Marriage & Divorce - 11 May 2007

I like the attention he gives me because I feel attractive. I like him and is attracted to him too. I like it when he flirts with me. I feel happy because he seems to like me alot. He's always kidding around with me, look for me, and always look at me and say or do something to try to catch my attention and make me smile or laugh. He buys me lunch and seems to care about me alot. I like him and he likes me too. I need to stop but I can't. I just like his attention, but would never divorce my husband to be with him. I could never see myself living with him, only with my husband, because of culture differences. We know we both won't get hurt because we both are same boat, married too. We just like each other and like to flirt with each other.

2007-05-11 21:46:34 · 47 answers · asked by . 1

...because you are separated from your husband (by mutual agreement) and you and your child live with an another man that you realy love?

2007-05-11 21:39:37 · 17 answers · asked by Wintermute 4

A friend's wife had an "accident" with her office mate. They went to Frankfurt in order to attend the company's annual world meeting in the company's headquarter. Her local office didn't allocate that much to give them each room. So they slept in the same room for 5 days and in the last day, the lust was in their head, then...

They didn't prepped with safety.

The next week she checked, and wooaa it gave 2 stripes. My friend cannot tolerate this and still acting like a nut since last week when he knew bout it.

What would you do if you're in his position?

What should I tell him?

**O, my friend's wife is 38 and her office mate is a junior, still about 20s the office send him because of his fluent French & German. The conference was held in German and her local office only got him.
She had 2 children with my friend. My friend is 43, but in this case he's acting like 13 years old adolesensce

2007-05-11 20:43:46 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I take it very personally and start to question my manhood, am I attractive?, does she want someone else? does she have someone else? these things go through my head. I'm feeling that way tonite. We average if I'm lucky once a month (and NO that is not enough) I am so disgruntled we were in church last Sunday and the pastor was talking about how God's greatest gift to us was sex in marriage its pleasurable, wonderful and more fulfilling, and you have it much more often. I wanted to stand up and say Bull ****! but I didnt. That sermon has bothered me all week long and today was my 16th wedding anniversary. I got a bouquet of mixed colored roses and a musical card and delivered them to her at work on my way home. She was so excited.Then we went out to dinner when she got home from work and I told her how I feel. Her only suggestion was to talk to the pastor. Tell him that isnt how it is in my marriage. I want it to be like in the sermon. What do I do now?

2007-05-11 20:43:02 · 14 answers · asked by gr_elvis 3

He also has two married daughters and therefore no body to look after his son as he has to go for job daily. Though the son is reasonably respoonsible (30 years) but still sometime he creates dangerous things for himself. Now this person only wants to marry for sake of his son only. But our worry is that new wife which as of now is saying that she would be able to take good care of his son may get irritated after some time and then the marriage will be in doldrum. Please advice(No jokes please)

2007-05-11 20:37:42 · 20 answers · asked by Happy 1

My wife doesn't want to know I have things left from my late wife. Some of the items have helped comfort me in the past when I was missing my late wife.

2007-05-11 20:35:34 · 28 answers · asked by KeepSellorGive 1

My husband is out of state for his job so we are not together. He called me earlier to let me know that he will be out with his co-workers and told me not to worry & that I can call him anytime. But I got upset at him. So, now I called his cellphone & he won't pick up. Although, he doesn't have a history of cheating ( thank goodness) but I hate it when guys go out because they go to bars and drink and who knows what else happen. He's with co-workers who are also married but I don't trust guys especially when they're out drinking. I don't drink at all & I always have a bad impression on married men who go to bars and drink. He told me his co-workers name & I also tried calling his co-worker to see if they're together but his co-workers phone is OFF. Do I need to worry? What could they possibly be doing and talking about for hours? Maybe they're at a club or nude bar. I really hate to think worst. Help. Thanks.

2007-05-11 20:31:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

We work together and love each other's company & we are both married to different people. The sex with my husband was good when we dated for about an year - since we got married its been about 3 years now, he has lost all interest in me, I have tried everything I possibly could do but it dint help - my guess-he got into h00kers when we away for 6mnths bfr marriage.
Now this guy at work is a sweetheart, I have known him for about a year now and we have been sort of flirting and fooling around. I like him very much but there is a big chance that if we sleep together I might want it more and might fall in love with him. Also, we have kissed and it was totally hot. I know if I have sex with him it is going to blow my mind!
Now as far as guilt is concerned, I dont feel too much of it now, but we have only kissed. Will the guilt suddenly strike if I have sex with him. I feel bad more about his wife than my husband. BTW, My husband is the only man I ever slept with so I am tempted to try.

2007-05-11 20:21:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son is a Marine. He is the kindest, most compassionate person I have ever known. He is being deployed to Iraq in a few weeks. My son is only 20 years old. He just graduated high school in 2004. He is a kid still, he is not a soldier, he is not a killer. He plays games on the computer and still leaves his clothes on the floor. He has only been to another state on vacation, never to another country. He never even liked the air-soft gun he got for x-mas a few years ago. My eyes are now filled with tears, my heart hurting badly, my mind filled with only scary thoughts. I want to go with him and protect him. I am his mom, his life JUST getting started. He has the world at his feet. Why are we in Iraq? My son would do anything for our country, but this deployment is not for our country. I am not sure what it is REALLY for??? I do know that his life is worth more than this. He is brave for me and our family, but he must be terrified on the inside. I need help to handle this.

2007-05-11 20:20:09 · 20 answers · asked by Helaine S 1

My husband and I got a divorce,and since then we tried to work things out and we got back together for awhile but it didn't work.we both have been dating someone new for 6 months now.We still talk and spend time with each other from time to time, and still love each other but cant seem to work out our differences because when we try to talk about it, it brings back the hurtful memories . Is it a good thing to still be close or should we just cut all ties and try to move on? I'm so confused and so much still in love with him,that part of me wants him back no matter what the problems are and the other part of me says we will never be able to get through our differences. What should I do I'm so confused but still so much in love????

2007-05-11 19:58:54 · 19 answers · asked by ekhkygirl 1

Well where do i start... ok i have been at my current job for 8 months as a chemical plant operator , great benefits ok pay but its not a rewarding or as adventurous as my last job as a traveling pipeline reconstruction tech, not to mention the last paid better. This job is very demanding mentaly and stresses me out so bad i cannot relax when at home for dreading coming in to work monday. do i go back to my previous job and make everyone mad who helped me get the new job or stay here and lose my mind?NEXT my name is on the lease of a home that i am sharing with 2 of my best friends. the 1st that moved in is driving me nuts with his drinking and irresponsibility, the secound is perfect no complaints but the 1st is ruining it all for both of us. how do i kick him out with out ending the friendship? any suggestion would be greatly appreciated

2007-05-11 19:54:10 · 6 answers · asked by brandon4568 2

i am a 50yr old man,married for 25yrs,and suddenly my wife tells me she had an abortion 30yrs ago.I am totally stunned, does anyone have any advise.not even her family has ever told me

2007-05-11 19:50:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

At the final judgement hearing from a divorce, I was awarded the house which had 2 loans to be paid . Can my ex withdraw money from those loans? Are the loans frozen from any activity? And if he did withdraw money, what happens to him?

2007-05-11 19:36:00 · 5 answers · asked by bliss 1

I left my husband 3 months ago and I have started to date a longtime friend......a lot of his(the guy I'm dating) friends are putting me down for it. They tell him that I'm married and to stay away from me. He knows the situation that i was in and and was there through it all.......although we had nothing going on then. Why do people feel the need to condemn me and assume I am like a Jezebel from the Bible? They don't even know me!
This is just very frustrating for me......I'm not one that usually lets things like this bother me......My philosophy is........Those that mind/ don't matter......those that matter/don't mind!

2007-05-11 19:12:19 · 26 answers · asked by NCchic 1

I get pulled back in. And that--youre on a roll crap doesnt help. Give me something, does this happen to you I swear if this fricken crap keeps happening Im starting a 12 step program. What happened to me, I used to be cool, now Im answering relationship questions. Is this happening to anybody else? What do we do? I think Im hooked on this stupid site.

2007-05-11 18:41:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-11 18:39:39 · 23 answers · asked by jnnfchar 3

Only serious answers please.

My husband is not letting me get a full night sleep. It's been weeks, I don't know what to do anymore.

Every night, once we've gone to bed, he waits till I get to sleep and thens proceeds to, the only word that comes to mind is molestes me. Feels me up, touches me and wakes me up then asks if I want to have sex. I love to make love with my husband, but my health recently has been a concern. Having the sleepless nights are not making it any better. I've talked with him and asked him to please let me get some rest, I don't like getting woke up everynight at midnight or later because I can't get back to sleep. It happened again tonight. He says he sorry and it won't happen again, but then, sure enough, it happens. It's causing me to miss work and I'm not able to function during the day. I get maybe 3 or four hours of sleep and that's if I'm lucky.

I've talked and argued with him about it but nothing helps. I need some advice.

2007-05-11 18:38:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my wife for 8 years and now she would rather run around party and have intercourse with every man that she could get her hands on. I dont want her back, but i need a way to let her go. She is the love of my life and it is hard. Is their LOVE after LOVE????

2007-05-11 18:04:40 · 13 answers · asked by chriswh90 2

First of all...I'll start by saying my wife and I are very secure and happy.
We have talked for years about the idea of her having another guy just once, or "on the side" if she wanted. We have our reasons for this - please dont bash us for that.
A few times now - we have gone as far as meeting a guy, the two of them starting things, just to have her stop....literally leaving the other guy hanging.
Verrry frustrating for me - and the other men, of course.
Then a week or so later, she says she really wants to try it again - but she always seems to back out.
I would like to ask....
Why does she SAY she wants to do it - then never does?
Do any other couples - have an "open" relationship like this that works for them?
I have no interest in being with another woman...i just want this for her...
Do any other husbands even THINK about this for their wife?
Sorry for the multiple questions...it just happened again tonight and I am curious.

Thanks

2007-05-11 18:02:23 · 11 answers · asked by John M 1

she has been on her meds for 2 weeks now and even though she is living with a crackhead/new boyfreind im still holding out hope that she will come back to me has anyone else dealt with a cheatring bipolar b4 and if so what do i do?

2007-05-11 17:26:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

He goes to bed at 9p.m. & gets up in the middle of the night. I have been with him for 2 months now and I won't lie, I wish he'd stay in bed with me. But he gets up some times to look at porn on the computer or big screen and then come to bed a couple hours later. He says it's out of habit and asked me to block the pay-per- view which I did. Guys!! Should I worry? Am I enough as he says and its just a habit? Or is he fibbing?

2007-05-11 17:00:31 · 7 answers · asked by karens lovinlife 6

Is marriage going out of style, or am I just wonderfully content with my life as a single person? I think the search for a "romantic/marriage partner" is really a fear of aging for many people. They marry again & again, trying to get it "right"...did it ever occur to them that they may need to get "themselves" right?

2007-05-11 16:58:00 · 13 answers · asked by MOKKI-JO 1

2007-05-11 16:45:10 · 27 answers · asked by Steven F 1

So he tells me yesterday that hes going to go grocery shopping today, so I made a list.( we live together) And also told me that he was going to pick up his daughter today (he has her every other weekend) and I was cool with that. But then I come home tongiht at 10.30 (I work evenings and he works day) and there is still NO FOOD in the house. So I asked him about this because I am starving and he told me that his daughter was out playing all day and that he didnt have a chance to go. I am pretty peeved because I just dont see why he couldnt tell the neighbors that he was going or simply take her with. I mean is it so important that she not be bothered while playing so we can get some food in this house???

2007-05-11 16:25:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

How can u tell if your husband is in the marriage for the right reasons? I'm gonna do my best to make a long story short...he had affair, blamed it on his unhappiness in the marriage, then 1 night I over heard him tell his best friend, he's wating til the kids are 18 and he's "outta here". Then I confronted him on all of this, he cried, said he was sorry, professed his love for me, said he had the best thing in the world standing right in front of him the whole time and was too blind or selfish 2 see it. He said he made that comment cuz he was mad and didn mean it. I'm so confused. All of the previous mentioned history, then, he WANTS to go to marriage counseling, takes me on a weekend marriage retreat, buys me a $3000.00 new wedding set, arranges with our priest to renew our vows, etc. How does 1 become SO confused, they have an affair in 1 heart beat and do all of the other stuff in the next? Is he playing me, 2 keep me happy so i have nothing 2 worry about, or is he sincere?

2007-05-11 15:58:41 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

Tomorrow I have to plan out a romantic day (he is doing his today). He is getting ready to leave for 5 weeks and I need to make this a BIG night. Any ideas???

2007-05-11 15:53:26 · 7 answers · asked by dohm84 4

How I can do that now????

2007-05-11 14:34:51 · 13 answers · asked by cecilia c 1

My wife and I been married for 13 years, and we have become friends more than anything, so, we feel it's best to go our separate ways...and we get along really good and all, and that's why we want to try to keep lawyers out of it, and do this simple, and clean....and right. We have 3 kids together, and we dont want any stress in this....it's gonna be hard enough already. Anyway, my question is if there is any way to split, but without all the decision making from somebody who wants to bleed us dry, and make us hate each other in the long run? Please help, it's appreciated!!

2007-05-11 14:34:06 · 5 answers · asked by heymrdj1 2

My wife cheated on me three years ago with a convicted child molestor. She got pregnant and had his baby. For three years i thought that i was the one that had gotten her pregnant. But with a reacent seperation we had a blood test that showed he wasn't mine. Well he is mine no matter what. I am trying for custady of the children. I have four with her. Now sense we found out the youngest wasn't by me she is useing him so i cant get the children. Was told i wouldn't have any right to him even though his real dad is a convited child molestor. Sense i have no right to him that i wouldn't be ale to get the other children cause they wont seperate them. Well i dont want to seperate the children. I want custady of all four of them. Even though the youngest might have another biological father. I will always be his real father. I think i should have rights to keep him as my own sense i raised him sense he was born. Is their anyway i can go to keep him as my son. Please Help.

2007-05-11 14:23:26 · 11 answers · asked by chriswh90 2

How did you ever stop missing this other person and how do you love your husband again? I never did love him as much as this other man. My husband was much too cold for me. I thought he would warm up but he never did until I met someone else that is more lovable than anyone that I have ever met. How do I switch? Is it too late? Miracles never cease & that is what it would take!

2007-05-11 14:12:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous