2007-05-11 16:45:10 · 27 answers · asked by Steven F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it means that she has love for you, or that you hold a very special place in her heart because you are her husband, but that she doesn't have that fiery, chemical, amazing, butterflies in her stomach, in love feeling for you anymore.. pretty much, it's probably over.. :( sorry..
2007-05-11 16:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term Love is ambiguous. Only she can give you what her definition of love is. After couples have been in relationships for a while you hit what I consider to be lull or stale periods. You know about each other the chemistry you first experienced is no longer exciting. I would recommend asking her why she feels this way and see if she's willing to make a plan to put the spark back in your life. Surprise her with a romantic dinner, flowers at work or something you know she'll really enjoy. Being in love takes work and it's never ending. Make sure she knows you understand this and are willing to do your part. The most frustrating thing for any partner is feel like the other person doesn't care. This happens when you get stuck in your day in day out normal lives and forget to add the romance. Most of all don't pressure the subject directly but ask her to help you establish new goals for your relationship. (ie. making time to date again, alone time at home, etc. ) If your clear about your desire to make things work she may feel differently if she knows this is honest effort from you.
2007-05-11 17:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by Orion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that she wants to love you but she's just not sure anymore. Maybe you've changed the way that you treat her!??! Sometimes you can love someone, just like you love your brother BECAUSE he's your brother. You may not agree with everything he does and if he wasn't your brother you might never even associate with him but because he's your brother you love him... you can't help it, after all, he's your brother. Same goes with you. She loves you because you are her husband, maybe because you are her children's father, or because you've known each other so long and she genuinely just cares about you, but on the other hand, she's not IN LOVE with you anymore. That simply means that she's not feeling the closeness that you once shared with each other. She don't think you really care about her anymore and it's really hard to care about someone that don't give a hoot about you. In your eyes, you may think that you are treating her like an angel or you've not changed the way that you are treating her, but in her eyes you have changed the way you treat her. Even if you are really treating her like you love her, she don't feel like it so instead of SAYING it, start showing it. Listen to her, I mean really listen to her. Don't just hear yadayadayada when she talks. Pay attention to what she is saying and actually give a ****. I'm sorry if I'm rambling but I'm just going by how I feel. I have said that same thing to my husband before. Be careful, you are REALLY pushing her away somehow. Even if you don't know how or why, you are and you need to find out how and why you are doing it. Good luck. It sounds like you really care about her asking this question on here so just let her know by your actions. I hope all goes well for you and your wife.
2007-05-11 17:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you don't excite her or turn her on anymore. It doesn't mean she necessarily wants a divorce though. Try changing a few things about yourself. Find a way to spice up your marriage. Consider taking a trip to some exotic romantic place. To renew your passion for each other. Try winning her desires back. Write her love letters, poems, sing romantic songs to her. Make regular dates with her, get dressed up , go out dancing,the symphony, Broadway shows . Do some fun things together. maybe she feels the marriage is in a rut. She wants to feel passion again. Make her feel special again, that you would marry her all over again.
Consider taking dance lessons together. Learn how to ride a motorcycle together. Or take motorcycle trips together.Put some fun back in your marriage.
Good Luck!
2007-05-11 16:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by MARK S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife told me that 6 months ago and I thought she was happy. Its a nice way to let you go and make her not feel guilt. My now exwife of 10 years had another love relationship waiting in the wings. Good luck and hand on for the ride its sure to be a bumpy one but in the end you will be fine.
2007-05-11 17:32:16 · answer #5 · answered by tyler d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that the butterflies in her stomach are no longer there. Maybe she is in a rut. I would make time to do something together like a date night or a surprise get a way vacation. Did you used to open her door and then quit through the years? I am sure she is missing the extra something that used to happen when you were dating.
2007-05-11 16:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by luvsreward 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like it sounds, you can love someone with out being in love (like your palms sweat) when your near or your heart starts racing when you see each other. My best friends husband told her that an I know what your feeling. But I'll tell you like I told her. There's someone out there that will love you more an will be better too you
2007-05-11 16:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by witcheywoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that she cares for you deeply, but she has no spark or passion for you in that way anymore. Try to spice things up a bit and go on dates and treat her really special to bring the passion and intense love back, if that is possible.
2007-05-11 16:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend that you sit with her, and ask her if both of you can work it out. ask her why she stop loving you, probably you did something or you didn't do something to keep this love alive or maybe is her who know!!. only by asking her. don't be afraid of the answer 'cause you just delaying it and you are suffering and probably she is too. so confront this situation soon as possible,while she still had feelings for you. 'cause she still care. if you still love her don't loose time. and good luck.
2007-05-11 17:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are married it is normal for couples to fall in and out of love. She still loves you so now is the time for you to add some spark back into your marriage. Just show her that you still love her.
2007-05-11 16:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by melinda d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it means she loves you like in a caring way, like in the way you love a family member or friend, but not "in love" means the passion and romantic feelings and all that jazz that a romantic relationship is built on are gone.
btw...You deserve someone who is in love with you.
2007-05-11 16:51:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋