and can't start fresh, and sons have been mean to me, I hate what I did to my family!

2007-05-08 09:10:22 · 14 answers · asked by anonymous 1

My wife and I have been married for almost 3 years (May 22, 2007 will be 3rd Anniversary). We have a lovely daughter of 2-1/2 Years (do the math). We were already engaged when our little "surprise" came along, so we did not just get married because we were pregnant.

Now, neither of us are perfect. I've had some problems with drinking in the past, but I have worked through them and no longer drink to excess when in a situation where I have to be responsible. A while back, I was in a car accident on a country road when a deer stopped in front of my car. I had consumed a total of 2 of beers (I know, I shouldn't have been driving, regardless) but 2 beers does not a drunk driver make. Unfortunately, it's very easy to convict a person of DUI in the USA and that's just what happened. I was forced to take a plea to avoid a long jail sentence.

My wife is absolutely furious with me and has kicked me out of the house. I love my wife and want us to be OK. She refuses to forgive me.

2007-05-08 09:05:49 · 10 answers · asked by constantstatic 2

We dated for a year before and he pulled the same thing on his ex girlfrind and was not cheating on her. We met when we were both single. He may be cheating, but have done my homework on that. Checked his phone and email. Throughout the marriage he was very depressed and went on meds for it then got off of them, because of the side effects. I know what i should do, but it's hard at this point because I'm still in the honeymoon part of our marriage. He told his family that I am the perfect wife, the perfect mother everything he wants in a wife and when the time comes that he does want a committed relationship, he will be looking for me, and I keep telling him I will be gone by then. He has a councelling appointment today, and one with me tomorrow, so we will see. BTW, we have 3 kids but not together. Could it be that he is a kid living in a man's body. His parents abandoned him as a child and he was raised by his grandparents. Thanks for you advise.

2007-05-08 09:05:45 · 5 answers · asked by raerae 1

2007-05-08 08:58:34 · 26 answers · asked by AriM 1

I know I am an ******, But for the last 4 months I have been having an "Affair" with a married woman. I came clean with my girlfriend and told her everything and we split up. The woman I am involved with continues to lie to her husband who I have come to know as a really nice guy. I feel horrible for him and it annoys me that she lies and covers thing up so much. Should I tell him or just avoid it. He isn't violent at all. She just tells him that we are just good friends, and she tells me she wants to be with me ect. I am just really confused. And the fact that she lies so much to him worries me. What should I Do?

2007-05-08 08:56:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

If your daddy keeps punching you, will you fight back at him?

2007-05-08 08:53:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know most women don't know what they do want in a mate until they see it. But, what don't they want in a mate?

What don't you want in your mate?

2007-05-08 08:48:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My x-husband and I have recently decided to get back together after being apart for 7 years. We have 2 children together. We were young and he suffers from bi-polar. After many long and lengthy conversations we decided to try again. I live in MI and he lives in VA. I am moving there next week. I quit my job, told my landlord and everything is set to go, I could not be happier. Then he called last night, said he had been spiraling and now he doesn't want to get back together. He is going to counceling to get help and I told him he needs meds. So now, I have to decide if I still move or what do I do. My kids want to be by their dad and I think they should know their dad and that whole side of the family too. Any suggestions? Yes I still love him.

2007-05-08 08:44:58 · 8 answers · asked by ads_ags 1

My husband and i got married 5 months ago and he left me for no reason last week. he says it's him and that I am the perfect wife. He rented an apartment this weekend with a 1 yr lease. I have asked him to come back home, but he will not. We are going to marriage counseling and going seperatly as well, though he didn't want to. We are in our 30's and have 3 kids together(from seperate marriages). He say's he has never lived his life on his own, that people have always helped him and that he wants to see how it feels to be 100% resposible for himself and his daughter. If eel abandoned and left me not asking for anything at all from the house. He is torn he says he would like to date me as a friend and maybe sees where it would go, and that's once a week and counseling once a week, but the other time he wants to be alone to do what he wants. I am not going to give up on this until there is no hope. He says he's pulled in both direction, he doesn't know if he wants to try or not. Help?

2007-05-08 08:38:42 · 36 answers · asked by raerae 1

I have been supportive in every way possible. Cooking for his family, giving up holidays to spend with his, along with tip-toeing around him so that his life was as stress free as possible. She passed away 2 weeks ago, leaving behind 3 adult children and a husband. Her husbands birthday is coming up and his son is planning a huge birthday party for him. it just so happens that its on the same day as my mom's yearly memorial day picnic. Its the one holiday she insists on us being there. He flat out told me we cant to go my moms house. That we need to celebrate his uncles birthday and that it would be an insult to ask them to move it to the day before or after etc.. meanwhile we've been doing that with every holiday and birthday with my family. Switching it around etc.. The argument escolated, he slept on the couch and ignored any attempts I made to talk to him today. When we did talk he called me ignorant, disgusting and narcistic and told me I was being selfish. What should I do?

2007-05-08 08:35:32 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-08 08:30:57 · 12 answers · asked by JESSICA l 2

2007-05-08 08:25:44 · 10 answers · asked by ALLOVER 1

Take into account that my b/f is a smart, calulated person.
He comes home, after two, in the morning, goes straight to the bathroom and washes his penise. When I asked, what he was doing, he lied.I argued intil he had to admited to t/ cleaning. But said that "he was tired and didn't know what he was saying".Then tried to say that he washed up for me!!
( we have a very good sex life @ 2 + per week)
A few hours later I find out that he has a profile on plenty of fish ( a singles site), and has been talking to 33 women about sex.
wanting me to belive him that he was still "FATHFUl" he suggested that because he didn't go out and meet anyone ,in the year that it was posted, I should forgive him. We have been together for 9 years. engaged for 2. The house, Dog, no Kids. In my heart I don't want to be w/ him. I feel sorry for him. it has been a month and he is still crying.
What should I do. I want to MOVE ON.
He won't let go. Every day I am breaking up w/ him all over again

2007-05-08 08:16:13 · 18 answers · asked by NewMe 1

It is surely a stupid question. But I just want to try some good methods to forget the painful relationship. He is having his night today. I can hear the happy voice in the background when I call him. This might be the last time to talk with this gay for whole my life. I have choose to forget him. But what is the method. Can someone share the days of recovery??I am truely hope to release the pain and get recovery from it. It is too heavy for me at this moment although one day I cant even remember his face again. But now, I am surely sleepless with continuous tears running on my face.

I dont understand why dont he make up his mind to make a decision-hard but true decision? But I am surely I'm not his true love since I am the outsider away from the wedding. I dont know the tradition and culture of india. I just know that he is never my love anymore. Hence, only way is to delete this guy from my memory and not being a fault to someone's marriage. i will never never be making this faul

2007-05-08 08:01:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

If your we're with this guy and you had a kid, But you and this guy we're always faighting!?! Would you leave him right away? or Would you stay with him and gust deal with the bullshit? .... Cause see one of my friends is going throught this, and i wanted to know what i shouild advise her. Cause she has been with this guy for live 17 yrs. Right and her and this guy always fight, he always hit's her is has so many marks on her face and body. Plus this is the worst they fight in front of the kid. So please tell something.

2007-05-08 07:52:23 · 9 answers · asked by galvez_m2004 1

My husband went to bed the friday before christmas happily married and woke up saturday thinking he didn't want to be married to me any more. Since then has moved out and told me he fell out of love with me and in love with another married woman. To top it off a married women that will not leave her husband and he swears they are not sleeping with each other. He wants me to not give up on him and says that he has not loved me in two years. I was stunned to say the least we have been married 9 years and together since highschool almost 16 years total. I don't know what to do, he wants to separate and he wants to be best friends and talk everyday and we have two children as well. I cry everyday because i miss him so much. It is so frustrating because i am a very strong person and know i can take care of my children & be okay, but the thought of not being married and having my best friend is killing me. Should i fight to save our marriage when it was so easy for him to walk away?

2007-05-08 07:47:03 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend is begining an ugly divorce and her husband it acting psychotic. She has found out that he has a hacker friend who hacked into her emails and anyone that she has been sending to. He has also tracked her by GPS on her Nextel. She now has to turn her cell off when going out and she found out the other day that he knew she was going out so he hid his phone in her car and tracked her that way. He has never hurt her before but has now gone overboard. He has private emails from when he hacked into her work email address (they both work together) and has threatened to show our bosses. He is spreading rumors around work and all of this has affected my friend. He is now threatening to take her car that is financed in both of their names even though he has his own vehicle. What can my friend do? Are any of the things he is doing illegal?

2007-05-08 07:47:02 · 5 answers · asked by Lisa D 1

my husband has just walked out of our marriage and has gone to live with an other woman in a other city and has just told me that he wanted a change and is not comming back he told me that it wasnt me but him. he left last year for a week but said he was in his mates but came back crying and promised it would'nt happen again he does things on impulse and thinks the grass in greener but I know he will with get bored with that life. he wants a divorce but want me to do it

2007-05-08 07:43:30 · 23 answers · asked by jambi 1

2007-05-08 07:42:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Has anyone ever dated someone after their divorce and realized it was just too soon so you ended it? Do you think it clouded how you truly felt about that person?

What happened when you were ready to date...did you try again with the same person, or move along to someone new?

2007-05-08 07:42:13 · 5 answers · asked by loves2sing 2

2007-05-08 07:37:55 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-08 07:30:37 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

So now that we have decided to get a divorce due to my husbands infidelity...it seem like now more than ever i want to have sex bad...i always have before too but he would always push me away...i know im not going to do anything bad but im just frustrated cause even though i have all these bad thoughts of him being with someone else i still want sex...what can i do?

2007-05-08 07:24:12 · 18 answers · asked by ღCCღ 2