We work together and love each other's company & we are both married to different people. The sex with my husband was good when we dated for about an year - since we got married its been about 3 years now, he has lost all interest in me, I have tried everything I possibly could do but it dint help - my guess-he got into h00kers when we away for 6mnths bfr marriage.
Now this guy at work is a sweetheart, I have known him for about a year now and we have been sort of flirting and fooling around. I like him very much but there is a big chance that if we sleep together I might want it more and might fall in love with him. Also, we have kissed and it was totally hot. I know if I have sex with him it is going to blow my mind!
Now as far as guilt is concerned, I dont feel too much of it now, but we have only kissed. Will the guilt suddenly strike if I have sex with him. I feel bad more about his wife than my husband. BTW, My husband is the only man I ever slept with so I am tempted to try.
2007-05-11 20:21:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No you should not sleep with him. You will feel so guilty and frustrated and wonder if you did everything you could to save your marriage. I know you want to. Sex is very appealing but you will regret it. Don't go any further. You went far enough. Don't believer all the b.s. about "I don't love him anymore" Talk to your husband. Ask him why he has no desire to have sex with you. Then ask him what does he expect you to do. Let him know you need him. You are HIS wife and He is your husband. Try to make it work. Honor yourself. Good Luck
2007-05-11 20:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Modern Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plz, unfaithfulness isn't anything to be proud of. Can you pick out just one person whose life has been transformed from good to better coz of unfaithfulness? The end result is always pain, guilt and frustration. some have even ended up committing suicide as a result of cheating.
Adultery is a sin and there's a consequence for it. May god have mercy on you.........its a temptation as you have rightly said and you must overcome it........at least, not by giving yourself in to it.
You complain of your husband's lack of interest in you, what about you? If you have an interest in your husband, you won't even think of cheating on him............beside, keep in mind that NOTHINGS MAKES A MAN HOTER THAN A HOT WOMAN.
Jesus loves you!
2007-05-12 03:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, only you can make that decision, for each person, they feel differently about how they can live with themselves after hurting someone. second, i say no, dont sleep with him YOU ARE MARRIED you took vows, these vows should always be sacred. I am 17 and even i know this. I have been cheated on twice and know how much it hurts, like a knife has been stuck in you and is being twisted around inside. third, if you think your husband is into hookers then he is cheating, if you think that is true how do you feel about that? If you do do this, if you sleep with this other guy who also is MARRIED and took SACRED VOWS, you will just be taking yourself down to your husbands level, be the better person, dont do it. but like i said only you can make that decision. No matter what i say to you you will make the dicision to sleep with him or not ot sleep with him on your own.
2007-05-12 03:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by sms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a ***** - don't steal another woman's man, don't cheat on your guy, otherwise your just going to create misery. Get a divorce like any moral person would if your marriage is going bad, and find some other guy who is single. Just because your marriage is in a sh!tter don't ruin the other woman's marriage to satisfy your own needs.
Yeah.. I'm not a girl, but this still pisses me off that you barely seem to feel any guilt. Keep your paws to yourself.
I'm so gettin' rated down for this...
2007-05-12 03:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by jorlwind 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to end it with your hubby before you carry on with this escapade. Your cheating even if you haven't slept with him you are involving yourself emotionally and that is even worse then just having sex with someone. It is termed an emotional affair I think the whole danger thing is getting you hot but really if your hubby has lost interest in you just get a divorce and this guy get's a ddivorce from his wife and then you guys can do what you want. For the time being though he and you are off-limits until you resolve your marriage issues!!!
2007-05-12 03:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't do it! Let me tell you something, you exchanged vows with a man and promised yourself to him. If you didn't want that than you shouldn't have gotten married.
You will have guilt and lets face it you could catch a disease or even get pregnant. Do you really want to do that to your husband?
You should talk to your husband about your feelings (of wanting to explore other sexual avenues) and see what he says. Maybe he'd be understanding since he's been your only partner. However, if not then you need to discuss separating before you move on to another relation
2007-05-12 03:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jenna 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Temptation and random decisions can cause you lifr long guilt. Good friendship can take turn towards more intimate relationship but being in one serious commintment and than trying to cheat ur partner is not a decent thing. If you are bored with your husband and you have tried all "i'm assuming" than take a divorce first. Otherwise it is not good to indulge in outside marriage relationship.
2007-05-12 03:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by Samer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for jumping in here I know you asked for girl help but let me offer you a man's pespective. Make a decision first. That decision being if your current relationship is over or not. If it is finish it off with paperwork and you are free to do as you please. If not, what you are suggesting will be difficult or impossible to recover from. Above all, do not do this while you are still married or intend to stay married. Make the decision on your current relationship before you jump ship on your current relations!
2007-05-12 03:31:34 · answer #8 · answered by David M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your husband has lost all interest in you and he even hired hookers, why don't you divorce him before you start anything with this other man? Do you just want a "safety net" in case it doesn't work out? Or maybe if you divorced your husband, this other guy suddenly probably wouldn't be so hot anymore, would he?
2007-05-12 03:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You strike me as a very cold hearted and selfish person, putting yourself before your husband as you are.
In my oppinion, you are the embodiment of all the stereotypes plaguing women today. There's more to a relationship than getting your rocks off. Close your damn legs and talk to your husband about your relationship problems. Your relationship obviously suffers from serious communication issues.
No you should not sleep with him.
2007-05-12 03:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by Steve M 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋