How to get the pain out of my mind, especially I know my love is getting married with his wife today?

Question

It is surely a stupid question. But I just want to try some good methods to forget the painful relationship. He is having his night today. I can hear the happy voice in the background when I call him. This might be the last time to talk with this gay for whole my life. I have choose to forget him. But what is the method. Can someone share the days of recovery??I am truely hope to release the pain and get recovery from it. It is too heavy for me at this moment although one day I cant even remember his face again. But now, I am surely sleepless with continuous tears running on my face.

I dont understand why dont he make up his mind to make a decision-hard but true decision? But I am surely I'm not his true love since I am the outsider away from the wedding. I dont know the tradition and culture of india. I just know that he is never my love anymore. Hence, only way is to delete this guy from my memory and not being a fault to someone's marriage. i will never never be making this faul

May be I am just wrongly believe this guy who I met in Aus. At this moment, I m not so confident he really loves me. His friend picked up the call last night telling me. He is occupied and he has got married. I feel so ashamed on it.

After a painful night, I back to work and make myself busy. But, after office hrs, I cant hold myself & gave him call. He can smile,looked so calm as he said that he is with his family (including his wife). Finally he said that he should call me later,...dont you understand that I cant talk with you at this moment?

All is so true when he came to HK be with me. But now, all those things happen keep hurting me in line with this I should not attempt to believe that there is true love. Thanks for all. I read the answer and I cry. Who love me most in the world?yeah, my parent and my family, I finally got it; and not all indian would like to cheat others.I will fight with myself. From being believe, to suspect, to accept, to forgive, to forget,for yrself

I can stop loving him. When I saw indian in my country, all I can imagine is the they are becoming lover. I know others would think that I am a foolish but what I can do believe in mind is that he didnt tell lies to me. We love each other. Additionaly, he has tried to tell his parents, although he seems not to be insisted on strongly. Sorry, I can hold myself, there should be a choice in life. Those he made is not a real choice under the circumstance. What I can focus is the relationship with him, even I jealous about all the thing they share.

Answer 1

Its not stupid question dear! I can understand you feelings, when you love someone it’s very difficult to forget him especially when you know that he won't be yours. You had asked about the Indian culture of seeking parent’s advice or marring with parents permission in your last question & I told you it’s the children welfare the parents see. Let me add here its the children too who have equal right to speak about their choice but if the child doesn't come out what he or she wants how does parent will come to know. As I told you my daughter was vocal in her decision & told me very frankly that she loves the man & will marry her only. No doubt I myself had liking for the boy, but was little reluctant as he was only a mere student as that time, so I told them both for wait for three years till he complete his course & I'll get them married. It was a gentleman promise I kept & I fell happy for that. Now in your case if this guy didn’t tell about his affair with you to his parents then its his fault not yours. What I feel he felt that you being an foreigner won't be liked by his parents, this was wrong on his part, now we the parents of this twenty first century are as modern as you guys all around the world, rather I'll say we are more modern & advance in our thoughts & action in certain terms, which I see in me & my wife & my kids. So I feel about other Indian parents of my age group. But if kids don't want to disclose their feeling to us what all we can do, tell me. If my son after some years find a foreigner girl, start dating her online, makes promise to her and at last ditch her just to marry some Indian girl, and all this happens without our knowledge then whom you'll blame me & my wife or my son ? Until & unless we parents are taken in confidence don’t expect us to react or do any thing if it is done without our knowledge, & don't expect us to open your emails to check your love mails to know every thing which is the most uncultured thing to do. He used you for just as time pass, had he really loved you he would definitely told his parents & insisted for marriage with you. Indian parents have now changed a lot; they are more towards kid’s decisions regarding marriages rather forcing their point of view. This is what I tell every one here who wants to marry without the knowledge of their parents thinking that parents will object for this but this is not true. We love our kids & even love their choice, so be frank with us & faithful to your love. God bless you all.

Answer 2

I sympathise with u. Good that u have realised that he is not ur true love. Life has got many things to give. I can understand what pain u r going thro'. No words can comfort u at this moment. But I'm sure, after 3 or 4 days U will gradually come out of this & start living ur present life. Change of comapny, friends, environment will ease ur mind. Keep ur self busy with some work all the time like studying, office, cleaning, shopping. U will certainly overcome this.

Take care, I'll pray for u..

Answer 3

Light up some candles, play crazy music and take a cold shower. If that don't work, go out for a walk and convince yourself there are more fish in the ocean. Forget about the one and move on with your life.

Answer 4

This guy never loved you. you are the only one who loved him. To me he looks like a play boy. He is not the victim of the arranged marriage. If you could hear him in the back ground, then for sure he does not even want to talk to you. why would you want to shed tears for him. forget him and thank god , it stopped right here.

Answer 5

She's looking for a justification. Ask who he is and where she met him. There may well be someone else she's got her eye on. Obviously, you didn't change... something with her did-- find out what that is and quick.

Answer 6

ur very loving marriage is made in heaven in advance may be some body else is in store for u

Answer 7

i'll tell u one thing to cope with this, respect their relationship and wait for the right guy to turn ur head around

Answer 8

yep that the best thing to do, just forget all about him never talk to him again , never see him again and it will take few weeks for you to move on,

Answer 9

Go out,met more friends and enjoy your self...forget him like you never know him.

Answer 10

u cant forgot a one boy that had forgot u thats bad