about a month ago my wife started cheating on me and we found out she is bi polar?

Question

she has been on her meds for 2 weeks now and even though she is living with a crackhead/new boyfreind im still holding out hope that she will come back to me has anyone else dealt with a cheatring bipolar b4 and if so what do i do?

Answer 1

A friend of mine has bipola & has told me of many stories whilest she was off on one of her 'benders' as she calls them. She mentions that at one stage in her life she would have meaningless sex with people because she had no forethought of consequences. She is on her meds now & is dealing really well.
She always went back to her life long partner, who, lucky for her, was understanding of her illness, however, her partner always keeps in the back of his mind that it may happen again.
Given the fact that your wife is living with a crackhead (assuming she isnt using herself) & continues to take her meds as needed, I am sure she will realise what she is doing & return to try make a mends.
Call a councillor service to help prepare yourself. Read up on the illness, there are tonnes of publications on bipola, all free over the net. Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

My best friend went through this with her husband. Are you sure there isn't an addiction issue as well? There was with him. It might take more than meds for bi-polar to get her head straight again. The sad thing is, she has to take these steps and want to be healthy. They are back together now and things have really evened out. It's working. Give her time to come around. If it doesn't look like she will, move on.

Answer 3

Never dealt with a cheater,but bi-polar. Run for the hills man. Run fast as you can. They will use that for an excuse everytime. Forget the meds as they could take 6mos. or more and not be the right one. Get out while you still have your sanity. Good luck.

Answer 4

Bi-polars can do all sorts of things, depending on what cycle they are in and there are many types of bi-polarity. My sister is bi-polar,
presented when I was 7, am now 53 and living at a geographic distance from her but still dealing with it remotely. They can lose
their savings, have affairs, mortgage houses, take on incredible debt. Is she really taking her medication (they often lie)--sad to say, I'm not sure you should remain a victim of this. Do you have
children? That might make a difference in your decision.

Answer 5

If she is extremely Bi-polar and is taking medicine then that could have been the reason. by potential of no longer taking the medicine she could have been experiencing a chemical in stability which became into making her do issues that she often wouldnt do. Its extremely your selection noone in this communicate board can say "definite pass returned to her" or "no kick her the cut back" its all approximately how plenty do you like her to forgive and pass on. The believe will in no way restoration itslf till you desire it to. There has have been given to be a willingness on the two ends to make it paintings. I say dont get returned together precise away supply it a while the therapeutic technique takes time particularly if there is harm nevertheless there. supply her a raffle to get returned on meds and function her physique technique the meds then paintings on your relationship. Take this time to enable her decide if what she did is extremely cuz of the lack of ability of meds or in basic terms something that she had to do additionally take this time to locate yourslf and spot if your prepared to forgive and pass on. sturdy success!!!!

Answer 6

Time to let her go it sounds like to me. Once the trust in the relationship is gone the relationship is gone. holding out hope does not allow you to get over the hurt. Let it go and move on. My basic philosophy is straight and simple. I am with someone until they do not want me no more then I am gone. I have been married for 14 years and me or my wife have never cheated on each other. So just let her go and you will be happier in the end.

Answer 7

I don't think being bipolar has anything to do with it. Being bipolar is just a scientific way of saying she's moody. Cheating is cheating. Being bipolar doesn't mean she doesn't know right from wrong. Try to get over her. You are better off without her in the long run.

Answer 8

there are loads of resources about bipolar disorder on line. you can do a websearch, and you will come up with a lot of URL's.

one of the major problems with us bipolars is drug and alcohol abuse -- it's called "self medication" and it doesn't do anything but make things worse... however, it's a temporary fix sometimes.

people with bipolar disorder do have mood swings, and sometimes do things out of impulse and without thinking of the people who love and care for them.

all bipolars do not cheat -- we have brains, and can use them... we know the difference between right and wrong.

your wife needs continuing therapy as well as medications.

bipolar disorder is manageable, for those who are willing to accept help and who are WILLING TO WORK on themselves... if a person is resistant to change or help, therapy won't work one little bit.

just like the rest of the world.. no one changes things or improves their lives without working toward the same.

take care...

Answer 9

i have bi polar, and when we read that my bf asked me, you would never do that to me would you , and i started to say, she cant really blame that on being bi-polar, but then again, people with bi-polar can be VERY impulsive and not see anything wrong with some of the things they do no matter how bad t is hurting the people they love. i never cheated on my bf because of it, but as a teenager i made LOTS of bad choices, and hurt my family a lot, and not even knowing it i hurt myself, some of the bad choices i made back then still affect my life today. its hard to say if she'll ever come around and realizee whats right or wrong. chances are good if she is living with a guy like that and is influenced by him, shes not even taking her medication, but using illegal drugs which hit ppl with bi=polar even harder. if shes your wife and you love her and you really want to be with her, stick it out for awhile, show her you love her and you want to help her and evetually shell see what shes missing out on. there isnt to much more you can do for her, you sound like your very concerned. thats a tough one

Answer 10

Its going to take more than two weeks on her meds to get her balanced...Also finding the right dose and type takes time...Do what in your heart feels right for you...I know someone who is bipolar and i have seen the madness...If you feel strong enough to handle someone like this, some cant and its understandable, just do what feels right to you...