My wife doesn't want to know I have things left from my late wife. Some of the items have helped comfort me in the past when I was missing my late wife.
2007-05-11 20:35:34 · 28 answers · asked by KeepSellorGive 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Generally I would say that you should keep a few items, if she still means that much to you, only talk it over calmly with your new wife about it, so you both know what each of your thoughts and feelings are on the matter.
If you genuinely feel it is time you can let go, instead of donating them or selling them, a good move would be to hand them to your late wife's family, I'm sure they would cherish them as much as you and your late wife did.
2007-05-11 20:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lief Tanner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have children from the first marriage? If so, pass it to them. If not, and you don't need the money, what about a friend of the late wife? However, the new wife kinda needs to get over herself, your first wife was as much a part of your life and your history as the new wife. So if you take comfort in these things, wife number 2 needs to get over it. Its not like you left number 1 and she is still around for you to talk to. I am sorry for your loss, I hope you find the answer you are looking for.
2007-05-11 20:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by MommaSchmitt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those Items you hold keep the part of your late wife in your memory. It would be best for your new wife to understand the reasons for why you keep those things, how they helped you, comforted you in your times of deep sorrow. Keep reminding your new wife that no matter what, ur all hers now, though you can't just close up a part of your life without talking about it. Otherwise it will grow and grow and end up effecting you emotionally.
2007-05-11 20:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by seanied2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your present wife would or should be happy that something in your dark days gave u comfort to the point at which time u met her.In any event if u have children or nieces etc.give the jewelery to them.another idea is to have the pieces made into something else that u or family can design.Having them remain in the family really should not be a threat to your present wife,i mean seriously what does she have to fear?finally,if u dont want them,then donate them to charity or sell them,as a last resort.good luck to u .
2007-05-11 20:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very delicate situation. She just can't expect you to forget her but maybe she is jealous that you think more of your dead wife than her. Possibly you could store the jewelry in a safe deposit box and view it occasionally. When and if you feel ready, then you can decide what to do with the jewelry. Meanwhile, if the new wife doesn't see the jewelry lying around, she may feel more secure. It is often times hard to live up to a dead person's memory.
2007-05-11 20:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by kriend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't your wife want to know?? It isn't like you can ever run back to the woman. She passed away, you shared a life together, I would keep them in a safe place, when the timeis right pass it on to your children if you have any.If you don't have children leave them to someone in your family that your former wife was close with. Things that have sentimental value, should not be tossed away just because your spouse doesn't like it....she needs to be more understanding.
2007-05-11 23:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with having your first wife's jewelry around to comfort you -- she was a part of your life and a part of making you the person that new wife fell in love with.
If it's a real problem, then stick them in a safe-deposit box, with instructions in your will for their disposition. Or, if you have children from your previous marriage, give them to the child or children that you think would value them the most.
2007-05-11 21:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by Herb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put it in a keep sake box and keep it in a hiden spot. If new wife asks about it. just let her know that was a inportant part of your life for good or bad and you wish to keep / remember it.
Maybe if some is worth a lot and have little emotional value sell those items?
Hope all works out well and sorry to hear of your lose. But glad to hear you found a new love.
2007-05-11 20:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you and your late wife have any children? Daughters? Granddaughters? That jewelry could be given to them as part of their "inheritance". When my mom passed away several years ago, that's what my two sisters and I did, even though it was cotume jewelry, we divied it up amongst ourselves. If it's really valuable, you might want to get it appraised, adnt ehn decide what to do with it. Or, get it appraised, and give a piece or two to each girl, and then sell the rest. Your decision. Take care.
2007-05-11 20:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I am sorry for your loss. 2nd, Are you saying after 14 years of marriage to your 2nd wife you still miss her(1st wife)? You need to get closure on this. Can you pass the jewelry to the kids? This might sound crazy, but how about a meaningful ritual of letting go? Casting it in the ocean?....hope this helps to get closure and move on.
2007-05-11 20:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋